I am 25 my wife is 24 and we have been married 3 years. I moved to AZ for work, wife was going to move in me 2 weeks later.
Instead while I was away started developing an online relationship over World of Warcraft the video game with a 21 year old kid.
She flew out there to Texas from New Jersey had sex with him, and moved in with him 2 weeks later.
She abandoned me, her family and all her old friends and has since started a new life.
His family found out she was married and his son is a homewrecker and will not have anything to do with them. Her family will not speak to her either as they are angry at what she did to me.
My wife tells everyone I'm verbally abusive, lazy, manipulative and I deserve to die... her family and friends are charecture witnesses that say otherwise...
She ignores any contact attempts on my part, no contact for 2 mos.
What are the chances of their affair actually working out? And what do I need to do if I want to win my wife back from this douchebag kid?
2007-11-15 15:52:43 · 17 answers · asked by BlaBla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Man that's rough, I can't imagine what I'd be like if my wife left me.Will the affair work out? A simple answer is NO, she'll probably try running back to you when she realizes she seriously screwed herself, But is that what you really want and need? Please ask yourself, Why is this my question? It seems you're willing to try to work these things out but consider my points.
First off I read your last Q about this subject and your very in-depth description and I can tell you it sounds like she'll never quit cheating. You seem like you have yourself together with a decent job and are relocating to a new area. Take this move as a start to a new life and leave her behind. She left you to live with her lovers friend, and she met her lover playing Warcraft? What an Immature, selfish but just plain stupid *****. you stated previously She said " I prayed to God to end our marriage and send me a man that makes me happy", what a F-ing joke, I guarantee no God had anything to do with it.
Of course she's gonna tell lies about you and try to make others sympathetic to her. It sounds like she's loosing respect with most of the people in her life, and from her past it seems she's full of lies and deceit anyway, I'm sure you see it and everyone else sees it too. Let Her go, yeah it'll be hard but she's already gone, how could you ever believe your marriage is OK if she came back anyways? You said in your previous Q that you caught her sending nude pics of herself to one of her fellow co-workers and when confronted she cried and said "sorry and nothing else happened". Do you really believe nothing else happened? She cheated, willingly moved out, there's proof and she isn't denying it at all, so you won't have to give her anything. It's time to man up, contact a lawyer, and move on with your life.
2007-11-16 01:37:27 · answer #1 · answered by Phonebreaker 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dont worry or feel bad feel happy that she showed you what she was no signs before marriage about this sort of thing?She seems like when its time to rough it out when you moved to another state she felt.How can she leave you the love her life husband after you went away to another state for work by meeting some guy online over war of the worlds or whatever game seems like this guy is young in love with a older woman who has no idea what hes gotten himself into i get your point hes young immature but your wife should know better.I am happy his family and her family have cut them out of their lives knowing what they did sometimes not all families do that if they did then cheating spouses partners would think twice.Please move on with your life get to work start a new life in a new state seems like a blessing in disguise then even though you might think its a curse its a blessing
2007-11-15 16:09:39 · answer #2 · answered by bodymindheartsoulunion 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why do you want this woman back? She has proved to you long ago that she does not love you....and the things that she is saying about you...that alone would be enough for me to never want someone back. You do not want this woman, you want the woman that you married. You want the woman that you fell in love with, is this that same woman? This wife of yours, and I wouldn't even go that far to call her that, met someone on line, cheated on you, abandoned you, and moved in with this guy...where exactly do you fit into forever with her? Can you save your marriage? If I was you, I wouldn't. It would be a very cold day in hell before I even considered trying to make my marriage work after all of that. Your wife wanted a new LIFE, now she has it. And one day her on line piece of s**t boyfriend will leave her...and then what will happen to her? Come crawling back? I would not be around for something like that. She left you first...remember that. Now its time for you to leave her and move on with your LIFE. Get a divorce, and if she refuses contact with you, tell the judge that...I think there are ways around this. Find a woman who deserves you, who is faithful, committed, loyal, loving, passionate, wonderful, and will take care of you.
Your wife's love for you was not strong enough, deep enough, was not committed, faithful, loyal, caring, genuine, supportive, real, giving, and could stand anything. You moved and she was suppose to be there with you in 2 weeks, and this is what happened. I don't think you have really realized what kind of cold hearted, decieving b***h she truly is. And I hope to GOD that you open your eyes soon and wake up....that woman is not the one for you and she has made that very clear. Move on....it is time.
2007-11-15 16:17:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The chances of this working out for them is probably closer to zero, especially since she didn't take her marriage vows too seriously the first time.
I know that men are naturally competitive so ask yourself this: Do you really want her back after all that has been said about you from her? Do you want to keep looking over your shoulder for the rest of your life because she's done this to you before? Are you wanting her back because you love her and want it to work or are you just trying to get back at this 21 year old kid?
Consider the possibility she may not want you back either, the chances of her doing this to you again are pretty high, especially if she doesn't know what she wants.
Just some food for thought, I don't envy you, kid, good luck.
2007-11-15 16:03:01 · answer #4 · answered by Yankee Micmac 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to go back with her? You will never trust her again and it will always come up when you argue.Don't get back with her to take her away from the young kid because they will have their reward and rather you should pray for them. A relationship that begins sinful will end badly. Let time heal your wound but do not search for her unless you want to hurt again.Forgive her and let it go. Rather thank God that you are no longer with her and have an opportunity to find someone new who will be loyal and faithful. May God bless you
2007-11-18 15:57:38 · answer #5 · answered by Elias G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you left your wife in another state and began to work she was surpose to move out there withyou in two weeks and she didnt moved in with some guy, Let me tell you something you may be in love with your wife but she is not in love with you if she can turn around and move in with some guy. If you want to work it out with your wife all well and good my point is can you trust her again because in marriage trust is a big thing. Its your choice to do what ever is good for you.
Best of luck
2007-11-15 16:14:43 · answer #6 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her let her go. If you stay in this relationship you'll only grow to hate her. She seems freespirted and even though she married you maybe she wasn't truly ready. If you stay in the picture and her family stays mad at her do you really think that's going to make her like you more? It's only going to push her into this kids arms. Leave them alone and let her realize that hes a kid on her own. But you standing in her way is only going to make her mad at you even if it for just selfish reasons.
2007-11-15 16:03:03 · answer #7 · answered by texasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has proved to you what her character really is. Divorce her and find some one else. Some one who wants to be faithful to you for life. Make sure you know the gal really well, before you marry again. Let your wife go, she isn't worth it.
2007-11-15 16:00:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"if you're going through stuff in your life,you hope for the best and struggle to keep it together,and when it collapses---after the inital shock and pain--------you look around and find you who you are."
There's something so personal so real about it.You know when you realize that movies don't always have happy endings and maybe that is a happy ending?'
2007-11-15 16:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really want her back after what she has done to you? .... move on and find someone that will love you for who you are not do this to you............. you would never be able to trust your wife again you would always have it in the back of your thoughts and wonder if she would do it again
2007-11-15 16:02:24 · answer #10 · answered by jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋