called a MISTAKE? It's just an outright CHEAT, and if you don't want the person you are with, why act like robots and not get on with your life? (just have seen to many cheaters wanting sympathy today!! sorry)
2007-11-15 10:23:42 · 16 answers · asked by jefskta 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No sympathy given here............being unfaithful is a choice one makes. Its selfish, literally can destroy a marriage, a family. Sad to say that it can be used to intentially hurt someone you supposedly cared about.
There really isn't a legitimate excuse. If someone is so unhappy with their partner, tell them, get divorced if necessary, but don't dragged them and others through the muck!!
Two cheaters can affect, themselves, their spouses, their children. It's like a domino effect!!
2007-11-15 10:50:24 · answer #1 · answered by michael w 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that sometimes it is a mistake. I've never cheated, but I certainly can understand that if I was feeling rejected, upset, unloved, sad, lonely, unrespected or etc and at that very precise moment someone appeared that promised to take that pain away. I might be weak enough to accept and buy into the false hope then later realize it was a terrible mistake.
I'm sure all of us have felt that way at least once even if we were in a good relationship. There are people that have done it several times in their live because it's a part of their personality that is probably something that they can't change. It's very possible that they sincerely make mistakes.
Now, I think most of cheating...has nothing to do with mistakes. It usually take some planning and forethought to cheat...so don't' get me wrong about that.
2007-11-15 10:42:06 · answer #2 · answered by ∞ sky3000 ∞ 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Cheaters have no heart. They cheat on their partners in all honesty if they arent caught they will continue to cheat. I hate to read especially in the MARRIAGE & DIVORCE section about people cheating on their spouses. It sickens me. I just dont understand why they do it. Then they look for sympathy when they are caught, and want to share sob stories. I have no sympathy whatsoever for cheaters. Cheating is no mistake, it takes two, you know what you are doing. No one can force you into anything. Its your decision.
I understand exactly where you are coming from.
2007-11-15 11:05:25 · answer #3 · answered by Tru_New Orleanian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Saying its a mistake only makes them feel better about what they did. A mistake is an accident. Cheating isn't an accident, its not like you can say "oops it slipped" and all be forgiven. Cheating is intentional, even if someone says they never indended for it to happen. Some part of them did. Otherwise they would never have cheated. "One thing lead to another" same difference. A person (even drunk) knows what there actions are and how things will end up. Unless they are drugged they know that they are doing something wrong and it's up to them to not let it happen.
2007-11-15 10:38:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sevannah D 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i agree with you although its not only cheating that people use the "mistake" excuse.
i think when a person in a committed relationship gets busted doing something they shouldn't be doing whether it is cheating or doing drugs etc, they only think of it as a "mistake" once they have been caught out.
i also hate the "i was drunk" excuse as is they really don't know what they were doing.
i have been intoxicated when i was younger and i have clear knowledge of what happened at those times.
i just think people will use any excuse they can to get away with what they did.
it is really appalling that they cant own up for their actions like adults.
2007-11-15 10:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
At least they can say it was a mistake. Some just think it is thier right to cheat and blame the other because of not getting what they want. The most important thing in marriage is communication. If you do not have that then everything goes.
2007-11-15 10:27:43 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one who cheats says it was a mistake because it is easier for a person to forgive a mistake than a cheat.
2007-11-15 11:20:43 · answer #7 · answered by Tonya B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, people are pretty low when they cheat and they would continue cheating if they were not caught out.
I can not understand how a person can claim to love someone but cheat on them. It is a total lack of respect and not the way you treat someone that you love.
2007-11-15 10:30:01 · answer #8 · answered by bluegirl6 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-29 07:51:11 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brava! Well said!
What's often ignored in this group is how much gd fun cheating can be. Women can be selfish with kids and their feelings, but if a man selfishly follows his johnson, he's a criminal who should be kicked in the b*lls.
2007-11-15 10:28:01 · answer #10 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋