Controlling women and the men who love them?

Question

I'll never understand why I see the best men fall for/marry the most controlling women. Or, I should take that back, the y don't really become controlling until after marriage. Why is that? Is it because I've never been married that I can see how they behave?

One of my girlfriends suggested to another married girlfriend of ours to "make him a list, so that way he knows what he needs to do.." I wanted to punch her in the face.

I have become friends with a married man who's wife is like this. He is scared she will take everything from him if he leaves, but he is so unhappy. She treats him like a child, and yells constantly.

How can I help him find a way from this craziness?

Answer 1

first off there is NOTHING wrong being friends with ANYONE married,.......my wife is kinda controling and i`m not sure why but i love her and put up with it because i`m FAR from a perfect person and she puts up with me to.no one`s perfect.

Answer 2

First, if you are a single woman, you should not be trying to befriend a married man. Just out of respect for his relationship. If he's that unhappy and he cheats, you wouldn't want to be on the receiving end of the consequences with him. Second, men do change after they get married, its as if sometimes their wives have to tell them what to do because otherwise THEY WONT DO IT. Its a universal thing I think.

Besides, you never know how HE behaves at home, there's always 3 sides to a story - Her side, His side, and the truth. YOU dont need to help him do anything with his marriage, he needs to work it out with his wife. That's some complicated stuff you dont need to be in sweetie.

Answer 3

One day you will get married, and then you will understand.

Men - are wonderful creatures, but do not know enough to get in out of the rain. If you saw one up close like in a marriage, you would know this. They appreciate lists. They appreciate being told what to do. Otherwise, they would be completely lost.

I love my husband dearly, but it is news to him that our children have to have shoes and coats on everytime we go outside. He has to be reminded of this. He accidentally went to work a few days ago wearing two different shoes. These results are typical.

Your friend may seem self-directed enough to you, but that is only because you see him after some woman has been goodly enough to wipe the crud out of his eyes, brush his hair, and button up his shirt.

Answer 4

Well a husband is supposed to support the family, and the wife should get them to it if they don't. There's a point where it becomes abuse. I don't think they should yell or treat them like children when they are grown men. What he needs to do, is be a man... That's what he should do to get away from it. If she's violent, he needs to divorce. He should also see if she needs help, because a lot of times controlling people who yell a lot need psychiatric help.

Answer 5

Stay out of it its none of your business, you don't know whats really going on in his marriage. and no man should be talking to a single woman about his marriage.. to me it sounds like hes trying to get things started up with you.. that could be really devastating for his family his children . some men try to get sympathy and a little extra "fun" by using the I'm such a wonderful husband and shes a bad wife.. and the list that your referring to is called a HONEY DO list...

Answer 6

However, we women HAVE GIVEN MEN so much emotional attachment & dedication in love. Is that what you call the 50% divorce rate and over 70% of those filed by women? Is that what you call the feminist movement where women blame men for EVERYTHING? For example, a woman will overlook even the ugliest man or even the most poor man if he is ind & shows her his emotional side & love to her. A farmer doesn't buy a mule because it looks good but because it can do a lot of work. Similarly, women judge men based on their utility. "Will he work hard and give me the money he makes" is the criteria most women use. Likewise, a mother will rarely abandon her son, whereas a father MIGHT abandon his daughter for his girlfriend. How insulting. What right does a man have to his children in this country? YOU TELL ME WHAT RIGHT ANY MAN HAS TO BE A FATHER? When a woman leaves a man she's liberating herself. When a man leaves his woman he's abandoning her and the kids. It's an unfair double standard and if you "women" cared as much about equality as you claim men would be treated as equal parents. For the record, plenty of women abandon their children. One of the main ways is through abortion. But once the kid is born why abandon something that is gonna give you a paycheck for the next 20 years? Take away that guaranteed money and we'll see how great women are as parents. Likewise, in the world, women will put up with rape, abuse, etc, and STILL stay with their man. WTF? For the record, women commit just as much infidelity and they will also try to pass off another man's baby on their husband which is a double betrayal. In the U.S. women commit the MAJORITY of domestic violence, domestic abuse, and child abuse. Women also murder more children than men. Less than 1% of men will EVER commit ANY KIND of sexual offense. That percentage is even smaller for married couples. For you to include it as a reason women love men more shows how ignorant and hateful you are. Men don't rape. Rapists rape. I would be far more justified in claiming that child abuse is a female behavior or child murder is a female behavior than you claiming that rape is a male behavior. Every day of my life all I hear is how much women hate men. How we are to blame for everything. How we can't do anything right. Every mistake a woman makes is a man's fault. If a woman can't make as much it's because of sexism. If a man can make enough it's because he's a loser. I'm sick of the double standards and the ignorant little trolls like yourself who justify your own screwed up life by blaming men. Women don't love men any more than a farmer loves a mule. So long as that mule will pull and make money the farmer will care for the mule. The day that mule doesn't do enough is the day that farmer stops caring and sends the mule to the glue factory. That's what a woman's "love" is. We are but beasts of burden for you to exploit and discard. You know nothing of "love" that doesn't further your own privilege. Tell me how many women gave up their seats in the lifeboats so that a man could be saved? When the plane landed on the Hudson how many women stayed in their seats so that men could get off? Men love women more. We die for women we don't even know. What do you know of sacrifice or devotion? You only know privilege and entitlement. "Love" is the emotion you use to control a man. It isn't code by which you live your life. For that reason, women do not love men.

Answer 7

you need to stay out of his marriage for one thing, let him figure it out he dont need some chick that doesnt have a clue try and help him get a divorce. you really dont have a clue about men at all do you? you know what , come back and answer your own question after you marry .

Answer 8

That's just a poor excuse because no one is holding a gun to his head to make him stay. If he's so unhappy he wouldn't care if she took everything as long as he got peace of mind.
So stop taking the bait!

Answer 9

because you've never been married is right....and it sounds like she may have good reason, because he is talking to you...maybe he has a history of cheating. maybe he is feeding you a line of b.s. maybe he treats her the same or worse..maybe he does act like a child. guys will do anything for a piece...

have you ever heard of Karma? it is a FACT. what goes around comes around. you remember that the day you walk in on your man with some slut

Answer 10

But out of married folks affairs...its just bad karma and all around bad- he and his wife have to work through this-- you should not even be voicing your concerns with regards to his wife's treatment of him, he needs to resolve this on his own