i HAVE BEEN SEPARATED FROM MY HUSBAND FOR 3 YEARS. HE WAS ALWAYS VERY ABUSIVE, HE COMMITED DOMESTIC VIOLENCE FOR 23 YEARS TO ME, HE HAS BEEN HARRASING ME CALLING ME TRYING TO SCARED ME SO I CAN SIGN THE PENSION PLAN PAPER, BECAUSE HE WANTS TO COLLECT ALL FOR HIS SELF IN A LUMP SUM. HE SAID HE RATER SEE ME DEATH, THAN GIVING ME ANY MONEY, I DO NOT KNOW ANYTHING ABOUT PENSION PLANS, I DONT EVEN HAVE AN IDEA OF HOW MUCH MONEY HE IS TALKING ABOUT. HE HAS BEEN TRYING TO FORGE MY SIGNATURE, HE WORKS FOR 28 YEARS AND HE GOT FIRE FOR BEEN DRUNK ON HIS JOB. hE ALSO REFUSES TO PAY ME CHILD SUPPORT. CAN SOMEONE HELP ME!!!!HE IS VERY PARANOID NOW, AND HE IS SO ANGRY BECAUSE HE CAN NOT GET THAT MONEY WITH OUT MY SIGNATURE. adrianaflornomas@yahoo.com
2007-11-15 06:32:59 · 8 answers · asked by Adriana M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are entitled to half of his pension. Some might not say that is right, but 23 years is a long time. He's entitled to half of yours if you have any. Indeed, talk to a lawyer about this and the child support. Don't be afraid to call the police on him if he causes you trouble.
2007-11-15 06:42:58 · answer #1 · answered by Johanna 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do call the police and have one come to your house and take a police report on this. Then tell the policeman you want to call your husband while he is there using a speaker phone..if you do not have one..get one. Then let the officer hear what your husband has to say to you. He can get arrested right then as a parole violation if he is on parole. You can also get a paper from the court saying that he is not allowed within so many feet or yards or miles of you... not sure which .. if he violates that you can have him immediately arrested by calling 911. Do not tell him your plan or anyone else your plan about having the officer come on over. Just do it and do it today. If you do not have a speaker phone go borrow or get one now THEN call the police officer.
Make sure if he writes any of these threats to you that you keep them safely with a friend or submit them to the court with your request to force him to stay away from you and your kids. Remember to include them in the request.
You are entitled to half that money in the pension. Do not sign it over to him.
God bless you. Now hurry up and go call the police to make a report about him making terroristic threats to you.
2007-11-15 14:45:57 · answer #2 · answered by Lisa of America 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a lawyer honey!! It's obvious he is going to try to screw you in a lot of ways. If you cannot afford a lawyer, contact the Legal Aid for your state. Every state has one. And if you truly cannot afford a lawyer (they'll determine that), they'll do it for free. Child Support cannot be enforced unless their is a court order. Pension.....you are entitled to some of the funds. What I suggest you do is contact his company or the company holding his pension and let them know now that you are NOT going to sign off on it, unless you get your cut. He wants to screw you, so now its your turn to screw him.
2007-11-15 14:42:44 · answer #3 · answered by Rica 82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get an attorney. Get a restraining order against him. Doesn't listen to him. Don't sign anything without an attorney.
2007-11-15 18:29:41 · answer #4 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are entitled to 50% of his pension. Why do you think he's so adamant about this to begin with? Of course...if you agree to forfeit and not touch it and sign...well....you've screwed yourself out of 50% of his earnings.
2007-11-15 15:02:50 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the police do not sign anything and get a lawer if you have any questions email me at nicoleabreu22@yahoo.com
2007-11-15 14:39:18 · answer #6 · answered by nikkie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree, police, restraining order, lawyer. Good luck.
2007-11-15 14:41:53 · answer #7 · answered by marilynlovely 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have 1 very important suggestion. Quit typing in all caps. I find it rude.
2007-11-15 14:50:31 · answer #8 · answered by Sam 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋