Is it worth leaving your marriage because your no longer getting it in the bed room?

Question

For those people that have strayed because they aren't satisfied with their sex life... Do you find your in a better place now or wish you would have stayed?

I have thought about leaving my wife but then think about my kids and I won't have the benefit of going home to see them everyday as opposed to seeing them every other weekend....

Answer 1

Staying just because of the kids won't help, they will feel it. This is what happened to me.
Finding a girl friend could be an option but it depend on how you are on moral/ethical issues.
If you choose to leave you must be aware that you'll go through a tough time. But you may eventually find happiness.

From my experience, staying in am arriage that does not work is frustrating and pointless. Nobody will benefit from it. If your relationship is over ( and the lack of sexual attraction and satisfaction is a good sign it is ) it means there have been mistakes. And there will be a fee to pay for them. As usual in life. You both need to recognize them and take action.

Answer 2

If the only thing holding you back are your kids then you have got a problem. That means it's not just the sex life, but the relationship as a whole that is not working. Maybe that's why the sex life is start to be problematic as well. If you want to stay, don't just do it for the kids. They will leave one day. Do it for each other. Go back and work it out with your wife. It's easy, just sit down and say "let's talk..."

Answer 3

Sometimes, letting go seems like the easiest thing to do. But think about this: you've invested so much of your time and energy into another person; you've made a solemn promise; and you still know there's love, even if it's hiding underneath the surface. This website will show you how to save a marriage and avoid divorce, even if you're the only one trying https://tr.im/yxS7o

Answer 4

Try working on your marriage before you start to stray. It will be the worst thing you did if you were to get caught. Talk to your wife and tell her that you are having thoughts of straying because your body has needs and wants. Tell her how sexy she is. Do special things like love notes and such like you did when you first met her and continue doing this. Give her a break from the kids and help her around the house. Give her attention outside of the bedroom like snuggling coming up and giving her a kiss, complimenting on how good she looks, and so on and so on. See what men tend to forget is that us women love to be romanced and feel like we are the only woman that the husband only wants. We like to feel special and of course we should also repeat this to our husbands as well. If she is not willing to have sex after you have shown her these things then it is marriage councelling. If that doesn't work then DIVORCE.

Answer 5

If you are unhappy at home, the kids can tell, they arent stupid. Dont stay together just cause of the kids. However, did you ever stop and think that maybe you are part of the reason for the old lady no longer givin it up? Maybe you should sit down with her and try to find out the root of the problem! The grass isnt always greener on the other side!!!

Answer 6

Been in your boots... and so was my ex husband... after 26 years we decided (not all peaceful and quiet) that it was over between us. There were good times but mostly we drifted apart and couldn't get it back together as most people do in the bedroom. It wasn't always that way but it was a mountain we couldn't climb together. The kids do suffer, and we had grown up kids and a younger one, they all suffered one way or another. It was long and arduous and we all suffered. Its not an easy price to pay. Would I go back to that now the storm waters have quietened? Never!!!! I am myself again, I breath air into my lungs and feel it go in. I didn't realise how unhappy I was until I got happy again. It took a long time and many long lonely nights full of thoughts and regrets and misery. But I never once wanted it back that way. I don't know if he feels the same, I have never asked him, it would be too painful to hear his pain. But if you whittle it down to what the core of the problem was?... Lack of chemistry, for all sorts of reasons. We could never mould back into one in the bedroom. So we were divided in every way, raising the kids, chores about the house, everything... The want for sex and to desire your other half should always be precious treasured, nurtured and tended to... we failed miserably and took everything down with us as we sank. Thats my experience. And I know the reason now. try and get some help, its sooo very important.

Answer 7

Ask your wife if you are free to go get some elsewhere because she will not.

A marriage without sexuality is not much of a marriage.
There are reasons for staying together and kids ARE one regardless of the normal Yahoo answer.

On the other hand it is possible that you can overcome this if your wife understands that you are not willing to continue a celibate marriage. Eventually it will come down to stay or go.
Make sure that if you go it will be because you were not able to cure her lack of a love life not your cheating.

Answer 8

Isn't there more to your relatiionship than sex? If my husband gave that as a reason for leaving me, I would say good riddance!! It's very selfish to only think about what you are getting out of the marriage. What are you doing to make her want you? You are going to have the same problem no matter who you sleep with because you are asking the wrong question. You should be asking -What can I do to show my wife that I love her.

Answer 9

I think you need to have a talk with your wife. What happened? Why aren't things the same? Ask those kinds of questions. All you can do is try, going outside of the marriage is out of the question! Lay it on the line...you need that in a marriage and if she is not willing to give it then you two don't need to be married to each other.

Answer 10

the sex was pretty much the last thing to fall apart in my marriage. There were other things leading up to it. So you must have had other problems that lead to no sex. You didnt try to resolve those issues, but now you want this fixed. Maybe your wife feels the same way. You should talk to her. She may be dying inside for physical intimacy with you. I would definitely recommend counseling before you throw away your marriage.