I'll just say it. WHEN DID WOMEN BECOME SO STUPID?

Question

You don't want alimony? You turned down Alimony? What an idiot!

I'll be damned. If I put him through graduate school, recruited and entertained his clients and supported him so that he can now have a million dollar a year business, I am not going to go to a $50K per year life style when my kids are with me. I live in the Northeast. $50K a year is nothing.

And I am not giving up my house that is near the school and everything else the children know.

It is a serious question? When did women get so stupid? I am not afraid to ask, like question earlier today.

Did you know that divorce makes men wealthier and women poorer?

There is no nobility in suffering, you know. And if a man were in my shoes, he deserves alimony as well.

Answer 1

Preach it sister!! That's why we are still together he knows i will rake him over the coals!!!

Answer 2

Well I agree with you however the women who turn down allimony I am sure have their reasons I mean some already have another man in mind and once you remarry most times you loose your alimony anyway. So we can't really say they are stupid unless we know their reasoning for doing so. Also sometimes women do it just because they don't want fighting between them and their soon to be X they want the relationship to be good for the children's well being and to be honest Divorce only makes a man richer and a woman poorer if she doesn't set goals for herself many women have businesses of their own or good enough careers they don't feel they need the support of a man that no longer loves them.

Answer 3

Women get stupid when they decide to depend on a man for income. True, alot of women do come out of divorce poorer for that reason. That should be reason enough(although there are many more reasons) to CONTINUE to work throughout the relationship and focus on your own career, no matter how much he makes.
I chose not to recieve any kind of support from my ex spouse and it is very liberating. I KNOW I can earn my own income, and that house I now live in and car I drive, I paid for. Cut your losses, learn your lessons, and move on. That is much more important for children to see than seeing their mother living off alimony.
If you can't live off a $50k per year income, you need to re-adjust your spending habits or get a better job.

Answer 4

For a properly-knowledgeable and valuable female, your pal isn't using her perfect judgment by ability of staying with this guy. She has the alternative to call the police at the same time as her husband attacks her (sexually or otherwise). i'm positive she is well-known with this. Sexual abuse and kin violence are crimes punishable by ability of regulation... and it sounds like somewhat detention center time might want to be in basic terms what he needs! yet when she would not call the police, no human being else will. Her little ones might want to also be in probability. definite. i do not imagine she's stupid, i trust she thinks she's stuck. perchance she feels sorry for him? some human beings do experience sorry for others and could positioned up with something because they have some warped concept they are doing the right element. possibly he has threatened to harm or perhaps kill the youngsters if she leaves him? regardless of each and every thing you reported she changed into hospitalized very last time she tried to leave. i'm positive she sounds like a prisoner it really is difficult to inform what is going on behind closed doors. i'd be annoyed for my pal, and that i'd not comprehend the placement, both. yet i'd ought to settle for it and look after my own existence. in the intervening time, if i concept for one minute, that those childrens were in probability or being abused, i'd calll youngsters conserving amenities faster than you may want to blink a watch.

Answer 5

I think men and women have always been stupid. I don't see it as a new development! Divorce often makes men richer and women poorer, financially, but not always. More to the point, it usually makes women better off emotionally and men worse off. I think that is a greater issue. My parents have been apart for 10 years and he still isn't over it. So many men rely on their wives to negotiate relationships with their kids, that when the wife is no longer there to do that job, they lose out completely. They end up as miserable as sin because they're used to living life in order to support their family, and now they haven't got one and don't know what to do about it. Yeah, some will go off and buy sports cars, but most just get miserable because they miss their family and have no clue on how to regain any of it.

Answer 6

It's not a matter of being stupid, it's a matter of being self sufficient, and any woman who is able bodied with half a brain can go out and find work. I don't understand how so many women can feel good about themselves begging money from a man that wants nothing to do with you anymore.

Sure,your children are entitled to support from their father, but get a grip!

I was married for 15 years before I got divorced. I was entitled to half of my husbands pension, but I did not pursue it. I have been working and supporting myself since I got out of high school. I am far from financially comfortable, but I make my own money and never had to depend on someone else to foot my expenses.

In my opinion the woman who has no marketable skills and still brings children into the world is the stupid one.

Have some pride, get a job, and stop making the rest of us look bad.

Answer 7

Alimony is your way of saying I don't want to work. Now do you deserve a piece of the business yes. You do not deserve a piece of his paycheck.

50-50 of what you made while together, cause quiet frankly if you wouldn't have been there someone else would have been there and done the same thing, or he would have done it on his own and had paid someone to be there for the clients.

Take your half I agree, don't be a leech thought, that is wrong. Stand on your own two feet.

Answer 8

Wow! Who the hell turned down alimony?

I never would, never will...I used the first part of our marriage to help him climb the ladder at both of his jobs, then he decides that he can date AND be married at the same time because it's EASY to be single when traveling.

Hell NO! You go, girl, tell it like it is! I have 3 boys and I'm FAR from being NOBLE.

Answer 9

D'you know what ?

The guy who married a woman who was uanable to support herself alone kind of has it coming---he walked in to her life, a hero,saviour,what-have-you, took over and most likely asserted himself, dominating the woman who more or les admitted her weaknesses to him, and took "advantage of her" in several respects then discarded her for a newer model (trading in a 40 for 2 twenties) or for whatever reason.

Anyway this dominator perpetuated the lady's dependence even though she willingly abided his rule, and made her situatiion worse by keeping her out of the flux of society. So if he took on such a partner knowingly he ought to be prepared for the consequences.

This why I have always been attracted to strong more-or-less independent women.

Also may explain why I never got married too !

Answer 10

Divorce makes men wealthier and women poorer? Did not know that. Well depending on where you're at I guess. Certainly not in California.

Answer 11

If you have done this and worked toward the future together like you have, then alamony is warranted. If two people marry and divorce a couple of years later, in my opinion it isn't. It is not an area that I think that the woman always deserves it....in your case....with out a doubt.