Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2007

My sister-in-law had an affair behind my brother-in-law's back (bro-in-law is my husbands brother) and now he and our whole family knows. They've filed for divorce and have no plans to reconcile.
They haven't told their kids yet so she keeps coming to family gatherings.
Do I have to go through the holidays dealing with her, when I can't even look at her, or do I have the right to tell her how I feel; that she should've told her kids she was staying home with a headache? It's totally uncomfortable and is not fair to any of us to have to walk on eggshells while she acts like nothing is going on.

2007-11-15 08:32:06 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

I want my husband to be more affec. and to keep marrige fresh

2007-11-15 08:30:05 · 10 answers · asked by snowball 74 2474 ssbbcc91397cats 1

I am 19 and my boyfirend is 22. We have been together for almost 4 years now. How long should we wait. My sister and her fiance were together off and on for 5 and got marrierd at 20. WE havent had any serious problesm like them, just usual things, but now i wonder if we should wait to get married a little longer.

2007-11-15 08:26:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

I recently divorced my husband. He hadn't been able to hold down a job for any length of time in several year.

I still care for him (he's a very nice guy), and we seperated on good terms.

Anyway, the job he currently has (at least he's working) doesn't have good health insurance. When we were married I helped pay for most of his medication, including Viagra. He isn't able to maintain an erection, for sex, without it. He's asked me if I could continue to pay for his Viagra for awhile, because he needs all the money he's making now just to pay his rent (this is true..I made sure). On one hand, I don't mind helping him out (i've got a real good job, so it's not that much of a financial burden for me), but, on the other hand, I'm wondering why I should pay for his Viagra, if some other women are going to get all the benefits.

Would it be wrong of me to ask him for sex twice a month in return, as compensation??

Should I not help him at all??

Comments??

2007-11-15 08:20:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

How many of here have have had a divorce and how many times?

2007-11-15 08:16:49 · 27 answers · asked by Zed 6

i am, have a good evening or day what ever the case may be nite nite X X X

2007-11-15 08:01:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

i have been married for 71/2 yrs and i put my wife through hell. i was told by 3 different doctors i have inattentive ADHD & anger problems also panic attacks. i really don't remember all the bad things i did. i'm on meds now & i treat her like a queen. someone please HELP.

2007-11-15 07:58:24 · 7 answers · asked by jamez1124 1

I know he likes me to wear them, but is this acceptable / normal?

2007-11-15 07:54:55 · 34 answers · asked by Bailey 1

I want to marry my fiance' of two years, but as of now, it would have to be a courthouse wedding. I want to have a real wedding, and am afraid of what my family will think of me for having a courthouse wedding. I don't know what to do.

2007-11-15 07:48:54 · 30 answers · asked by I'll tell it like it is 5

I have tried to talk to mine about a problem that reoccurrs in our lives. It bothers me, but it doesn't bother him. It bothers me to the point sometimes that I can't sleep and I really get upset...I don't let him see me cry about it though. I did one time. It isn't porn or anything like that it just involves a person who does things to hurt me that is in his life and I wish they weren't. He doesn't seem to understand the magnatude of this problem. I am not a sissy or overly sensitive in my life, it is just this one thing....and I don't know what to do about it. How can I not only get him to hear me, but feel me was well on this one? I am at a huge loss. Please help.

2007-11-15 07:44:14 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I wanted to run something buy you guys. My wife moved out on me a few days ago. We came up with a plan that I am not too sure is fair...if you have any suggestions let me know. Keep in mind, the goal here is to make the visitation between the both of us EXACTLY equal. Every Monday from 9am to Wednesdays at 6pm our two boys with be with their mom. From Wednesdays at 6pm to Saturday morning at 9am our boys will be with me (dad). We alternate every other weekend but she wants my weekends cut short stopping at 6pm on Sunday night, however her weekends are Saturday morning to Monday morning. No child support to be paid by anyone, and she agreed that I (dad) would be designated as the custodial parent. I need some suggestions A) Can I gain sole custody of my boys...she basically ignores the fact that she agrees that I should/will be their custodial parent. B) Any divorced folks out there have any parenting plans that work for you all. Any suggestions would be wonderful. Thanks a lot all!!

2007-11-15 07:43:15 · 16 answers · asked by Jamie 1

2007-11-15 07:40:22 · 16 answers · asked by tsexxxy 1

Married forever. I have been good for soooooooo long (years) and then I slipped up and slept with someone else... (sure he was gorgeous and it was the very best sex I have ever had (seven times) and now he's sleeping with someone else. And I feel as used as I should feel even tho it was just a fwb situation. So go ahead... please yell at me cuz I was lonely, neglected, and had an anemic sex life. I just wanted to know what it felt like to lay with someone else... ( I was married at 18) and frankly... it was too great and I would do it again if he would just summon me... but I feel like such a loser cuz it didn't even last seven weeks and all that so call me names cuz that's the way you all are in this great community... I know that. It's just where do I go from here? Hell? Divorce? Suicide?

2007-11-15 07:36:11 · 81 answers · asked by Anonymous

i had a verizon cell phone and i had a two yr contract with them,...my husband added me on to his account..
anyways i lost it today and the first thing i am going to do it is deactivate it..
now my mother-in-law uses verizon too...she has this old phone that she doesn't use but uses a new phone...
if i take her old phone will verizon people transfer my plant on it?
do i have to pay anything then?
i am so scared!!!!!!!!!!11111

2007-11-15 07:30:18 · 15 answers · asked by Just another gal 3

My ex at college had my tire repair kit (I depend on my bike to get around campus.) We don't talk anymore, and he avoids me whenever he sees me. Go figure.
Recently my tires blew out, so I sent him an email asking for it back. He didn't respond for three days, so I texted him. Minutes later, the bike kit is hanging from my doorknob.
The kit is completely empty.
When I bought it, it had at least eight patches, sandpaper, and some other tools. I am an extremely broke college student with no transportation and really can't afford to buy another tire repair kit, so I'm a little miffed.
When I confronted him about it, he claimed that he left it outside his door a few days ago for me to pick up, then dropped it off the way that he found it. One, he never told me that he had left it anywhere, let alone outside his door (why would I go to his door?). Two, if someone had stolen anything, why wouldn't they take the entire kit rather than the stuff in it?
What do I do about this?

2007-11-15 07:29:32 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

I guess I'm pretty stupid too. My husband tries to hide/erase emails that he sends his friends that are girls. JUST FRIENDS. I know that they are just friends, but why does he feel the need to hide it from me? He knows that I check his mail. I don't understand what is going on in his head right now. I KNOW that they are just friends, so why would he have to hide that he is talking to HER. I read the email before he erased it. It went like "hey buddy." She wrote back something about running 2 miles. ...it was all small talk. But he feels the need to make me feel that he doesn't talk to her. WHY? I guess I should say that we fought over it before. I accused him of liking her (I jumped the gun too soon before I thought). But when he does things like this it makes me wonder why he would hide it. Does he feel guilty? Should I bring it up? I want to let this go before he gets home. I am p*ssed and trying to calm down.

2007-11-15 07:29:05 · 26 answers · asked by sunnysideup 4

we TALK about 2weeks ago n she s not ready for anything so she suggested that we be friends i became alittle distance so she made first contact by emailing me n i responded she made the first phone call, she ask me if i wanted to hang out but i couldnt this was fri then on monday i text to say hi she ask where was i i told her i was working out she wanted to hang out so i text her back lets meet up sometime this week so the next day she emails me askin when do i want to meet up so i told her wednesday so we met up it was weird cuz this is first time we are meeting as friends so we hung out we ate n talk for 3 hrs it was nice but awkward but overal it was nice hangin out with her i could tell she put up walls little by little she brought them down so when we were leaving i hug her n told her it was nice seeing u so we departed when i got home she text me thanks again it was nice seeing u
so i email her this morning n she didnt responded what do u think about this what should i do

2007-11-15 07:22:18 · 10 answers · asked by simple J 4

You don't want alimony? You turned down Alimony? What an idiot!

I'll be damned. If I put him through graduate school, recruited and entertained his clients and supported him so that he can now have a million dollar a year business, I am not going to go to a $50K per year life style when my kids are with me. I live in the Northeast. $50K a year is nothing.

And I am not giving up my house that is near the school and everything else the children know.

It is a serious question? When did women get so stupid? I am not afraid to ask, like question earlier today.

Did you know that divorce makes men wealthier and women poorer?

There is no nobility in suffering, you know. And if a man were in my shoes, he deserves alimony as well.

2007-11-15 07:21:43 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

would you tell and how?

I just saw one of my friend's husband open mouth kiss another girl in the parking lot of where I work. This was NO chicken peck! She could not keep her hands off him. The worst part is ...this girl is her friend also.

2007-11-15 07:18:35 · 26 answers · asked by Stiletto ♥ 6

It is only in my name, but we bought it during our marriage. Now I have the car and the payment....does he have to help pay?

2007-11-15 07:06:13 · 12 answers · asked by dewgrl3 2

his wife about getting back together with her behind my friends back, he says it was for the kids. I say it wasn't and that he was still in love with her or he wouldn't have done that. He still has more than the normal amount of communication with his ex and it bothers my friend to the point that she doesn't care any more what the reason is and is moving out. She is sitting here with me and we have bet each other a massage at the day spa that 1. I say he is still in love with her but pride won't let him go back to her 2. She says it is because of the kids. He really bends over backwards to make the ex happy at my friends expense and gets mad at her when she brings it up. She is pretty much over him, so that is why the bet......

2007-11-15 07:00:13 · 15 answers · asked by Rein 5

with lot of culture differences but lot of love too

2007-11-15 06:58:16 · 21 answers · asked by dani 1

I've been dating this man for almost a year. I just recently found out that he's still married but he says he didn't tell me because he's in the middle of a divorce. But why is it taking so long? Should I wait for him? or should I just leave?

2007-11-15 06:55:13 · 103 answers · asked by NavyMomma 1

My husband and I have had sexual problems for a long time. Or should I say I have had problems. I love my husband with all my heart, but when it comes to having sex... I want to until it comes down to it then its like everything just disappears. He is wonderful at everything he does and he keeps saying its not me. We MIGHT be able to have sex once or twice a month.I am worried that I am driving him away. And that if I dont get out of whatever I am going through he will find someone else. We have been married for 20 years.

2007-11-15 06:53:45 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife gets offended that I masterbate occassionally. She rarley wants sex, maybe once or twice a month. Rather than constantly bug her for it, I take care of myself. She feels she should be enough, and I might have a sexual addiction. She says all married women rarely give it to their men, especially after having kids.

2007-11-15 06:40:31 · 28 answers · asked by ? 4

I left my husband in January because he is an alcoholic and he was taking the bottle over me and our two daughters. I couldn't take it anymore. I had lived that life for 6 years and I couldn't do it to my kids anymore. I chose to leave so he could get better but instead he found another girl that is having his baby and he is still drinking. I am 27 and I don't have any kind of education. I want so badly to give my girls a good,healthy life but I feel so down because I am living at home with my parents. I can't do anything on my own and I feel like a loser. I need to go back to school but I don't see myself being on my own feet for a while. Should I feel this way or should I just accept it? Will my daughters look down on me because I wasn't able to buy them a home when they were younger? I just worry about how they are going to look at me when they get older. Thanks for your advice!!

2007-11-15 06:37:36 · 27 answers · asked by lvbrdy4vr 1

my husband has phobia in giving flowers because of the past incident he had with his ex-gf. I really want to receive flowers everyday, specially during our special days. I asked him to do that favor for me, but he just can't co'z he's afraid that the experience might happen again, How can I help him with that? so basically he can give me flowers?

2007-11-15 06:34:33 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

i HAVE BEEN SEPARATED FROM MY HUSBAND FOR 3 YEARS. HE WAS ALWAYS VERY ABUSIVE, HE COMMITED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR 23 YEARS TO ME, HE HAS BEEN HARRASING ME CALLING ME TRYING TO SCARED ME SO I CAN SIGN THE PENSION PLAN PAPER, BECAUSE HE WANTS TO COLLECT ALL FOR HIS SELF IN A LUMP SUM. HE SAID HE RATER SEE ME DEATH, THAN GIVING ME ANY MONEY, I DO NOT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT PENSION PLANS, I DONT EVEN HAVE AN IDEA OF HOW MUCH MONEY HE IS TALKING ABOUT. HE HAS BEEN TRYING TO FORGE MY SIGNATURE, HE WORKS FOR 28 YEARS AND HE GOT FIRE FOR BEEN DRUNK ON HIS JOB. hE ALSO REFUSES TO PAY ME CHILD SUPPORT. CAN SOMEONE HELP ME!!!!HE IS VERY PARANOID NOW, AND HE IS SO ANGRY BECAUSE HE CAN NOT GET THAT MONEY WITH OUT MY SIGNATURE. adrianaflornomas@yahoo.com

2007-11-15 06:32:59 · 8 answers · asked by Adriana M 1

my husband and i have been married 9 months. i still have my friends that ive had since highschool (which are single and still kinda immature) and hubby has his friend (who is also younger and single) when we hang out with our friends (me with mine and him with his) our friends wanna go do "single" stuff and its pretty boring to me and my husband..so i figure maybe..we should just try to find friends who are married so we can hang out with our friends together. have you ever had that problem?

2007-11-15 06:22:51 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Its been more than 4 months of our marriage and I haven't been able to have a proper penetration. The problem is we dont wanna have kids. She cannot take tabs and I need to wear the condo*. But, I do not enjoy wearing and doing and sometimes it slips. So, I am scared that it might slip and am unable to do properly.

This is getting both me and my wife frustrated. Any solution to my problem ? We both want to enjoy but still want to avoid kids.

2007-11-15 06:16:31 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous