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When you are not doing anything to provoke this behavior? Wouldn't that make you think THEY were cheating?

2007-11-15 14:38:30 · 14 answers · asked by thinkaspell 4 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Just last week. I was having lunch with my regular male colleague. He called but i really could not hear my phone so he got mad and accused me of having affair with this colleague of mine. He even threaten to kill him. I felt like the world is tumbling down as i had signed my freedom away when i took the vows. What is a married life? Having lunch = having affair???? i cried so hard and had to apologise to my friend. I felt bad.

2007-11-15 14:46:04 · answer #1 · answered by Troy Girl 5 · 1 0

My wife accused me for a while of cheating, when I had a job that involved travel. When I received the promotion, she was all for the new job. That all changed, when she saw me off at the airport and got a good look at my travel / business partner.

My partner (business) was a woman who was about 1/2 my age. She was a very pretty and voluptuous blonde. Think slightly shorter version of Pamula Anderson.

I had no interest in her as I'm a married guy and I don't leave my playground for nothing.

Anyway, for almost two years we traveled all over the United States and Canada, representing our company. Sometimes we traveled with other engineers or jobbers, but most times it was only the two of us.

My wife gave me nothing but grief all that time. It got to the point, where I told her I was either filing for divorce or she was going to shut up. I told her I did nothing to deserve this treatment and that she needed to grow up.

When the chance presented itself, I transfered to a job that didn't involve travel, but I took a pay cut to do that. Shortly after I transfered, my wife noticed the 13% paycut and wanted to know if I could transfer back.

I told her even if the raise was 25%, until she grows up, I won't transfer anywhere. Her constant pecking isn't worth it.

I'm still dealing with the wife’s little green monsters and yes, sometimes I wonder if her tirades are a smokescreen. I sure as heck haven't done a damn thing, to deserve her jealous outbursts.

2007-11-15 18:25:32 · answer #2 · answered by 2 Cents Worth 2 · 0 0

My ex used to accuse me of cheating while I was at work, lol. And again I will stress the "ex" part of the sentence. I ended up finding out that he was guilty of doing the cheating and I left. Of course when someone accuses you on a regular basis of cheating it would make me think they were the one guilty of it. Unless they had really bad self esteem issues that you should have noticed before the whole cheating accusations started. I would start getting to the bottom of your questions and start looking for answers as to why he is actually accusing you-- is he cheating or does he have low self-esteem-- I hope you find out soon so you don't waste your life unhappy and with someone who doesn't trust you.

2007-11-15 14:46:24 · answer #3 · answered by sincere087 2 · 2 0

not my husband now, but my ex was very bad about that. and i never cheated on him once. i wont say i didnt think about it, but i never did it. never got close to cheating on him. he even accused me of being with his sister, and i'm not gay or even bi. besides that, i dont even think his sister's cute, much less hot enough to make me change the way i am to learn about being with a woman. but now of course i have found out that he was messing with this one and that one the whole time we were together. i think i knew it in the back of my mind, but i never had proof.
it wasnt a secret that he accused me of cheating on him all the time. it even became a running joke. for example...his best friend was giving me a ride to town for something, and i was 7-8 mos pregnant, and he told my ex that he was gonna do me while we were out, and i was already pregnant so he couldnt do anymore damage to me. another thing, i got to where I asked HIM who i was doing. told him i needed to know because it might actually be somebody id want to remember. of the 10-15 people he accused me of, only one or two i would have ever thought about being with if i had the chance. the best friend was one of them, at the time anyway. now, hes still good looking, but ive found out some things about him too, so now itd be oh hell no! lol
seriously, if your guy is doing this, get away from him. hes a loser. he obviously doesnt trust you, and if he doesnt trust you, he cant truly love you. its a waste of time and energy trying to convince someone of something that they believe in their head.

2007-11-15 15:18:11 · answer #4 · answered by tonysdoll815 2 · 0 0

probable. people particularly often assume others to behave the way they do themselves. A liar will assume others to mislead him/her. A cheater will assume their better half to additionally cheat. in any different case, your better half is probable purely very insecure and could continually doubt you, no rely how plenty you attempt to allay those fears. the two way, i could injury it off now if I have been you. people by no ability replace and you will continually be accused of cheating and spend the the remainder of your existence justifying your self in case you reside in the relationship.

2016-12-16 10:11:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Either they are cheating or simply very insecure. However, either way, I would be on my way to counseling and if that did not stop the behavior, I would be on my way. Life is too short to deal with such nonsense. God bless****

2007-11-15 14:52:28 · answer #6 · answered by ? 7 · 1 0

Actually, when my sisters fiance was cheating he was constantly accusing her of cheating. So my best guess is, hes probably cheating.

2007-11-15 14:42:17 · answer #7 · answered by kylakryptonite 2 · 1 0

when a mate accuses you of this that.s a sig there cheating . to cover up what there doing to lay the guilt trip on you fact. ?

2007-11-15 14:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 1 0

Yes.

2007-11-15 17:28:05 · answer #9 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0 0

Is it possible at one time, someone in his life once cheated , not neccesarily him, and he CANNOT GET OVER IT!!!

2007-11-15 15:08:13 · answer #10 · answered by kbfourkids 2 · 1 0

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