Its been more than 4 months of our marriage and I haven't been able to have a proper penetration. The problem is we dont wanna have kids. She cannot take tabs and I need to wear the condo*. But, I do not enjoy wearing and doing and sometimes it slips. So, I am scared that it might slip and am unable to do properly.
This is getting both me and my wife frustrated. Any solution to my problem ? We both want to enjoy but still want to avoid kids.
2007-11-15 06:16:31 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Use a different kind of birth control! Don't do some thing foolish like her getting her tubes tied or you having an operation. Some day you might decide to have children. :--#)
2007-11-15 06:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 4⤋
Why exactly doesn't she want to use the pill? Is she afraid she'll forget? Does she not like the side effects? There are other methods beyond taking a tablet. There is a patch (changed once a week), a shot (taken at the doctor's office every three months) and methods that don't use chemicals to prevent conception (inert IUDs, female condom and diaphragm). You could even do the rhythm method, but that is less effective.
You could also try using a spermicide along with the condom, so even if you have a bit of a slippage, the spermicide will kill any sperm that might have escaped. That will help ease your mind.
Seriously, this is only an issue because you're turning it into one. You have a lot of options, so do some research and find a method that's best for you.
There are lots of things to research at this link:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Comparison_of_birth_control_methods
Good luck!
2007-11-15 06:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She can't take pills. So what? There are other non-pill forms of birth control. The Depo-Provera shot. She gets a shot once every 3 months. IUDs. Some are designed to be left in for a year, 5 years or 10 years. She needs to see a doctor about getting birth control started.
But the biggest problem is you need to be having this discussion with your wife, not an internet site.
2007-11-15 06:22:02 · answer #3 · answered by Meghan 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't have a penetration problem you have a fear problem.Have her get foam contraceptive ( get the one that has NONOXADIL) Sorry I forget the exact name of the product( its been so long since ive used any. ha ha lol.) The above spelling is not exact . I sounded it out. Anyway the foam with nonoxadil works really great on sperm and the nonoxadil kills most germs and most viruses. Except the STD kind. So have her use the foam sometimes and you be a man a use the condom sometimes. Get TROJAN brand they dont slip.I dont recommend the contraceptives where a device has to be inserted inside the woman to remain, but that's just me. And if you didnt know,children are a gift from God.
2007-11-15 06:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by Angel G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
They are many birth control methods out there. There is the depo shot, female condom, spermicide, diaphragm, the birth control patch, and the Noro Plant( which is inserted in the arm and last 10 years or so) You have to be open minded about these things and try it. Like I say a relationship is 50% sex so if it doesnt work there there is going to be problems in the marraige. And hey if she doesnt want to try any of these try to get a vas·ec·to·my
2007-11-15 06:22:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Look into another form of Birth Control. Possibly the Nuva Ring which is put in the day after the last day of menstruation and left in for 21 days and then taken out for 7 and a new one goes in. Or if you don't want kids at all or a long term Birth Control check out the Mirena. It's a plastic peice that blocks the sperm from entering the uterus.
http://www.mirena.com
Hope this helps. :)
2007-11-15 06:21:02 · answer #6 · answered by His Wifeyy ♥ 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No birth control is 100% safe. If your condom is slipping, than you need to find a different brand or size. KY Jelly is a good lubricant that will make penetration easier and cause less friction to the condom.
2007-11-15 06:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by lizards 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
May want to have her checked by your doctor.. may be hymen with great tinsel strength.. if that is not the problem (she should have had this checked before marriage anyway), there is apparently insufficient lubrication.. perhaps you need to take much more time in foreplay to cause these secretions to become active. One other factor would involve the glands that secrete the lubricant. If they are not functional, you will have to apply an external type lubrication.
2016-04-04 02:54:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are a lot of other methods other then the pill. If a contraceptive is not a good option for you and you are both sure that neither one of you would like to have children, why don't one of you think about getting a surgical procedure done. That way, you don't have to wear a condom, and will relax you both more which in turn will make it more enjoyable.
2007-11-15 06:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If she can't take pills then she should get an IUD. It's a device that is implanted so that she will not get pregnant. There's one that will prevent pregnancy for 5 years and another for 10 years. Don't let the condom be the reason you guys aren't enjoying your intimacy.
2007-11-15 06:24:37 · answer #10 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Do not suggest the pill or patches or injections or anything that will change hormones. Birth Controll make women koo koo in the head like they have PMS all the time. Plus they are bad for her heart. Seriously, dealing w/ rubbers is a lot easier. Try different brands. Go to a sex shop with her and just try a bunch. It'll be fun.
2007-11-15 06:24:16 · answer #11 · answered by partydudette52 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋