Hubby Wants Divorce, I Have No Income?

Question

My tight wad husband wants a divorce. He makes $70,000.00 a year at one job, with his side job he makes over $100,00.00. I use to work but filed for disability about a year and a half ago. I'm still waiting on that. So I have no income. And no insurance without him. We have been married for 7 years. All this time he has been very greedy and selfish with HIS money. I get nothing but a roof over my head and he pays for my prescriptions. I'm trying to figure out if me waiting for disabilty will have a bearing on spousal support. Also, is there any way to make him cover me on insurance until the disability comes through? I'm very scared and upset that I will be left out in the cold.

Answer 1

yes, you can get spousal support as you are not working. the disability might lower it, but only up until you actually receive it. so, the hearing may be continued, but ask for a temporary amount of support until then. then also ask for insurance coverage until the disability kicks. it's been done before. you won't be divorced until the order kicks in anyway.

Answer 2

Just hang in there. Divorces are accomplished by lawyers so have the best lawyer that you can afford and tell him everything. He should be a lawyer who specializes in divorces. It takes time and I know it is hurting you to see your husband flaunt his wealth while you and the kids suffer. There are two ways to look at the divorce. Maybe all the pain is making you wish you could end the proceedings. But the longer you stay focused, with your lawyer's help, you should be able to get what can possibly be 'gotten'! Stay strong and try not to take it all personally and get very emotional about it all. I know, easier said than done. The reason you do have to keep your course steady is that your husband would probably like to 'wear you down' with his financial manipulations. There is a limit to that within the law. He knows it - but the law isn't as important as manipulating you emotionally. Your best revenge would be to appear confident and happy that the divorce is proceeding. In fact, you should be happy - you are at least ending a relationship with a very mean-spirited person who would make your life even more miserable if you were still married to him! So he drives a new Audi registered in his parents name. Big deal. He's a grown man who still uses his parents for showing off with new toys. He's still living by the rules we all had in high school. But that doesn't mean that you have to react to him the way someone in high school would! At some point, you have to realize that life is not fair if you judge people by the car they drive. It's possible to go your whole life without realizing that status symbols aren't the only measure of success. If you persist in that belief, you really should move to New York City or Beverly Hills! LOL. All the issues such as health insurance, etc., should be dealt with legally and it will take time so be patient but stay focused. You have a chance now to rebuild your credit once you get over the debacle of the maxed out credit cards. Again, something to be addressed in court. You have a chance now at a lot of new things so appreciate that fact. Think about your career/job as if you were a single woman with a future in the job world. Not a woman waiting for wrongs to be righted with an ex. What can you do yourself to make your job future better? Take a night class and set a goal for yourself? You have a lot of working years ahead of you. The two young kids are going to need stabililty in their lives - starting with a home where mom is happy with her work. His family is as deceptive as he is? Well, you're not going to change them and you're not going to change him! Corraggio! (That's Italian for Chin Up!)

Answer 3

you haven't been married long enough for spousal support. . contrary to popular opinion spousal support is NOT a punishment for one person wanting out of a marriage.. you were working up til last year and you said yourself his other job is on the side, so if there's no paper trail, legally he doesn't have that job. he won't have to keep you on his insurance if his work won't allow it and most companies force spouses off the insurance once the divorce is final. you'll probably be on your own, he's not responsible for you.

Answer 4

It doesn't matter who makes the money, you are legally married to him so what ever he has made in those 7 yrs is half yours. Now you may need a good lawyer to get it, but DONT just give up and let him have it... IF you do YOU WILL REGRET IT!! not sure about him covering you on insurance til your disability comes thru. but as long as your married to him yes he should keep you on it. usually disability is so low of an amout it shouldnt have much bearing on spousal support. Dont be scared stand up for yourself and dont let him walk all over you. You need to talk to an attorney so that you can get all the facts for the state you live in. You need to do that asap. Im sure he is protecting hisself.

Answer 5

The answer to your question is a simple one. Your husband will have to support you. Knowing you are awaiting disability and have no way to support yourself he will have to pay for your care. Get a good lawyer and you will learn that it is not easy for a man to divorce a woman in your situaction. The divorce could go on for a very long time. Being in your favor..

Answer 6

WELL I'M NOT EXPERT ON THIS MATTER BUT FROM WHAT I DO KNOW IF U DIDN'T SIGN A PRENUP AND U GET A DIVORCE HE HAS TO GIVE U SPOUSAL SUPPORT WHICH MEANS HEALTH INSURANCE TOO.. THAT IS ONE OF THE THINGS U COULD REQUEST WHEN U GO TO COURT.. I DON'T KNOW THE REASON FOR UR DISABILITY BUT THAT SHOULDN'T AFFACT UR SPOUSAL SUPPORT, BUT IT MIGHT AFFACT UR DISABILITY SO I WOULD GET THE SPOUSAL SUPPORT THEN I WILL FIGHT FOR MY DISABILITY.. YOU KNOW IF HE DID THIS TO U BECAUSE U BECAME DISABLE U SHOULD FIGHT FOR EVERYTHING U CAN.. WHEN MY UNCLE DID SOMETHING SIMILAR TO HIS WIFE SHE GOT SOME GOOD MONEY CUZ HE WAS BEING UNFAITHFUL AND SHE GOT MONEY, INSURANCE, AND HE HAD TO PAY THE HOUSE NOTE... SO GIRL GET HIM BY THE BALLS HE MAKE LOTS OF MONEY... PLUS U BEEN MARRIED FOR 7 YRS.

Answer 7

Get a Goood Lawyer fast for Professional advice! You would be amazed as to what u r entitled for. Don't let this bully of a husband sucker u into signing or doing anything stupid! You got good advice from people who have been through it and/or know someone who is going through it now. Some lawyers are jerks and lazy. Good Luck.

Answer 8

Ask for a temporary support until the finally order is issued. My sister is getting it even though the divorce isn't final. Talk to a divorce lawyer and talk to them about letting him pay for your attorney fees.

Answer 9

Get a consultation with a good divorce lawyer. You won't be left out in the cold. He will pay.

Answer 10

I'm sorry that he is so cold. Talk to a lawyer don't depend on advice from inqualified people when it comes to things like this. I wish you the best of luck. He dosen't sound like he deserves you anyways.