I recently divorced my husband. He hadn't been able to hold down a job for any length of time in several year.
I still care for him (he's a very nice guy), and we seperated on good terms.
Anyway, the job he currently has (at least he's working) doesn't have good health insurance. When we were married I helped pay for most of his medication, including Viagra. He isn't able to maintain an erection, for sex, without it. He's asked me if I could continue to pay for his Viagra for awhile, because he needs all the money he's making now just to pay his rent (this is true..I made sure). On one hand, I don't mind helping him out (i've got a real good job, so it's not that much of a financial burden for me), but, on the other hand, I'm wondering why I should pay for his Viagra, if some other women are going to get all the benefits.
Would it be wrong of me to ask him for sex twice a month in return, as compensation??
Should I not help him at all??
Comments??
2007-11-15 08:20:50 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
if u truly like the man and parted on good terms, why not help him out.
2007-11-15 08:33:16 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
You are divorced, so the whole "sex twice a month" is a bad idea. So is paying for his medication. You two are divorced for a reason, and should be moving on living separate lives, without relying on each other. It's his business to make sure he earns enough to support himself and his "needs", not yours.
2007-11-15 16:28:47 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
He needs viagra so he can get some from others, what are you going to do the day you realize he gave you herpes or some other present from someone else?
2007-11-15 17:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can't believe that you would even consider it! You're divorced, the ship has sailed---move on! He can find himself another honey to pay for his erectile drugs, and you can find someone that doesn't require them! I can't believe an ex husband would have the balls to ask his ex wife to pay for THAT drug specifically! And why would you want sex as payment? What? You have to bribe him and pay for something that more or less came for free recently? Well, not really I guess since you were paying for it initially anyway. It's creepy, and wrong, and no, I WOULD NOT help him get laid!
2007-11-15 16:26:58 · answer #4 · answered by Marina 7 · 7⤊ 0⤋
Well, I have to admit, this one gave me a good chuckle. I am glad that you two parted on good terms. I think it would be quite alright for you to continue to help pay for his 'medication', for the time being. Do it from a true friends standpoint, and not that of an ex-wife. That way the gesture makes more sense to you. I can see why you are drawn on this. However, you, by your own admittance, said that you two had parted on good terms and should not be wrapped up in his sexual prowess. Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. As for the sex twice a month for compensation, I feel that you should be rather coy in bringing up that matter. Simply ask, "what's in it for me?" in a playful manner. Then give him the terms. Good luck.
2007-11-15 16:30:54 · answer #5 · answered by chuckachoo 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I'm assuming your in your 40's or 50's if your man, i mean your ex, needs viagra... What surprises me is, you still haven't grown up... So with that... Go ahead!
2007-11-15 16:25:17 · answer #6 · answered by Me 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ok so you feel sorry for him but if it were me i would have to be cruel to be kind and tell him that he needs to stand on his own to feet now and that he will have to pay for his own viagra. and as for asking him for sex well thats wrong as thats means that you will probably find it even harder to move on with your life. tell him no and walk away.
2007-11-15 17:02:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
if you still care for him, then yeah go for it.
but "Would it be wrong of me to ask him for sex twice a month in return, as compensation?? "
yes, it would be wrong, it is illegal to use money to exchange in return of sex.
since you say you still care for him, and he is a very nice guy, why not just pay for him for awhile, "if some other women are going to get all the benefits," are you still in love with him?it sounds like you are jealous.
2007-11-15 16:35:11 · answer #8 · answered by Kristine 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well, if you keep paying for his Viagra then I say "HELL ya, you should be getting some benefit from it"!!!! It's awesome that you two are cool like that still.
2007-11-15 16:52:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ha ha! I suppose if you want it that bad you could pay for his Viagra.
2007-11-15 16:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Emanon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋