Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2007

This friend of mine who is married with kids was telling me his situation and had doubts about his masculinity. I mean don't get me wrong he is a rugged guy and all but sort of having doubts in his marriage and was less interested in sex with his wife. But he likes hanging out with his buddies more often each day and finds comfort in being with them. Could he be on the path to being gay?

2007-11-15 23:19:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married for nearly 7 years now. We are both in our late 20's and we have 3 little girls, one whome I've adopted from her previous marraige. We work separate shifts so there is no need for the kids to go to day-care. Here's the issues. The little time we spend together usually involves arguing about who did or didn't do something during the week. She has little respect for my feelings or the things I do to try to please her. I do all the cooking since she can't cook, when I dicipline the kids she undermines me in front of them, saying I'm too hard on them and lets them off the hook. I joined her faith of religeon and quit smoking and drinking a year ago. She's not sexually interrested in me any more. It's a once a month deal and it's more of a hastle on her end. Because of this all, my feelings for her have dulled. I'm not ugly by any means and she fears I'm going to leave her for another girl when there is no other girl. Do we try counciling?

2007-11-15 22:25:07 · 15 answers · asked by LithoMan 1

If you could go back in time, on the wedding day and warn yourself about certain things in marriage what would you say to yourself?

2007-11-15 22:14:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

weve been dating almost 2 and a half years. he brought up marriage in the past and i said no i felt too young. he isnt pressuring me to do anything.but lately i have been kinda wishing i can marry him. i kno its a big responsibility and all. im ok with that i have experience..im # 8 of 9 kids and have 17 neices and nephews. but the thing is i kinda want someone in my grade or someone i kno my age to get engaged first like i dont wanna be the first one bc i feel like its young and im uncomfortable...do you understand or think its weird... i want your opinions. thanks

2007-11-15 22:10:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, so I've been married for 11 years now. Since year 2, I've been begging for attention, asking for help, trying to make him see I'm here for more than laundry, homemaking and (now) childrearing. He's a good man, but never taken any interest in any project I've tried, and the last time I told him we had problems and I needed to at least have more than a word with him, because someone else had become interested and I shouldn't be looking forward to that attention, he shrugged me off completely. Rejected more than too many times both sexually and emotionally, I eventually told him I want out. NOW he tells me we can work it out, and will NOT accept a divorce. I want to move on, but see my child happy with his father and it tears me up to walk away, yet staying makes me feel like I am loosing my mind. I would be happy if he had someone else. I really would. So what now?

2007-11-15 21:35:47 · 11 answers · asked by buttermilkrusk 1

I'm 16 and planning to get married next febuary. I'm very mature for my age and have been living with my future husband for the past 6 months. We are very deep in love and very independant. both his and my parents aprove of it. Does any one think 16 is too young no matter what the circumstances or have any advise for me? I'm nervous, but in a happy/good way. well, excited.

2007-11-15 21:33:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

i been married for 3 years but me and my wife seperated shes in arizona and im in oregon we talking on getting back togethere and then 3 days latter she changes her mine what should i do ?

2007-11-15 21:16:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

Who are the players in a HUF?
A HUF consists of: Karta
The karta has to be the oldest male in the family. If he passes away, his wife cannot become the karta. His eldest son will take his place. If he chooses not to, he can give up his right and the next son in line can take his place. But If Eldest Son Neither wants to give up right Nor he wants to sign any paper, in that situation what to do ?

2007-11-15 21:15:54 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi, my wife is extremely selfish and it's beginning to bother me. We've been together for over 5 years and I can't remember when I first noticed it, but it'd been like this now for ages. She'll do what she wants, and watch what she wants, eat what she wants. If I ask whether we can do something that I like she either flatly refuses or sulks (for days) until I feel so bad that I back down. She even does it with our daughter, once flatly refusing to go out for the day because she didn't like the idea of where we were going - even though our daughter was giddy with excitement. I've spoken to her about it and she sees that it's not helpful, but can't understand what's wrong and thinks she should be entitled to do whatever she wants. We've talked about it, much of it has been due to her upbringing and that she's been raised to believe if she does something that a man wants she is 'weak', even if it's something like watching a movie together... I'm lost as to what to do, I love her.

2007-11-15 20:41:42 · 17 answers · asked by FourEyes 1

i couldn't understand until she told me her boys dad wanted to get back with her and she had been confused. Now she says she wants to concentrate on "us" and make the best of it. I feel like I was 2nd fiddle. Please tell me what you think

2007-11-15 19:51:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

If you marry a pretty woman and she has to have a caesarean to give birth to your child. How do you stay attracted to her despite the nasty scar with overhang on her stomach. She lost all the weight but has an unsightly scar with loose skin just above the incision. I can't maintain an erection when I look at her. I love her, but her body is so unappealing to me now. What can I do?

2007-11-15 19:48:21 · 21 answers · asked by . 1

Give me your age and sex so I can compare. I am 71, health ,not to bad. I have to work (decorator) as I am skint and can't live on my pension. I smoke but don't drink. am married and just my wife and I live at home. I rent my flat (private) and I live in Bromley Kent. Life is not to bad. How is yours?

2007-11-15 19:46:13 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

i know it sounds bad but i am dating a man who is married.for the past few days his wife has done nothing but harras the hell out of me,at first i denied that i was her husbands girlfriend but then i just told her the truth,we first saw each other at a party,she found out about e because at the party he kept staring at me,he and i had talked a bit at this party,so i kept the conversation short with him.as i got up to go to the bathroom, the wife was in the bathroom 1minute later,while i was washing my hands she kept staring at me, i was powdering my nose, she tried to pretend she wasnt staring but she was fixated on me,when i left the bathroom she left and at the party she kept walking by me.after her calling me so many times ,she told me she wants 2 talk in person.i agreed .but the only thing she saying saying is what is it that her husband likes so much about me,she always wants 2 c me now.what does she want,why is she so fixated on me.

2007-11-15 19:43:37 · 18 answers · asked by kim27 2

Ok so a very LARGE majority of marital problems revolve around money. Well my husband seems to think that even tho i am 5.5 months pregnant i should get a job to pay bills(he works nights and we have a toddler home all day still). His needs always come before the 'family" needs, like if he needs new shoes or workboots they come first before a bill or groceries.I don't have a problem getting a job i just don't know of any company that will hire a woman who is almost 6 months pregnant.
Its like a never ending battle with my husband everytime i tell him i need "x" amount of money for a bill he freaks out and says no, and the other thing that pisses me off is we have a joint account yet i am NOT allowed to touch "his" money.
I just feel like he is trying to control and manipulate me, he has already got me completely dependant on him, before we met i had a job and was doing fine and now........
We fight nearly everyday i hate it, is it time for divorce?

2007-11-15 19:38:10 · 12 answers · asked by Wishmaster 6

my bf is 24 n me 21 i m pursuing my PG n my bf is doing business .he is a muslim n i m hindu his family n my family doesn't know abt ur affair his parents is planning for his marraige n i m just 21 n stdying , first i want to finish my stdying n then can decide abt my marraige and other things but i love him so much right now he is going to see a girl for marraige (he already reject 3 girls earlier ) he loves me more than i love him but said i donn't wanna to force u do as wht u want ,do wht makes u happy . when i tell him that if we get married n my parents doesn't convience then the whole life i cann't face them ,he said if my parents didn't convience then we will live seprately ..................i really donn't know wht to do plz help me

2007-11-15 19:31:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-15 19:09:15 · 23 answers · asked by freespirit 3

When do you lose desire to have sex? My husband no longer wants to, so how do I join him?

2007-11-15 18:53:22 · 14 answers · asked by beffie 3

Let's say it's 2 or 3 in the morning and it's a work night. I am just curious as to how many people would get mad.

2007-11-15 18:43:23 · 45 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

2007-11-15 18:32:20 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do u give some money allowance 2 ur in law? Why?

2007-11-15 18:22:49 · 14 answers · asked by da da 1

sorry to say but she is a high mantinence wife i have 2 jobs and it dosn't seem enough for her and to make this worse we have trouble to get her pregnant now she looks at me as a sperm donator and thats it.

2007-11-15 18:19:28 · 22 answers · asked by tribeplanet 1

My friend is a muslim girl(shahira) ....she is getting married to a muslim guy who is already got married.His name is ibrahim.He want to marry shahira as a second wife.Is it compulsory for him to get a acceptance for second marriage from his first wife.Is my friend shahira marriage is legally valid.what are the procedure she need to take to make her marriage as a valid one.

2007-11-15 18:12:44 · 9 answers · asked by senthil k 1

Hi all I am prity here. I am having one huge problem that is taking up all warmness and color out of my life.

I am divorcee from my husband because due to emotional blackmails from his family side, it was very much bad so in those days I came to know one lady friend who also divorcee, she got thru her problem and that with two kids so she initially reached out to me giving support and phone calls and all when I was suicidal and in misery.So we become fast friends and at some point I feel she is saving my life. She has got married and that with two kids from previous marriage so I felt some hopes for myself.

These days I am spending lot of time in her house, and I slowly slowly came to see what a great guy her husband is. He is very emotional with her and attached, loving guy that I haven't seen in long time, and brave coz he fought with his parents to marry her even tho she is divorcee, and very much emotionally attached wtih her kids like they are his own. They only been togehter some two years. Now I am looking at him in whole new light to see, what kind of great guy does all these? And they had only one child together so he is supporting four people and buying his wife expensive gift like ipod, HP notebook, new cell phone, ect. Treating her so good! It's making me want him and althogh initially he was not attractive to me but now I find him irrisistable.

She calls me over for dinner and lot of things I notice- 1. she cannot keep totally clean house as she suffers from some illness related to her pregnancy 2. she is very much overweight and fat - yet he still seems to show much affectionated for her. I don't know why.

I know I am hiding this feeling in my heart but I cannot resist much longer. I don't want to get hurt in any way. Sometimes I think, if he is such a good guy he can accept this lady and her kids then he can surely accept me and I with no kids even! And I keep such clean house and have great figure too. So maybe deep deep in his mind he is ready to go for better relationship, ie with me. I lay awake at nights thinking on this, that how can I approach him, what should I say? I am sure if he compares me with his wife he will find me much better and more suitable. All the color is come out of my life since I got to know what a great guy he is. Now I feel direct need to approach him and show him how I feel. Can I please get some advice, how to fix this problem? What can I say to him, I don't want to look bad but I must step up as his wife is very much overweight and I am sure we are much better match than that. What words can I use?

2007-11-15 17:47:50 · 19 answers · asked by Krazinski 1

We are having some issues, and while I would like to sit down and hash things out, my husband would rather bury the issues. Or, if I can get him to talk, the conversation usually doesn't last more than 5 or 10 minutes, then he starts getting "frustrated" and wants to bail. When he gets to that point, its not even worth it to continue the conversation because it will likely go from talking to yelling, and then nothing is resolved. How do I get him to talk things out without it turning into a huge argument? We have been together 8 years, and this has been a constant thing. I am out of ideas, and feel like I have tried everythng!

2007-11-15 17:33:27 · 18 answers · asked by theMrs. 4

2007-11-15 17:19:09 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-15 17:02:19 · 15 answers · asked by Wolf woman 2

my wife goes onto a website called worlds biggest chat on yahoo to make new friends to talk to.. . i use this site too, for the same reason.
Every time she goes on there, lots of guys flirt with her and ask her to meet up for sex n other things. . even though they read her profile and know she is married.
some of them have even offered so much that she has agreed to their requests but up until now, she has never met any of them to carry this out.
the problem is that my wife is and always has been easily lead.
i dont want to stop her from using this site because she only wants to make new friends but i'm not sure what to actually do about this.
when i confront her about agreeing to some of these guys demands, she says she was only winding them up because they shouldnt be asking her for that but i'm not so sure because she has had affairs before.
i love my wife and dont want to lose her. . any advice would be greatly appreciated.

2007-11-15 16:59:17 · 25 answers · asked by heart of ice 2

when an inscident happend several years ago and b/f still talks about it to make you feel guilty what do you do? how do you react?

2007-11-15 16:55:35 · 25 answers · asked by ZAMANY 1

2007-11-15 16:47:24 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and my husband always seem to be very busy. He is a firefighter, so he rarely gets to enjoy a night with just me. I want to make tomorrow night very sweet & romantic just to let him know how much i love him. I want to stay at home all night (no going out to dinner, movies, not that kind of stuff)
any ideas?

2007-11-15 16:30:39 · 9 answers · asked by Siberian_Husky Lover 3