If you knew your friend's husband was cheating on her ....?

Question

would you tell and how?

I just saw one of my friend's husband open mouth kiss another girl in the parking lot of where I work. This was NO chicken peck! She could not keep her hands off him. The worst part is ...this girl is her friend also.

Answer 1

Bonjour madam

its very sad, you hav eto tell her, otherwise your not her friend! i would do the same, its common sense, the way you do it:

set itup so shes find out ok!

send annonymous letter, or video message online or via mobile, its easy, of them doing it again, ok!

feel sad upon hearing this, now that it happend, but that lady is no lady that comes between her freind her hubby.

somone cheated on my sister, she broke his jaw with a kick, i have never cheted on my wife may she rest in peace now(passed away), its disguting!

so do let her know indrectly, and with 100% eveidence anonymously, excuse my english, bad spelling

aurevoir



very sad,

Answer 2

First: How close are you to this friend who's husband is cheating? If she is your best friend-tell her. If she is one of those friends you talk to every once in a while when you run into eachother or maybe you call and catch up once every couple months, i would be more hesitant to get involved.

Personally, I have learned over the years that women (even though I hate to admit it) usually have a hard time seeing the truth unless they are ready. I have been in this situation a few times and at first-I had a very firm rule-always tell. Now....not so much. I have told a couple different friends that their boyfriend/husband was cheating and I concrete proof, but they ended up getting mad at me and ending our friendship to side with their S.O. because they were not ready to see the truth yet. (By the way-both girls ended up seeing it in their own time are no longer with the *******, but we are still not friends again) You have to put yourself in her shoes....and be willing to lose her as a friend. I recommend that if you do tell her-have proof...a picture of the kiss or something...anything. Unfortunately though-she may not be ready to face it yet. Not only is she facing the possible/most likely demise of her marriage, but financial, emotional, and legal stresses as well. She may still look the other way, turn a deaf ear so to speak. Or-you also have to consider-she may already know and is already just "ignoring it and hoping no one else knows or that it will go away if not brought into the open." With you just telling your friend what you saw-her husband kissing/groping a girl in a parking lot-from a distance-first thing that she will wonder-"was it really him or just look like him from a distance?"

Since this was in front of your work....do you maybe know the girl that is the "other woman"? Maybe go up to her and ask her who that guy is..play dumb. That will get you the best answers right there. If you don't-consider maybe confronting the husband and telling him you saw him in this parking lot kissing another girl and ask him what the heck is going on? Either A) he will get so nervous/scared that he was caught and his wife will find out that he will stop, or B) he will continue but maybe be even more discreet...if that is the case----ultimatum him-tell him that if he doesn't tell your friend-you will.

If you go straight to your friend.....ask her how her and the hubby are doing..see if they are having any problems. If not-make sure you do have physical evidence. If they are having probs-it might be easier to break to her because she may already be suspecting it.

Good luck and sorry you got put in this situation...i know it is a tough one.

Answer 3

If I was your friend, I would want you to tell me. You know who the lady is, which makes it much easier, as I could determine for myself from there.

It would be a tricky conversation to have, but you must do it. Make sure you don't seem like you are throwing this in her face, approach it delicately. Tell her who the woman is so she can do further investigation of her own....

I would feel so betrayed and would end our friendship if I found out you did not tell me as soon as you knew.

Also, if I were you, I would have walked right up to them and said something! Maybe you could do a bit more spying, take pictures, etc. and get him really good?

Answer 4

If it were me I would want to know. However, one time I told my friend of 13 yrs that her boyfriend kissed another girl. I almost lost a friendship over it. What I would do it confront the other girl. Tell her that if she doesn't tell your friend - that you will. Plain & Simple. That way, you're not the "bad one"

Answer 5

She needs to know either way. If you can't do it face to face, send her an annoymous letter stating the specific facts. Let her make the husband come clean and admit it. Not telling her just makes her looks foolish and she will hate you if she ever finds out you knew, but failed to tell her.

Answer 6

Personally, I wouldn't. Who knows what goes on in the depths of a relationship. You may end up being applauded for your efforts by one of them but you will be loathed by the other. If my wife can't come up and tell me that she doesn't want me and is sleeping with someone else then that is her business to deal with. If someone came up and told me, I would take it as it was, but my next step would be to simply ask her. I just think it is best to let sleeping dogs lie and not get into anyone else's business even when they flaunt it that way. The choice is yours though. Good luck

Answer 7

I would definitly tell her because she NEEDS to know what is going on. If in the end she does find out on her own or from someone else and then finds out you knew and never told her that would ruin your relationship with her forever. Just tell her. Would you want to know if you were in her situation.

Answer 8

You will have to tell her. How you do it I'm not sure. You could mention that you saw the kiss but pretend you thought it was her. She can then deal with it if she wants, or go into denial until she is ready to deal with it.

Answer 9

I clued my best friend onto something....I wasn't even sure but something seemed amiss. I was 100% correct. Also with a mutual friend. I would burn a path getting to her house to tell her. I'd want the same treatment.

Answer 10

Your friend is this ho's friend? What kind of friendship is that?
Tell the wife! It's bad enough the your friend has a snake of a husband, but she also has a sneaky friend.