My husband is cheating on me.?

Question

I trusted him and never thought he could cheat on me. He becaem very distant, he has not had any intimacy with me for months, he disappeared on week ends and came back home telling non sense stories. He started coming to bed very late, going out a lot and coming back home at 4 or 5.am.
I feel so bad that I have decided to divorce him. I'm soo disapointed, I think I will ever be able to fall in love again.

Answer 1

Before you blame him for everything, look at yourself.

Answer 2

What a rotter!! You should confront him and ask him why?

Tell him how you are feeling and that you are thinking about a divorce.

Tell him that you are not a fool and that you have noticed all these changes in him.

Maybe Give him an ultimatum - her or you!! you never know he may realise his mistake and choose you.

If you are really set on the divorce then make sure that you get information so that the judge comes down on your side and not his after all he is cheating, which is committing adultery!!!

In connection with falling in love again, don't worry because you will, it will take time but it will happen.

I wish you all the luck in the world.

Answer 3

The sweetest revenge is to get fit and look great. I don't know if you are heavy or not but if you are, you need to get the ball rolling, for real. Some women when they are married, they lose themselves. Get so comfortable that they stop taking care of themselves. Let me tell you if you fit in this category, you will kill him with it by looking great. He expects you to look like an unfit mess. But if he is a rich guy and he's doing this to you, then let's just say he put you in a position where your dependent on him. So that's just the way it is. Take it or leave it.

This is just a lesson learned that's it. Your heart is crushed right now and that's why you feel and will continue to feel like that. It's okay, everyone goes through it. Just know that you will be okay. You have at least another 50 years of life to find love. Divorce him and get your cut!!

Answer 4

Good thing that you are getting a divorce... he was definitely cheating on you. It will take lots of Time for you to deal with this, and accept the fact that you have been betrayed. When the time is right, you will fall in love again, and you will be very happy. Keep yourself busy.. hang out with friends/ family, etc.... and enjoy being by yourself. Hang in there.. it will get better. You don't deserve to be treated like that, and you can find someone to treat you right.

Answer 5

You are one of the smart ones who is not going to continue living with a lying, two time snake in the grass. Good for you. Yes, you will be able to fall in love again, but next time, you won't be so gullible and you will be on guard if your man stays out till 4 a.m.

Answer 6

This is what happens in life; your heart will feel broken for a very long time. Even though it doesn't seem like you will ever be the same again, time really will heal your heart, and one day you will find that you are ready to venture out into the world again without worrying or thinking about him.

Answer 7

first off, let me say how sorry I am to hear this - I feel for you I realy do - I have been in your place and not only does it just downright stink,but it hurts realy bad


before you end it, talk with your husband, and tell him your feelings and how hurt you are and how dissapointed you are,,let him know exactly how you feel....
this is part of the closure for you , so that you can move on and heal...
you will be able to fall in love again ( I felt the same way) you need to give yourself time though

Answer 8

You will be able to move on, it's very hard. But just know this, it does sound like your ex was cheating on you, you need to know in your heart you deserve better and will find better. No one ever cheats on the person they truly love, regardless how bad it gets!
My ex cheated on me numerous times and I thought I could forgive him, but instead, I got even more pain by him cheating on me again and just putting me and our daughter through hell.
I never, ever thought I could move on in my life, I thought I could never fall in love with anyone else, but what made it easier was the fact for one, he ended our 6 yr. relationship for a girl he only knew for a few weeks, but what made it really easy to move on, was seeing the pain he had caused our daughter and for me to remember all the pain he had caused me in the past.
A real man who loves the woman he is with, will never do anything to hurt her, let alone, the children.
So, yes, in time you will be able to heal. Don't feel bad for divorcing your ex, feel bad for not knowing any sooner what type of person he is, but lift your spirits up by knowing you will find someone much better in your life.
Karma is a *****, your ex will get his and don't open that door to him when it hits him and he comes crawling back to you.

Answer 9

Take your time looking for love again. That will come in time. You have a lot of greiving to do for the end of your marriage. I'm sorry you are going thru that. Good luck.

Answer 10

girl oooooooohhh yes you will yes it is very very hard believe me iv been there it gets worse before it gets better believe me when i tell you. just take it day by day and you will be fine i thought i was useless and didnt want to be around no more but your better than that my friend believe me keep your self very busy get your hair nails done join the gym hang out with your family and friends get your house together stay busy have fun life is way to short...

Answer 11

Been there, done that, and I can say time will heal all wounds. Go through the grief process and then let it go because hanging onto bitterness is like drinking poison and hoping the other person will die.