Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2007

Ok so I m getting engaged and I know this is the guy for me! I really love him but the problem is that I don't like kissing I have never had sex and Im not even sure if I want to. Im not sure what is wrong I NEVER WANT TO DO ANYTHING no matter what mood Im in, he is so loving and caring he does a lot of stuff that touches my heart but I really don't like kissing I usually just do it so I don't hurt his feelings because we have talked about this before. I can't tell if its because I have been metally and physically abused by my father and guys. Or is it that its something medically wrong I just want some feed back from someone. Please no rude comments.

2007-11-15 16:26:50 · 13 answers · asked by ? 4

Just curious...ive been divorced for 4 years and still uncertain about a lot...i just had planned to be with him...then he left and i had to start over and think of how i wanted to live my life...i messed up. I spent a lot of time worrying about guys that were losers, i stressed about them...i got drunk. Miraculously i still kept the same job and am in grad school...my goal now is to buy my own condo...in boston it's tough to do that on your own. Sometimes i feel like, poor me ):

2007-11-15 16:24:19 · 7 answers · asked by Lilly d 1

2007-11-15 16:20:43 · 10 answers · asked by qmoney 1

when i get to the point where i believe i am going to climax i go tense why is this

2007-11-15 16:20:22 · 9 answers · asked by ATARI 2

Unfortunately, they are two different persons.
She is also married but unhappy, I am unhappy too.

Accepts real and realistic answers please.

2007-11-15 16:18:22 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

He was a great man and gave me everything I ever wanted, but no sex. I cheated and was terribly mean to him. Two years have gone by and I cannot live without him. I never stopped loving him, I just needed sex. He ignores my attempts to get back with him and has told me straight to my face he does not love me anymore. I still wait and wish he will give me another chance. I have been the only woman he has ever loved. Will he give me a chance? Should I force myself to move on? Should I keep trying? Better tried than failed, but for how long?

2007-11-15 16:12:34 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have three small kids and I want things to be civil how do I let him know that?

2007-11-15 16:10:11 · 10 answers · asked by Mystery_girl 1

My girlfriend is the sweetest most caring person on this planet...last night after I opened my handcrafted b-day gift from her I almost lost it as she has my heart in her hands..my question is this..does it make me look weak to show emotions?..Do women look down on this?..thanks..

2007-11-15 16:04:40 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I do. I'm 29, divorced, i feel underpaid, i'm in school for my masters, single...watching everyone get married, they wonder when i will get married, i want to say, look beotch i've been married. I sort of feel like i'm watching everyone have 'their day.' Im wondering when it will be my turn. I never thought my life would be like this. I expected to have kids by now...but i'm divorced...i'm working and trying to be better...but it seems like my life will be the way it is now...forever. I wont be happy ):

2007-11-15 16:01:24 · 12 answers · asked by gally g 1

I am 25 my wife is 24 and we have been married 3 years. I moved to AZ for work, wife was going to move in me 2 weeks later.

Instead while I was away started developing an online relationship over World of Warcraft the video game with a 21 year old kid.

She flew out there to Texas from New Jersey had sex with him, and moved in with him 2 weeks later.

She abandoned me, her family and all her old friends and has since started a new life.

His family found out she was married and his son is a homewrecker and will not have anything to do with them. Her family will not speak to her either as they are angry at what she did to me.

My wife tells everyone I'm verbally abusive, lazy, manipulative and I deserve to die... her family and friends are charecture witnesses that say otherwise...

She ignores any contact attempts on my part, no contact for 2 mos.

What are the chances of their affair actually working out? And what do I need to do if I want to win my wife back from this douchebag kid?

2007-11-15 15:52:43 · 17 answers · asked by BlaBla 2

I've been with my present boyfriend for like 8 years and I have been trying to forget my ex boyfriend...my first love. We tried to run away together, when we were teenagers. Our parents moved us apart and lost touch. I've been trying to locate him all these years and he's been doing the same. He found me and I was so surprised and all my feelings came back to me! I'm in a relationship now and my present boyfriend and I have a 6 year old daughter together..I don't know what to do. All I think about is my ex boyfriend and I cry myself to sleep. I feel guilty when I look at my daughter and it won't be fair for her. My ex has never been married and single..My heart aches and confused...Please any suggestions would help. Thanks.

2007-11-15 15:50:01 · 11 answers · asked by Baby 2

I have been with my fiancee for almost 3 years, lived together 2. We have never had much of a sex life but for the past year he has just lost most of it. We use to have sex at least once a week, not Im lucky if its once a month. I dont know what to think anymore. He definately loves me, we had a rough patch and we became closer than ever, just not physically. He has never really been a sexual person but I mean he was so into kissing and holding my hand in public. Now I go to hold his hand and he pulls it away.
He says he's too tired and just wants to relax, but when he pushes me away from just wanting to kiss him it hurts ya know... I mean he cuddles and has his moments but just I don't know what to do anymore.. Any help?

2007-11-15 15:36:30 · 12 answers · asked by Courtney C 1

i KNOW, IT'S GROSS... INSIDE JOKE. mAKE ANY COMMENT YOU WANT. pLS. DON'T REPORT ME :0)

2007-11-15 15:27:32 · 16 answers · asked by tiffany 4

im married and im having problems in my marriage and i starting seeing this guy at work and i told him about what was going on in my marriage and he understood and well we went out and we spent the night to gether then the told me i was his first and i was suprised but after we keept seening each other and he started acting funny and a few months passed and i found out he was trying to date other girls at our job i talk to these girls and he denyed being with me im so hurt he wont talk to me and thought i dont work there any more it does not stop me from loving him wht do i do how do i get closure when he wont talk to me i feel like im dying in side when i think of him i get sick when ppl talk abt him i cry i hate this i dnot know wht to do how do i stop loving some one dat does not love me how do i let him go. my marrage is over and i told him all of that and still he did this to me. how can i be in love with someone who does not love me whats wrong with me?

2007-11-15 15:27:01 · 29 answers · asked by Kitty 1

Last year at this time, my husband and I went through bad times, and he hurt me alot. He got sent back early from Iraq because of it, and almost got kicked out the army. As the months passed things began to get better between us and I let my guard down just a little. His friend returned from Iraq 3 weeks ago, and since then things have been bad. He is smoking weed, abusing pills, and neglecting our son. I have had it..I try to talk to him but nothing is getting through. I asked him not to do these things but instead he does it behind my back. Game recognizes Game..So I know whats going on but he denies it. To redeem himself he brings up things I did wrong in the past. I just want our family to not fall apart, but he is not hearing me. What do I do? I really want to leave because I feel like I am being totally disrespected and tired of constantly being lied to. Marriage is based on trust, I feel like if I cant trust him then what is that for a marriage? How do I get through to him?

2007-11-15 15:18:49 · 32 answers · asked by Indian beauty 2

I trusted him and never thought he could cheat on me. He becaem very distant, he has not had any intimacy with me for months, he disappeared on week ends and came back home telling non sense stories. He started coming to bed very late, going out a lot and coming back home at 4 or 5.am.
I feel so bad that I have decided to divorce him. I'm soo disapointed, I think I will ever be able to fall in love again.

2007-11-15 15:14:43 · 19 answers · asked by thatgirl 1

2007-11-15 15:01:52 · 7 answers · asked by Mercedes 2

I am at a loss for words. Ever since my husband and I have gotten a divorce my household has been out of control. My thirteen year old daughter is pregnant, my son is failing school, my fifteen year old is now a rebel, My twelve year old is defiant and my eleven year old is going around breaking things and cussing. What is going on and how can I stop it?

Thanks.

2007-11-15 14:57:15 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I are pinching pennies. I was raised by a single mother and have had financial rough times myself. My husband comes from a more of a shelter home life. Because he is a financial specialist I let him handle the bills. I told me that we were about $800 short. I made the comment, "Oh, no..so we're broke." told him I loved him and got into the car jamming to my music and went to work. He says that he was in a bad mood all day because of what I said and that its all my fault. That comments like that makes him feel like I'm not happy in the marriage. I told him that he complains all the time and its okay, but when I do it lightning has struck. He also had asked me if he could buy a stationary bike. I said no because our money should go other places. He hissed and later told me that fine because he just told his parents to buy it for him for his birthday. Help!!! what do you think? Am I wrong and crazy?Your opinion is needed please!!!

2007-11-15 14:51:31 · 12 answers · asked by ky g 1

I'm curious because I thought it. My husband was adamantly against it. They said I couldn't go against his wishes.

2007-11-15 14:41:13 · 10 answers · asked by paula r 7

I'll never understand why I see the best men fall for/marry the most controlling women. Or, I should take that back, the y don't really become controlling until after marriage. Why is that? Is it because I've never been married that I can see how they behave?

One of my girlfriends suggested to another married girlfriend of ours to "make him a list, so that way he knows what he needs to do.." I wanted to punch her in the face.

I have become friends with a married man who's wife is like this. He is scared she will take everything from him if he leaves, but he is so unhappy. She treats him like a child, and yells constantly.

How can I help him find a way from this craziness?

2007-11-15 14:38:55 · 12 answers · asked by Mintygoodness1 4

When you are not doing anything to provoke this behavior? Wouldn't that make you think THEY were cheating?

2007-11-15 14:38:30 · 14 answers · asked by thinkaspell 4

i just wanna hit and dip...no strings attached.


lol jk, but i do wanna girlfriend. all the girls at my school are prudes (u of bama)

and once again...im just kidding bout the hit and dip and tang i seriously just want a serious relationship

2007-11-15 14:36:06 · 3 answers · asked by Greg D 1

2007-11-15 14:31:49 · 17 answers · asked by jeff b 4

2007-11-15 14:27:50 · 15 answers · asked by greenwich 4

and how do you deal with it?

2007-11-15 14:26:17 · 26 answers · asked by Troy Girl 5

My tight wad husband wants a divorce. He makes $70,000.00 a year at one job, with his side job he makes over $100,00.00. I use to work but filed for disability about a year and a half ago. I'm still waiting on that. So I have no income. And no insurance without him. We have been married for 7 years. All this time he has been very greedy and selfish with HIS money. I get nothing but a roof over my head and he pays for my prescriptions. I'm trying to figure out if me waiting for disabilty will have a bearing on spousal support. Also, is there any way to make him cover me on insurance until the disability comes through? I'm very scared and upset that I will be left out in the cold.

2007-11-15 14:19:52 · 14 answers · asked by lottsgirl82 2

My husband and I have been married for 3 years but together for 8 years. We have a wonderful son that is almost 2. It all changed before I found out I wasa pregnant. I just don't want to fall out of love with him but I feel like I have tried everything to patch up our marriage and he doesn't seem to be the same person I fell in love with.....please someone help......I have tried romantic dinners, dates, the whole nine yards!!! Please help.

2007-11-15 14:14:12 · 10 answers · asked by rebel_girl917 1

How long have you been married, and how old were you when you married? Just curious since there are SOOO many more posts about broken marriages and sadness. We need a little sunshine and happiness here!

2007-11-15 14:12:47 · 39 answers · asked by luv_my_rats 5

Ok so im official depressed. i have a boyfriend for two yrs. he is 36 and im 21. yes age difference. he has never been married, no children, egaged once in college and has had long relationships for 5 yrs...never married. he has a small studio and has two great jobs. now me im beautiful and every guy would love to be with me but my heart is with him only. he's really commitment phobic but i truly believe he has change and little has he changed. i have given an ultimadium that by 3 yrs we dont get some kind of commitment im leaving regardless how hurtful it would be but im a strong believe of no pre-marital living together or children out of wedlock and i refuse to be the women he has had in the past whom he has been with for years. im young beautiful and i refuse to lose time on long relationships without getting something out of it= Marriage. problem is im ready to get married and i really desire a baby. when i have brought the idea he laughs and thinks im joking no matter how serious

2007-11-15 14:10:38 · 10 answers · asked by Confused in the City 2