Why do married women hate for their husbands to masterbate?

Question

My wife gets offended that I masterbate occassionally. She rarley wants sex, maybe once or twice a month. Rather than constantly bug her for it, I take care of myself. She feels she should be enough, and I might have a sexual addiction. She says all married women rarely give it to their men, especially after having kids.

Let me clarify something. I rarely masterbate to porn, heck I rarely get to masterbate. I service my wife fully whenever we have sex. I do ANYTHING she wants. She orgasms first before I even think about finishing...sometimes twice. When she's in the mood, watch out. She goes all out, but the other 28 days of the month she wants to be left alone. I have no problem giving her whatever she wants when she wants it. She just refuses to do any more. Therapy didn't help. It seems to be an effort problem. If she has to put forth effort, she isn't interested.

Answer 1

Your wife is either nuts or hanging around awful women.

Unfortunately, it's probably #2.

There is this HUGE crowd of women who simply don't have sex with their husband, or make them feel like crap for getting it. I don't know why. Life is too short - f*** your brains out.

Happy spanking.

Answer 2

I'm a male married to a woman for 36 years. She has had 2 kids which are now grown. Whenever i wanted sex, she always had a tv program coming up,(she's totally addicted to tv-has been ever since i've known her). So its like well we can have sex but must be finished within 10 mins . I have a movie coming.
I havent had sex w/ her now in over 10 years ! I take care of it for the most part and occasionally get someone else to do it for me too.
It doesnt bother me . I have sex all the time either thru masturbation or a little help from my friends:)

Answer 3

I think shes full of crap. Shes using that as an excuse.

Now I can understand why a woman would not be pleased with you taking care of yourself if she was always willing and yet you still did it. That might make her feel less than attractive in your eyes.

What men and women forget once they are married and have kids is that thing called consideration. Men have testosterone which promotes sexual cravings. Females also have testosterone but in a lesser amount. This lesser amount can be even less after childbirth. Thus, its easy to have less sex drive while the husband still has the same as he ever has.

Now if its something like she's had the baby and doesnt feel real sexual because of the recency of the childbirth or because of her physical condition shape wise, you have to be understanding. Now if shes past that point and just being nasty, then you have a whole other issue to deal with.

Understand that a woman peaks sexually at age 40. Until then, you will have a more advanced sex drive. Especially once the little screamers come out.

Kindly tell her that once a month doesnt satisfy you and that if shes not willing to be more sexually active with you, then you have no other choice but to deal with it yourself.

Its not like you are cheating and its not like you are neglecting her. Just kindly remind her that you arent running around chasing women like a lot of men do.

Just talk to her and be calm.

Answer 4

For me... I get offended because I'm the one that constantly wants it... And, if I'm turned down because he took care of business himself... Then that is a BIG problem in my book.... On the other side of it... If she doesn't want it, then why does that make you have an addiction?! I mean if she isn't in the mood 28 out of 30 days and you are... then by all means... take care of business.... IMO, the only time she can complain is when it gets in the way of the two of you.

Answer 5

My SO couldn't give me enough even if we were to have sex 10 times a day. I love having sex with him and dont see that ever changing. But yes-he does occasionally twist one off himself and it doesn't bother me at all. there are times when I just want to get off and don't necessarily want sex or he isn't available, so I handle it myself as well.

If she isn't giving you sex but once or twice a month, then she should EXPECT to handle the "problem" yourself. She is very misinformed on the married women rarely give it up thing.

Answer 6

When my husband is home (he works over the road) we have sex every other day or more and he still masturbates. I could care less. Its not like someone else is playing with it. Buy her a toy and tell her to try it out. Having two kids never slowed my sex drive (except for the first 2 months because I was exhausted)

Answer 7

I have no idea. I am engaged and have been with him for 1.5yr. We have active sex lives--3 times a week. But I still masterbate and am open about it. I ask him how often he does and he claims that he doesn't but I know that isn't true. I am not sure why it upsets her. To me it is natural and everyone does it. Maybe I am wrong?

Answer 8

Masturbating isn't harmful. Are you sure your hair loss was due to touching yourself?! Anyway, I'm sure your husband does it too, unless it's against his religion or something. And Joe C, that is so sexist! Why is it OK for a man but not for a woman?!

Answer 9

I would personally hate my husband to masturbate because I want him to come to me with those needs. I want to satisfy him. But in your shoes I can understand why you take care of yourself. 2 times a month means there is something going on in your marriage - I couldn't go less than 3 times a week. God I hope our sex life doesn't change to 2 times a month after I have this baby. Maybe you should have date nights to fire things up?

Answer 10

I don't mind at all. She doesn't sound very sexual. I want sex all the time, always have and always will. We've had 4 kids and still go at it 3-5 times a week. You sound totally normal and I doubt you have an addiction problem. You might need to get her into counseling to address her issues. Good luck and keep spankin it ..lol............it's totally normal.