his wife about getting back together with her behind my friends back, he says it was for the kids. I say it wasn't and that he was still in love with her or he wouldn't have done that. He still has more than the normal amount of communication with his ex and it bothers my friend to the point that she doesn't care any more what the reason is and is moving out. She is sitting here with me and we have bet each other a massage at the day spa that 1. I say he is still in love with her but pride won't let him go back to her 2. She says it is because of the kids. He really bends over backwards to make the ex happy at my friends expense and gets mad at her when she brings it up. She is pretty much over him, so that is why the bet......
2007-11-15 07:00:13 · 15 answers · asked by Rein 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What does it sound like to you.
2007-11-15 07:00:31 · update #1
I think the loser guy doesn't know what he wants and when he steps back into that pile of dog crap again, he'll want something else. No one gets back together because of the kids, they get back together because of each other. Let them both get what they deserve, each other!
2007-11-15 07:04:07 · answer #1 · answered by jacquie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Jenny Lynne. You have planned your wedding well before she did. You may only have one day, however, it takes time to plan a wedding. Planning in which you would like your BM to be involved. You don't just plan your whole wedding the day of. The week before my wedding I had so much stuff to do it was crazy. I would ask your friend if she feels that she still would be able to have time to be in/help you with your wedding. I would also tell her your concerns, not about her getting married a week before you, but about thinking this guy is only using her for a green card. It might turn on a light bulb in her head and she might start to realize that she doesn't really know this guy.
2016-05-23 07:19:19 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ha!! this sounds messy to me!! First off..you have to include attachment in this...he could still be very attached to her and though he might not want to be with the ex-wife, old habbits are hard to kill. the kids would be a big one too. Thats always hard. As much as he knows that he dosn't want to be with her, it's a hard thing to leave when you are so used to it! Its heartbreaking. So I actually think it's both. He will all ways love his ex-wife...unless she's a diviouse *****!!! There will always be that place..I think that you should have backed down and let him go through the stages of chang and letting go before you jumped in. To much pressure on a man when he feel vulnerable, will kill anything... Note to self....don't do this again. As it may seem that he was spending to much time with her, if you don't trust him, why put everyone through the heart ach.
2007-11-15 07:07:34 · answer #3 · answered by erikagoodpasture 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like the dude just wants to make things right. I wouldn't think anything of it. Kids need to be put in front of everything else. You should have thought about that before jumping into a relationship with a guy that has baby mama drama.
2007-11-15 07:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
River, be sure to pre-heat the oven to 350 degrees. Make sure the turkey is defrosted. Rub some salt and pepper on the turkey and put the bird in a roasting pan. Cover the turkey with tin foil. Bake the turkey for 4 to 6 hours, depending on the size. Call your friend and invite her to dinner.
2007-11-15 07:06:45 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have a smart friend who wised up and dumped the bumb! It doesn't matter whether or not he still loves his ex wife. The fact is, he didn't treat your friend with the dignity and respect that she deserves and so now she is rising above that heap of crap. Good for her. Buy her a drink.
2007-11-15 10:10:05 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Broken relationships don't work suddenly for the kids... a grown man knows that. He still has feelings for her.
2007-11-15 07:06:03 · answer #7 · answered by tammylofgreen 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How did you determine what a normal amount of communication with his ex is??
2007-11-15 07:04:45 · answer #8 · answered by Renaissance Man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He still loves his wife, i'm a married woman and that's the chance you take when you start dating a man who is freshly divorced or is still married separated or not. You reap what you sow, she shouldn't have come in the middle of their relationship.
2007-11-15 07:05:12 · answer #9 · answered by madeam3 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Who are you anyway,just mind your own business.I think you are the one who wants her husband.
Please go to a website where you can get you pal and talk about him.
You are crowding the site
Get lost
2007-11-15 07:25:59 · answer #10 · answered by Temba 1 · 2⤊ 1⤋