and how do you deal with it?
2007-11-15 14:26:17 · 26 answers · asked by Troy Girl 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think we are both possissive. Sometimes I hate how jealous I can get. I truly can't help it though. I try not to show it as often as I feel it, but sometimes I feel I go to far.
2007-11-15 14:30:30 · answer #1 · answered by replexgirl 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't deal with it because a person so is possessive does not love but merely wants to possess. A person should be possessive of objects, not people but a person who is too possessive does not see a difference between the two and can be quite dangerous. You need to try counseling if you want to save the relationship but if a spouse remains possessive you need a divorce and if a partner, you need a new partner for your own safety, and self esteem as well.
2007-11-15 22:37:49 · answer #2 · answered by Al B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I used to and it took me a couple of years to leave. When in a relationship with someone like that it is very easy to lose sense of yourself and start believing all the lies he/she may say. Them being possessive is about control and self esteem issues. But then again it makes the other partner lose their control and their self esteem as well. My only suggestion is to leave because it won't get better unless the spouse goes to counseling and applies the counseling to their life. Life is short and we never know when our last day is... why spend it being unhappy and doubting ourselves? It isn't worth it and although there may be "love" between you, you have to love yourself first.
2007-11-15 22:31:47 · answer #3 · answered by sincere087 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I used to have a possessive boyfriend and he always thought I was cheating on him. he never wanted me to go out with my friends or talk to people and i couldn't even make a joak or he would get very upset and start yelling at me. So I tried to talk to him, but he still didn't see reason. I say talk to him and if that doesn't work get out of the relationship. Trust me its not worth it. And even after that he is no reason why you guys cant still be friends or at least friendly. Maybe he will not appreciate or trust you until he knows what he let get away. Hope everything turns out OK. Good Luck
2007-11-15 22:39:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. Definitely not. If my partner were possessive, first, I'd be shocked because of the change and secondly, I'd probably just let him get his possessive opinion out and then do my own thing whether it upset him or not because quite frankly, he has no right to possess me. If he became abusive, I'd leave. Simple as that.
2007-11-15 22:33:33 · answer #5 · answered by some female 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fiance is the least possesive I have ever met, and that is to include the least jelous female that I have ever had a relationship with. we are working on a decade together. She will sit there and let a girl feel me (a male) up or let me feel her up...she says that she knows where I am and who I am coming home with. She does say that if I cheat wtihout asking in advance and having permission she would leave me! I don't ask...nor do I abuse it, I have kissed one female, and the second abuse was when she put my hands up her female friends shirt. But I guess that does not help you!
2007-11-15 22:33:05 · answer #6 · answered by crazygurl in VT 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a guy like this and it didn't work out. I basically think it's impossible to deal with. If he's so possessive he's not letting you be you, then he has some serious problems and you should tell him, and tell him over and over and over again that this behavior is unacceptable to you.
He's probably afraid of losing you or insecure. But whatever it is, it's his problem and he's making it your problem. Don't let him squash your spirit!
2007-11-15 22:31:14 · answer #7 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope and I love it. I dated a possessive guy and once I figured it out - I found my way out of the relationship... quickly. A man and woman in love are a team - not the property of one another. I may own his wallet but that's about it...lol.
2007-11-15 22:30:24 · answer #8 · answered by Amber B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No my spouse is actually quite boring! Not possessive just boring!
2007-11-15 22:31:23 · answer #9 · answered by I love screwdrivers! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife will get upset, if i go missing, and will put on a show, but i have learnt 1 thing in life i need to make myself happy first, the more she carries on the longer i stay out, usually at the rsl playing pokies and having a few beers
2007-11-16 03:41:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋