I am pregnant and I cannot please my husband in the bedroom and so I have given him "permission" to talk to and have a relationship with other women. I have even set up a profile for him on fling.com (sexysouthernguy). The only thing I ask is that he is open with me about it. He works with a girl that I swear has the hots for him. They have exchanged #s and she asks him all the time if he has plans but they have never planned anything. I think that neither of them can get up the courage.
Do you think I am doing the wrong thing? Or am I just being a considerate loving wife?
2007-11-12 04:50:07 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No. You are being a freaking idiot.
Good luck to you when he runs away from your stretched marked self for some young hottie in his office.....
2007-11-12 04:54:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 10⤊ 0⤋
Considerate?? Loving??? You are twisted! Your thought process is all screwed up.
Do you think that you two are the first couple to have a baby?? Do you think that ALL men NEED sex from their pregnant wife??? Has he told you he wants to have sex with other women? OR, are you the one thinking that sex is the cure-all, end-all, everything a man ever needs??
What is up with you!???!
NO, he does not NEED sex. NO, he will not suffer one bit without sex. And YES, your marraige will suffer if he has sex with another woman.
It's not that complicated, really. You've got some issues...
Listen, you are about to experience perhaps the strongest positive emotions you will ever have in your life when you deliver this baby. Your husband and you are about to embark on the most serious, challenging and rewarding experinece of your lives in raising this child. If he were to have sex with another women it would ruin it for him. If you a part of it, it will ruin it all for both of you. Your marraige is at risk, and as a rsult, your child's life will be less than it could be.
See a preacher, priest, minister, rabbi, counsellor, see SOMEBODY who can talk some sense into you.
Good luck,
2007-11-12 05:11:20 · answer #2 · answered by JustAskin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this is very wrong and dangerous. Of course, if you're really, seriously, not bothered by it, then whatever. But you're opening the door for your husband to establish a relationship with someone else. I hate saying this, but prostitutes might be better. He's not going be having sexy flirting exchanges with them, and they'll just have sex, not a real relationship that could lead him to develop feelings for someone else.
Also, pregnancy doesn't last forever, why take such a drastic measure? Can't he wait for a couple of months? And, why are you not feeling sexual? That's something to think about too.
2007-11-12 04:56:20 · answer #3 · answered by cindy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ARE YOU NUTS?
It takes 2 to make a kid, & if he can't keep it in his pants until after the baby is born then he has a real problem. Do you
want him bring home an STD & giving it to you?
Have you tried different positions? try laying on your side it makes it easier for entry.
To me I think this is his excuse so he can go out & get some, you 2 are married, would he care if you went out & got another man that can please you while your pregnant? I bet not at all. Don't be his fool.
2007-11-12 04:57:54 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't know you and your husband...but if your love is strong enough it will survive. Seems a little extreme to send your husband off to other women for 9 months. There are other ways of being sexually pleasing that don't involve intercourse. But if you've guys exhausted all other possibilities, and you both stay open about it, it could work.
2007-11-12 04:58:13 · answer #5 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ummmm... wow. Encouraging your husband to have sex with another woman seems like a disaster waiting to happen, dear. Just because you're pregnant doesn't mean you can't still please him, or that he shouldn't still want you. I've heard from plenty of women that the further along they are in their pregnancies, the more sexually aroused they tend to feel. And every doctor that I've heard has said that sex doesn't interfere with pregnancy... maybe you should be your husband's sexual outlet... and not some other woman.
2007-11-12 05:01:42 · answer #6 · answered by Milton a.k.a. the building pyro 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are pregnant with his baby! The fact that he is so concerned about his sex life and not you and his child is revolting! If he was any kind of man, he would laugh off your very misguided offer and reassure you every day of his loyalty and his love!! He has already exchanged numbers with a girl in his office? You better sit down and tell him you made a very stupid suggestion and take it back....or your marriage is dead!
2007-11-12 04:56:15 · answer #7 · answered by HENRY M 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
NEVER! when you married him you made a commitment to yourselves and God. ya all need to find new ways to spice up your love life. you need to tell that girl to back off. if you love your husband you will keep him... do what ever it takes so that he will not go some where else. if you think that it is okay for your husband to sleep around then why did you marry him. Honey i suggest that you pray and work it out. don't let him go astray.
2007-11-12 05:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by DEEDDLE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometime people don't think about what they are asking for,and just do it,just like signing a contact and don't read the fine print. He the took the vows just like you did, and I think that this is a disgrace to your marriage and in time you will be divorced.
2007-11-12 05:33:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did getting pregnant , fullfill all you wanted from this (Husband)??? And now your going to give him enough rope to hang himself so you can dump him.?? Either that or your brain is not functioning... considerate?? more like you joined the idiot of the year club,
2007-11-12 04:58:18 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this a joke? Why would you voluntarily send your man into the arms of another woman?? What if he falls for her, ditches you with your new baby who is left to be without their father......
A man (should) understand that there are circumstances beyond his control - regardless of you not being able to please him right now, that will change at some point. Give the guy some credit.
2007-11-12 04:55:35 · answer #11 · answered by Brownie 5 · 5⤊ 0⤋