i have been married for 71/2 yrs and i put my wife through hell. i was told by 3 different doctors i have inattentive ADHD & anger problems also panic attacks. i really don't remember all the bad things i did. i'm on meds now & i treat her like a queen. someone please HELP.
2007-11-15 07:58:24 · 7 answers · asked by jamez1124 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i feel sick about what i have done( mental abuse)
2007-11-15 08:01:17 · update #1
You should treat her like you were dating. Buy her flowers, take her on dates, woo her all over again. And most importantly go to marriage counseling to let her work through some of her issues!
Good luck! :)
2007-11-15 08:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she wanted to leave, she would have by now, so put that aside. Be the great guy she married to the best of your ability. By that I mean the whole courtship type stuff. Also, do some research on your conditions to see what might help. For example, a lot of ADD type stuff is caused by a lack of omega 3 in the diet. That's not a tricky thing to fix. It is unlikely to be a full cure, but it can certainly help. As for the anger problems, you are allowed to be angry. Everyone has the right to be angry, but there are some ways to express it that are ok, and some that aren't. Consider the ways you express anger that you'd rather you didn't, and see how you can train yourself to respond more appropriately. See what sorts of things trigger you off that shouldn't, and think what you can do about it. Read all those self help books down at the library. Some look like a lot of crap, but it might give you some food for thought. At the very least, you'll be showing yourself to be an active participant in your life, rather than a victim, and that's far more attractive :) Ask your wife's opinion on what you discover. It's a journey for the two of you to take together.
2007-11-15 08:12:24 · answer #2 · answered by Rosie_0801 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she has stayed married to you for 7 1/2 years while you were an *ss, she already loves you. Keep treating her right and telling her how amazing she is. We girls like to hear it, but we also like to see things that make us feel special. Flowers are nice but seeing things is better.
2007-11-15 08:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by bryn 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell her you went to Doctors and found out what is wrong. Tell her you would like to start a new life with her all over again. She may not go back but at least you can say you tried.
2007-11-15 08:13:27 · answer #4 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get therapy, u show her u have changed by your actions and future behavior. the past is the past, and u know what u did to her so its a new beginning most people don't get. if she is still with u after all this she probably isn't going anywhere. just treat her as if she is the most important thing in your life.
2007-11-15 08:14:11 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep doing what you are doing now. Sounds like she loves you already, since she stayed with you that long.
2007-11-15 08:13:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, You court her all over again ! Ask Jesus to soften her heart and fall in love as you did when you first met !
2007-11-15 08:15:05 · answer #7 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋