Marry you?? What??

Question

I want to marry my fiance' of two years, but as of now, it would have to be a courthouse wedding. I want to have a real wedding, and am afraid of what my family will think of me for having a courthouse wedding. I don't know what to do.

My fiance' doesn't care either way. He just wants to get married. I was planning something for this year, but found out I was pregnant in February, so all the money went to our beautiful son.

Answer 1

A courthouse wedding is a real wedding. It is just cheaper. I had a big wedding and my wife and I both say if we had it to do all over again we would've eloped and married at the courthouse or some little chapel. You will be just as married and it will be just as true either way. It is your wedding though so who really cares what everyone else thinks?

Answer 2

So what is your real concern? not having a full blown wedding? or what your family will think if its just at the courthouse? If the answer is the second then you need to rethink your priorities. If the reason you are not having your dream wedding is a financial one why don't those who would be complaining pitch in and get you one?
See the problem with family is that they all impact your life decision but they never seem to actually do anything about the issues.
Live, love and enjoy ... whether big wedding or courthouse you still will marry the one you love and the title will be the same. Who knows you can always have the real ceremony later.

Answer 3

you want to marry and your family won't like it if its a courthouse wedding.
Honey what does your fiance' want? You two are building a life together it should start with the two of you agreeing on a wedding.
As others have said there are as many ways to get married as there are wedding couples. We had a courthouse wedding, for many personal reasons that worked for us. You want a real wedding think about a small chapel, candlelight, inexpensive and a wonderful reception either at someones home or at a hall and everyone celebrate. I love garden weddings, they are so beautiful. I have seen second and third marriages with the white gown and 7 attendants in a church.
Go with what you can afford and what you two feel comfortable with. I think its the marriage itself thats the most important thing.

Answer 4

A) Who cares what everyone else thinks of you?

B) What is wrong with a courthouse wedding as long as you guys are getting married....isnt that what counts-the commitment?

C) Do the courthouse now-for an anniversary-such as 1, 5, or even 10 years-have a "renewal ceremony".....Throw the wedding of your dreams then.

D) If you know you are going to be with this man forever-what is the rush to get married? Wait a couple more years and have the wedding of your dreams then.

E) Why does it "HAVE" to be courthouse? What are the circumstances causing that?? be more specific there and you might receive some better answers....

Answer 5

Why can't you have a "real" wedding? Finances? Ask your family their thoughts. You could get married simply, still in a church and maybe have an informal reception. It doesn't have to be a courthouse wedding. I think it is just crazy what people are spending on weddings now. Thousands and thousands of dollars. Especially when most of these people are already in debt up to their eyeballs. Foolishness. It is only one day. If you don't have the money, do something small and special with just your family. After all, the most important thing is the person you love, not the lavish ceremony, right?

Answer 6

There is not a big deal in getting married in courthouse. This done because there are some person who cant afford big weddings. But the good thing is that you both are very happy getting married after 2 years. This is more important than just not celebrating in big way.
If you think of society and family, then this is very wrong. End of the day that really counts is your husband. Ther are people who wants to show the world what they can do and how big ther marriage was. But all this are material and a true loving couple would rather spent all that money in settling down and avoid wastage and try to save whatever they can for their future.
Please do not show world but show to your lover that all this doent matter to tyou and you are very happy as you are.
THIS WILL BUILD MORE TRUST AND BOND between both of you.
All the best for your courtwedding.
I am with you.

Answer 7

What is wrong with a court house wedding? That is where I think most people should get married...and heres why= "MONEY"= Why start off right away with bills coming out your nose just from having wedding that will make money for others? WHO CARES WHAT OTHER PEOPLE THINK ABOUT WHERE YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED? You can have family and friends also at the court house when you get married and guess what? The most it will cost you will be for the marriage licence and maybe giving the justice of piece a little money on the side for their services. WOW thats it!! Then you'll have more money to save up or spend on that "HONEYMOON" to celebrate. I WISH YOU LUCK IN WHATEVER YOU DO!! CONGRATS TO YOU AND YOUR S/O

Answer 8

If you feel that you want to settle for a courthouse weeding then go ahead. Maybe in a few years from now you can have a wedding the style your family wants.

Answer 9

Have a courthouse wedding and then a reception somewhere. Or have your wedding at home and have a JP perform the ceremony. There are many inexpensive ways to exchange vows that can include family and friends.

Answer 10

Do whatever you want, the wedding is about you and your fiance, not about your family. Why don't you have a courthouse wedding and then have a reception later for everyone to celebrate. It doen't have to be fancy, just a get together, even a barbecue would be fun.