Just curious...ive been divorced for 4 years and still uncertain about a lot...i just had planned to be with him...then he left and i had to start over and think of how i wanted to live my life...i messed up. I spent a lot of time worrying about guys that were losers, i stressed about them...i got drunk. Miraculously i still kept the same job and am in grad school...my goal now is to buy my own condo...in boston it's tough to do that on your own. Sometimes i feel like, poor me ):
2007-11-15 16:24:19 · 7 answers · asked by Lilly d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
but it's been 4 years and i still feel lost!
2007-11-15 16:37:31 · update #1
dont b so hard on urself!u have obviously been hurt!time will heal!sounds like u got alot goin 4 u!
2007-11-15 16:29:50 · answer #1 · answered by Don't take life 4 granted 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I jumped headlong into my newfound freedom. I was determined to latch onto a man. I guess it was because I was so hurt, but it was definitely not how to get over it. A year later, I had a fight on the phone with my ex. I was still broken hearted and I guess I thought somehow I could get him away from the other woman. Things weren't working out that way, and this last phone conversation seemed to have brought a close to the marriage. I stopped looking for somebody to fill the emptiness.
Two months later, I met a guy online who I wasn't interested in, but he was nice, so I talked to him anyway. We kept talking for several months, then met in the real world, and now we've been married going on three years.
That was me, but I'm not you. When it's time, your true love will come along. Don't settle for anything less. It sounds like you've got it together as far as work and education.
2007-11-16 00:50:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shubunkin 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it took me about 4 years to feel confident in myself again, but whenever i get upset about something my mind still wonders back to the past, whenever i get stressed. i still find myself asking why it all happened like it did no matter how many times i think i have it all worked out. i am beginning to meet goals i never thought i could, i am now more confident than i was when married, so i have come along way since the divorce, it changed me for the better. i often think back to the girl i use to be and my perception of things and they aren't the same, gone is that uncertain girl who had no idea how to handle life and its problems. so divorce was a good thing for me, got me totally away from someone who did not allow me to grow and think for myself.
2007-11-16 06:37:07 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
About 30 seconds.
2007-11-16 01:03:41 · answer #4 · answered by TryItOnce 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take your time. It took me 8 1/2 years to get to were I trusted someone. Don't rush it. Prayer helps too.
2007-11-16 00:46:54 · answer #5 · answered by Bree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get it together because you sound like you are off to a really good start.
2007-11-16 00:35:24 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A few years.
2007-11-16 00:29:38 · answer #7 · answered by dude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋