I am 19 and my boyfirend is 22. We have been together for almost 4 years now. How long should we wait. My sister and her fiance were together off and on for 5 and got marrierd at 20. WE havent had any serious problesm like them, just usual things, but now i wonder if we should wait to get married a little longer.
2007-11-15 08:26:01 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm in my mid 20's now and just recently got engaged. I do have to say that I've learned a lot about life just in the past few years. So you're 19... you may change, you may notice things that you never noticed before as you get older... Also I know a few couples who got married right out of high school and they are still happily married. I don't think that age has a lot to do with it... I think it has more to do with you and your bf and if you guys are on the same page and if the two of you are in for the long term commitment then I say go for it!
2007-11-15 08:48:47 · answer #1 · answered by Riley's Mommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes, I would wait a little longer. I was married at 22, engaged at 21, and realize now that both I and my husband still had a lot of growing up to do. At this age you think you know what you want and who you are, but it changes so much in the next few years. If I had to do it over again, I would probably have waited until my mid to late 20's, so I had more "Life experience" behind me - paying bills, work, budgeting, house keeping, maybe travel, etc. We are still together 23 years later, but we had our rocky patches, due mostly to immaturity and the changes as we matured.
Just remember, its commitment that makes it last, whatever your age at the start.
2007-11-15 16:38:06 · answer #2 · answered by Barb Outhere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's up to you just know that marriage is a serious commitment. If you love eachother there is no rush, Iam 22 and I got engaged early, now my wedding is next week. My hubby is going to be 31 this april. Alot of people ask me the same question like you are so young. I have always been mature for my age. I say to people that I have met the love of my life, he makes me the happiest person. We don't know where we would be without eachother. So if you feel like you two are ment to be togther, go ahead if you know that's what you want. Like I said there is no rush, you could even get engaged first, and just make a date for a few years down the line, when you are positve you are ready. Hope my adviced helped. I wish you the best of happiness!
2007-11-15 16:45:31 · answer #3 · answered by mommy08 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends what you want to accomplish before you "settle down". If you want to finish college or other schooling, it may pay to wait. If you want to save money for a house or condo, it may pay to live at home some more to keep putting serious $ aside, so again, wait awhile. Otherwise, there is no "good" time or set time to wait. Some people are more mature at 19 and 22 than others are at 35 and 50. But- that being said, I think looooong engagements (years) are kind of dumb-even if you are committed and plan to marry, being engaged more than 9 months to a year is kind of ridiculous.
2007-11-15 16:38:30 · answer #4 · answered by GEEGEE 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't even THINK about marriage until you are done with college, have a place of your own, a steady job, and are completely self sufficient. By then you will be old enough, mature enough, and smart enough to know if making a LIFELONG commitment to somebody is something you're ready for. I would say 25'ish. But getting married at 19? You're not even old enough to have champagne at your wedding or rent a car on your honeymoon!
PS: So when you were 15 your boyfriend was 18? Not sure how I'd feel about my 15 year old teenage daughter dating an 18 year old adult! Can you say "statutory rape"?
2007-11-15 16:44:40 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think there is a "good" age. Personally I wouldn't stay just engaged for more than a year and a half. So when you do decide to get engaged be sure that you can get married too.
I got engaged when I was 23 and my husband was 23.
2007-11-15 16:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by MommyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends on the people. If either of you are still in college I would suggest graduating first. My husband and I met when I was 19 and he was 25. We dated 3 yrs, got engaged and got married a year after that (I was 24 and he was 29). I think the time period was perfect for us. But it all depends on you...whatever feels right
2007-11-15 16:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sara 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Well, I would like to give you a figure, but that isn't the way it works. A persons ability to engage themself in marriage is as individual as personality. No one number can be presented. Simply put, certain people will mature faster than others and will be more ready to make that decision. Only you can tell if you are truly ready to make that leap. Hope this helps. Personally, I'd say 24-26. Matured enough to have lived, but young enough to live.
2007-11-15 16:37:01 · answer #8 · answered by chuckachoo 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, I was preganant wit Bud's baby at 15 and we was married at 17 and then we had the twins, Betsy Lou and Regina, then he took custody of his sisters and his's baby and he had 5 more with different girls, and i had two more.I love the family life, but be ready to make some sacrifices!!!
2007-11-15 16:45:43 · answer #9 · answered by Isabella R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no such a good age to get marriage.
You should get married when you and the person you love feel you're prepared.
Getting engaged and eventually getting married means you're positive the other is the right person for you and you for him.
Get engaged only for love.
2007-11-15 16:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Yasam 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋