how young is okay to get married?

Question

my boyfriend and i dream of the day that we can get married and have a real life together. we've been together for two years and i'm the happiest i've ever been. between school and working full time he's the only thing that puts a smile on my face at the end of the day. i dont want to be one of those couples that doesnt last. i really want to be with him for the rest of my life. i'm only worried about how our families will react when we tell them. but i just cant put off my life because i'm worried about other people. help?

Answer 1

well, i personally want to get married around 23/24 maybe even younger, idk...but at least 21/22 i would think. you need to experience life before you take that step

Answer 2

I don't know the statistics but I have seen and heard of people marrying at the age of 16 that have had long lasting relationships and I have also heard the opposite where it don't last long at that young age. I think 16 and 17 and even 18 are pretty young but that does not mean that it won't last. I know people who married at about age 25 and their marriage lasted over 25 years and then they divorced. So what I am trying to get across is that any age there are risks that the marriage may not work. So I would suggest that you two do what is in your hearts and do your very best to make a go of it for the rest of your lives, taking into consideration that you will have to work hard to make a marriage work at any
age. Work as a team and never let the love stop. Keep the romance alive and you will be just fine by treating one another very very good. That is all I have for you....(smile)

Answer 3

B4 anyone gets married,I do believe a visit to a marriage councellor is a good idea.That way you'll know what is involved in keeping a good relationship with your partner. It's not as easy as some think. Even when people tie the knot so to speak,they often say"we're a couple now" but it is important to keep your individuality & to have your own space. Many people think they're ready but that can only come from maturity. Don't be in such a rush if you're young as many marriages end in disaster.And what will happen if a baby comes along? It takes alot of time,effort,mental & physical power & heaps of money to raise a child these days. It would'nt be fair to bring a child into this world if you could'nt support it in all these areas. It's a better idea to finish your schooling,get a job,get financially stable & live alittle first b4 taking such a big plunge. All the best to you in the future.

Answer 4

My high school sweetheart and I were exactly the same as you two. We married at 18, between Freshman and Sophomore years of college. It was too early. We still had a lot of growing up to do, and we grew in different directions. We divorced after 5 years. My advice to you- Think about what you will do with you life apart from marriage. How long will you need in school to get the career you want? Where do you see yourself 10 years from now? What are you deepest dreams? If getting married will keep those from happening, don't do it. Even if you do get married now, it won't be a failure if it only lasts 3-5 years. If you change as you grow older, your marriage may no longer fit you.

Answer 5

Even if you were 28 years old, SOMEONE would think you were too young. Many people think you should not get married until you've dated around, finished college, started a career, traveled the world, etc. I personally say that right age is different for everyone. You do need to be smart about the decision to get married - it is one of the most important decisions you will ever make, and starting your marriage off on the wrong foot is never a good idea. Once you are emotionally, mentally, and financially mature & ready (and POSITIVE that he's "the one"), then no one else (including your families) can be the judge of whether or not you are "too young." Listen to their advice & explain to them your reasoning & how you are prepared for marriage in a mature way.

Answer 6

I don't understand why you are in such a rush to get married and why you consider that putting off your life for someone elses feelings. I mean you are still young and have your whole life ahead of you. If this is true love then it will last a life time anyways, and getting married won't change that. Slow down and take your time and finish school. I can say this because I got married when I was 16 and then divorced 2years later. I am not saying you are me, however when you are young you don't always use your best judgement and you are in such a rush to grow up so fast, that we forget that we are still kids and aren't mature enough yet to make such grown up decisions. I hope you follow this advice and wait a couple more years. Good luck to you and please be patient

Answer 7

18 is the youngest i belive! I got married when i was 18 and though we have struggles there is a great love here and I wouldn't trade it for the world and not all young couples start out financially great infact alot of couples they both work full time struggle some and thats just the first couple humbling years of marriage! My Husband has a set career when we got married but he is 7 years older than I am we started dating when I first turned 18 and we married less than a year later it was love and we knew it and there was no reason for us to not start our lives together and start a family! i hope that all works out for you! BTW when you and your boyfriend are both ready then its time(if you are old enough) It's not going to not be time just because someone else says so! Follow your heart not the people that are judging and casting stones!

Answer 8

Give yourself enough time to really get to know each other as much as possible. Sit down and make a list of all the things that you like about him. Now, make another of the things that bother you about him. If you don't have any to list on the second list, you don't know him well enough yet.Believe me, there will be things. He needs to do this also. After you make your list, study them and see if you can live with these the rest of your life. It is stupid stuff that breaks up the relationships that were not meant to be in the first place. Things like, 1/he really hates to give up the remote. 2/He wants you to get up extra early so you can cook him a big breakfast.3/He really doesn't care for female drivers and pitches a fit if you are going somewhere together and want to drive.There are all kinds of silly stuff but these little things do cause big arguments.Why did you have to pay that much for those shoes ? All kinds of things. Really know in your mind that you can handle these and you are on your way.

Answer 9

How old are you? I don't think there's some magic age that people should reach before they get married. I know people who've gotten married very young who are together ten years later, and I know people who have married later in life who are divorced. Marriage is hard no matter how long you've been together, but if you both respect eachother and have the desire and are willing to work on the success of the marriage, then you're probably ready to make this big committment.

Answer 10

I'd say once you finish school. Doesn't matter what age you get married at really if the two people are committed to making the marriage work it will. Some people can get married at 18 and stay married forever, while others can wait until they are 30 (or older) and get divorced within a few years. Just depends on the people and their maturity, not necessarily their age.

Answer 11

I think around 22 or 23 is the youngest age one should consider getting married and the best age would be 27 plus.
I married at 18 and it didnt last.....i outgrew him. People change so much as they grow and I honestly dont think we truely grow up til we are at least 30.
I am sorry if this is not the answer you were hoping for. I thought I loved my ex....we were young and naive and I wanted to make it work at all costs. But there comes a day when you realised you have given up so much and sacrificed your youth.....and you are no longer even the same two people you used to be.