A. Finding out that your husband or wife was having sex with another person(s) behind your back?
B. Finding out that your husband or wife wasn't having a physical affair, but that they were in love or had strong feelings for somebody they knew?
2007-11-15 08:51:20 · 22 answers · asked by ? 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest I would be equally disgusted and real sad.
2007-11-15 08:55:45 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
having sex. It's physical and it happened. You can get over strong feelings, but not an affair.
2007-11-15 16:55:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think finding out that they were in love with someone else would be more devastating. if that were the case i'd worry that the love they have for me might be gone. forgiving and overcoming and affair is easier than hearing that your spouse has moved on to loving someone else and that they've fallen out of love with you.
2007-11-15 16:59:42 · answer #3 · answered by hiswife04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A. Sometimes feelings cannot be helped. But my husband and I have a deep understanding of what is expected of each other, what our responsibilities are, what we worked so hard to achieve. Our devotion to each other and our family is deeper that feeling.
2007-11-15 16:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jessica C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For me B would be worse. I could forgive and forget A and actually use it to better our relationship sexually. If B happens then you are on the downward spiral.
2007-11-15 16:55:05 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
B would be much worse. having sex just says you dont satisfy her the way you should, B means she has no kind of respect at all for you.
2007-11-15 16:55:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
honestly, B. i would be less concerned about him leaving me for sex than because he turned away from me to someone else to fulfill his emotional needs. once the emotional connection is gone, the marriage is dead.
2007-11-15 17:34:55 · answer #7 · answered by hh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think it would be finding out that they still had strong feelings for them.
2007-11-15 16:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
B is going to turn into A eventually, so either is bad.
2007-11-15 16:54:52 · answer #9 · answered by sunflowergal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
None of the above, both are deal breakers.
2007-11-15 16:55:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋