A few years ago I had it all, a 4 year footballer boyfriend, I worked for an airline, I was close to all my family, then I threw it all away by going out getting drunk and kissing my next door neightbour! and my boyfriend walked round the corner and saw me!...we split up and I took an overdose, from then on my life went downhill, I went out got drunk and drove my car, crashed it by accident, I nearly had 2 yrs no claims insurance, but it had been cancelled coz I missed a payment, so I was stuck with a 6 grand loan from the bank, I lost my licence for a year, and got done for drink driving so had a criminal record, this was 6 years ago now and I still cant stop thinking about my ex, he has had a baby with someone else, I feel like i cant move on ever, and that Ill never find anyone as good as him.what can I do?
2007-11-15 09:07:46 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off you need to stop with the pity party. You need to let the past go, the ex boyfriend, the drinking , all your screw ups. You need to get your life in some kind of order, and start learning to like yourself. But what is done is done, move on. He has and you need to.
2007-11-15 09:15:04 · answer #1 · answered by oddbutterfly1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters, you tried to deal with the negative crap you were going through by negative reactions. It may be hard to accept and face but you started the ball rolling with your neighbour. Fact or fiction?? A bad situation went from bad to worse from the way you chose to deal with it. Try doing some positive reactions for yourself for a change. Accept that these things have happened through nobody's fault but your own.
#1. He has moved on ...let it go
#2. Make goals for yourself...short time limits..but just little
bites.
#3. If possible do some counselling.
#4. Stay away from the booze...not a solution!!!
#5. Don't be in a hurry to replace him ... one day it'll be
there when you least expect it.
#6. Put things in list of priority that you need to achieve.
#7. Find some support..family, friend, pastor...etc.
#8. Read information on depression so you can
understand why you have all these negative feelings.
#9. Just do the things that you feel are positive for you.
Good Luck my friend.
2007-11-15 09:29:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times when you have something you don't cherish, you will not value it, till later after you loose it.
In your case that is what has happened. Right now you need to get over your depression and start looking ahead to build up your future. You need first to set your priorities in life. The drinking has to stop, you need to get out of debt and in the meantime get involved with charities as so to mingle and meet new people that will give you moral support. And who knows you might someone special to build a life with.
2007-11-15 09:20:53 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you shuld move an..i think you shuldnt live in a past. I know sometimes people make mistakes..which is part of life. You cant trow your life away because of one guy. I think you shuld focous an your self..and an your problems..because you have a lot of issues to deal with. Yea afcourse you can find someone probably better then him. Just have some confidence in your self. NEver give up..no matter what happens in your life you gat to move an ahead. What can you do..maybe you shuld stop drinking and think of your life more..and what you going to do.
2007-11-15 09:16:45 · answer #4 · answered by blondie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well hopefully you do not have a drinking problem if so you need to seek AA. You need to let go of the past and start living life starting new friendships. He moved on with his life. Keep a hold of those special memories however let go of him. There are other men out there that will treat you good. Go out and have fun mingling. Good Luck.
2007-11-15 09:15:06 · answer #5 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, way to go! What can you do? Chalk it up to a bad 6 years and move on! Life is waiting, quit living in the past.
2007-11-15 09:11:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
counseling! I think that a counselor could really help you. I had a counselor once who helped me to understand how I was looking at the world. Once I could see that, I could understand other options, other ways for me to view the world. It was the most helpful thing I've ever done.
2007-11-15 09:11:59 · answer #7 · answered by AK 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to your doctor, tell him you need pills, ask for him for a remediation for a good counselors that will work with your particular situation.
2007-11-15 09:27:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call Alcoholics Anonymous and have them direct you to the nearest meeting.
2007-11-15 17:30:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow the hell up and move on!
2007-11-15 09:21:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋