Marriage & Divorce - 15 November 2007

the husband come home late the third time in a week so he can be come a suspicious husband...he started to tell the lie...for being unfaitful

2007-11-15 11:20:05 · 6 answers · asked by ngo n 1

2007-11-15 11:17:02 · 6 answers · asked by intelligal75 1

Hi, I am a 26 year old male soon to be 27 going through a divorce. My question is what and who can I expect to date. Will girls be turned off because have a kid? The divorce was not my fault and I initiated it. I will not be paying alimony or child support because I can use bad things my ex did in court so she is not going for anything. She is already pregnant with someone else's kid and we are not divorced yet. I do well financially - I have a good job and my own side income coming in so I have tons saved and will be buying a house by myself after the divorce finalizes in 2 months. What can I expect and where should I go to meet girls? Should I go to night school at community college to meet girls? I eventually want to settle down, but I would like to have a good time for a bit since I missed that in my early 20's. We were married for 5 years and our son is 4. I would appreciate any advice. Thanks.

2007-11-15 11:12:58 · 16 answers · asked by Mikes S 1

drop hints to your man for Christmas gifts you'd really like?

I'd really love this necklace from Kay's thats is on a MAJOR sale this weekend only.($30 for a normally $100 item).

We got a flyer in the mail and I look at it all the time with him around and comment on how pretty it is and how I'd love that. I don't think he's taking the hint.....

how would all you ladies do it?

BTW...this is out first Christmas marrried, and we are expecting our first child in June. I am not a material person, but I believe every woman deserves a few good pieces of jewelry.

2007-11-15 11:06:18 · 26 answers · asked by ♥Mommy to 3 year old Jacob and baby on the way♥ 7

I'm scoping out ideas for my husband. I already have a few good ones in mind but it never hurts to get more ideas! Thanks!

2007-11-15 11:02:29 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

if a man has a thick and long penis?

Both the guys I have bee with had thin penisis.

2007-11-15 10:55:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-15 10:52:59 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

When i am alone
I think of you
Is this Love?
I'm going through?

When we'r together
we shout and yell
Is this love
always and forever?

When you hurt me
I shred a tear
Is this love
Or just a fear?

When we argue
I take the blame
Is this love?
Or just a game?

When you leave
I run back
Is this love
or off the track?

But when we kiss
I feel emotion
Is this love
Or just a notion?

2007-11-15 10:52:04 · 8 answers · asked by ItsMe. 1

husband?

I only cheated once and that was after I found out he cheated on me.

2007-11-15 10:51:56 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-15 10:50:23 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband, by his own choice, does not like to hang out with his family. He's always hated going home for the holidays, but in the last few years he has chosen to see them even less than before. He has bad memories from his childhood, is going through therapy to deal with all of the abuse from his past, and I get the feeling that he wants a break from them either until he sorts everything out in therapy, or maybe permanently, I'm not sure.
However, his family, predominantly, his mother, thinks it's all my doing that they don't see as much of him as they used to. She has accused me of 'tearing their family apart' and trying to keep him from her. Initially I was neutral on whether or not he hung out with his family, but all of her carrying on and accusations makes me see why my husband chooses to be distant with them. Anyone else with this issue? How do you let other in laws know that you are not to blame?

2007-11-15 10:49:59 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

How do you deal with a midlife crisis? I'm almost 40, married to a wonderful guy for many years, reasonably attractive, we have a toddler son (who is severely disabled from birth). Here's the problem: I can't stop living in the past. I obsess over how I can no longer go out and "party." I'm *very* bothered by the fact that men don't really notice me anymore. It is driving me mad. Recently I've also started obsessing over this guy that I dated about 12 YEARS ago...can't think of anything but him, even tried to contact him! And I love my husband very, very much. I just can't get over this feeling that my life is over. It is intruding into my life to the point that I am having trouble with day-to-day functioning. I've just started seeing a counselor about it (finally), but I'm just wondering if anyone else has gone through this? Especially the obsessing over this guy! It's ridiculous, but it's eating me alive.

2007-11-15 10:46:30 · 14 answers · asked by Gemini 2

We've been married since April 2007, and up until now (even while we were still living together before our marriage) he's always insisted on keeping and directing our finances (even though I was working full-time and earning more money than he did).

I never even get to see any kind of money - he doesnt even tell me how much he earns everyday (he now works for himself).

I am currently a stay-at-home mum with our three month old, and am quite frankly getting extremely fed up with his behaviour. We go to marriage councelling on a weekly basis, and even the councellor suggested that he give me a certain amount of money to spend on myself each week - but he hasnt done it so far. He even goes with me everytime I have to go grocery shopping, so that he can pay for it himself and he doesnt need to give me any money.

His opinion is that:

1) We dont have any money to spend on ourselves right now (even though he somehow managed to find the money to buy 2 gigantic Christmas presents)

2007-11-15 10:32:43 · 26 answers · asked by ♂ Equibrilium ♀ 4

We all get along fairly well between my fiance and there child and the exhusband. Lately the ex has been calling her at work and talking about plan change's or weekend visitation changes or plans. He is an ok guy. I feel that calling my fiance at work is over the line and that calling to talk about these matters could be done at our home when we see each other twice a week for visitation exchanges. Every tuesday ,Thursday and one weekend night a week we see each other so there are plenty of oppertunity to talk about matters. I'm wondering if I'm wrong for feeling that he is rude and inconsiderate of my feelings for calling her at work. I feel it is and that I should tell him so. So any good words on this would be great.

2007-11-15 10:30:32 · 13 answers · asked by Concerned32 1

the situation: a man and his wife are getting a divorce. they have children(ages 9 and 4) and in the state of California, they must both attend a co-parenting class (required by law). The man has done this already. The woman has not. The woman is also exhibiting signs of negligence towards her children: she dropped the 9 year old off at school two hours before school started and there was NO ONE there at the time and she makes them get their own food (this is bad because the 4 year old pretty much eats nothing but cheese and the 9 year old only eats mac and cheese). the woman is constantly saying bad things about the man to the kids and she also uses profanity in front of them.

Question: Who can the man talk to about this? he has no lawyer for the divorce and can't afford one. Is there any way that this can help him get main physical custody of the kids and let the woman have visitation? What can he do?

2007-11-15 10:27:27 · 4 answers · asked by ? 1

called a MISTAKE? It's just an outright CHEAT, and if you don't want the person you are with, why act like robots and not get on with your life? (just have seen to many cheaters wanting sympathy today!! sorry)

2007-11-15 10:23:42 · 16 answers · asked by jefskta 2

How do I get my wife to be more dominate to me I really enjoy it when she does. She kind of likes it. I have told her that she can do anything to me but she won't.

2007-11-15 10:22:51 · 8 answers · asked by chad 2

Or men, what do you like your wife to get you?

2007-11-15 10:20:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

my boyfriend and i dream of the day that we can get married and have a real life together. we've been together for two years and i'm the happiest i've ever been. between school and working full time he's the only thing that puts a smile on my face at the end of the day. i dont want to be one of those couples that doesnt last. i really want to be with him for the rest of my life. i'm only worried about how our families will react when we tell them. but i just cant put off my life because i'm worried about other people. help?

2007-11-15 10:15:54 · 73 answers · asked by Anonymous

my girl and I are in LOVE...BUT she gets social security and a pension from her first husband that died...If she legally marrys me...she will LOOSE those things...IS it OK for us to live togather and would GOD still bless our union?

2007-11-15 10:12:42 · 30 answers · asked by Dennis S 1

2007-11-15 10:11:22 · 31 answers · asked by sunsetbabe214 1

I call my husband at lunch when he is at home. We start out ok and then I ask him to do something like wash the dishes or pick up some groceries and he gets pissed right away, in return I get pissed because he does not want to do anything and I start bitching him out.

2007-11-15 09:36:54 · 25 answers · asked by tuckerjess 2

About 4 months ago I found out that my partner had started communicating with his ex-girlfriend. We have been together for almost 5 yrs and they were never friends during this time. One day out of the blue she contacts him on facebook. I was 7 months pregnant at the time. Our relationship has had it's ups and downs and lately it has been rough (both of our fault) our son was born 7 weeks early and we went through a very trying time. During this time the two of them have been emailing each other on regular basis. According to him they had a great relationship and he doesn't have anything bad to say about her. He spends lots of time on the computer looking at her pics, googling her and writing flirty emails with her. And now suddenly she is single. I told him how I feel and that I don't like the idea of them communicating like this and he basically said I'm jealous and controlling. Am I wrong to think that his sudden communication is disrespectful to our relationship?

2007-11-15 09:20:49 · 10 answers · asked by Sevannah D 2

A few years ago I had it all, a 4 year footballer boyfriend, I worked for an airline, I was close to all my family, then I threw it all away by going out getting drunk and kissing my next door neightbour! and my boyfriend walked round the corner and saw me!...we split up and I took an overdose, from then on my life went downhill, I went out got drunk and drove my car, crashed it by accident, I nearly had 2 yrs no claims insurance, but it had been cancelled coz I missed a payment, so I was stuck with a 6 grand loan from the bank, I lost my licence for a year, and got done for drink driving so had a criminal record, this was 6 years ago now and I still cant stop thinking about my ex, he has had a baby with someone else, I feel like i cant move on ever, and that Ill never find anyone as good as him.what can I do?

2007-11-15 09:07:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-11-15 09:07:02 · 8 answers · asked by Fred S - AM Cappo Di Tutti Capi 5

My parents were very negative, controlling &over protective especially about dating. I swore I would never be that way with my kids.
My oldest child was going out with a boy who had a very dysfunctional family & lots of emotional problems. I tried to coach her, support her & just give my opinion when asked or absolutely necessary. I thought she was a smart girl & she would figure it out for herself & dump him. Now they are married, she is miserable & he is emotionally & verbally abusive to her & she has no self esteem.
Now my middle daughter is dating a complete loser. He has been in trouble with the law, he smokes weed, he is constantly getting in trouble at school, he is super immature &she is constantly crying & upset.
I didn't want to make the same mistake as I did with my oldest child so I have been much more verbal about my concerns about this boy. I stop short of absolutely forbidding her to see him though. In my experience, they just lie & sneak around then.

2007-11-15 09:03:12 · 13 answers · asked by wondermom 6

My wife has 2 sisters. Both divorced. Her mom wears the pants in the house. 3 sisters live in other countries and they talk to their mom all the time but rarely talk to the poor father. I say poor because he has lost his 2 kidneys. He is really sick but they all talk to their mom all the time… Their dad was a money making machine for them.

My wife always tried to control me. I asked her more than a year to go to a counselor together. Finally we went to 2 different counselors but she did not show up the second time because she says: I am smart and educated and I know what is right!

Both of sisters got divorced because they love the way their mom is acting,. No man can handle it but their Dad! I want you to share your experience with me… My wife never thinks she may make a mistake and when you tell her about her mistakes she gets angry. She threatens, she screams…

She has filed a divorce as another threatening tool to control me. She thought after seeing the divorce papers I will say: O.K, I will be your slave and will do whatever you want but I am not going to do that.

Here are some of her controlling issues: She gets mad if I go to the gym, or play tennis with my friends (I was an athlete my whole life)…whenever we go somewhere she says: whey do you behave like this? Whey did you talk to her? What were you telling to her?? It is so insulting. I believe when I got married I am committed to only one woman and she is my wife. I never think I will be with somebody else… but she just does not understand. I lived with her for a year and a half and every day was like hell…

Do you think my wife can change? Just stop asking why and start enjoying life?
Oh, she is 34 years old by the way. She is beautiful and I am a handsome guy. I always trust her but I think she is very insecure seeing I get a lot of attention.

2007-11-15 08:53:48 · 14 answers · asked by mazyar m 1

A. Finding out that your husband or wife was having sex with another person(s) behind your back?

B. Finding out that your husband or wife wasn't having a physical affair, but that they were in love or had strong feelings for somebody they knew?

2007-11-15 08:51:20 · 22 answers · asked by ? 5

2007-11-15 08:49:13 · 2 answers · asked by danielle n 2

For those people that have strayed because they aren't satisfied with their sex life... Do you find your in a better place now or wish you would have stayed?

I have thought about leaving my wife but then think about my kids and I won't have the benefit of going home to see them everyday as opposed to seeing them every other weekend....

2007-11-15 08:48:35 · 44 answers · asked by Me 3