2007-11-15 19:09:15 · 23 answers · asked by freespirit 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My friend married this girl who is an addict and he doesn't trust her to go any where by herself. When he's at work she leaves to do her thing. I tried to tell him she probably wouldn't change after they were married. I don't think it will last because on their wedding night she disappeared to probably score a hit. Will it last! What do you think?
2007-11-15 19:28:55 · update #1
Another thing the preacher that married them knew all about it and never offered any kind of pre marriage couseling. What kind of a preacher lets two people get married knowing it will probably end in divorce? No he didn't get paid to marry them. Any responses!
2007-11-16 08:55:02 · update #2
absolutely not.
When people are on drugs that is their priority.
Not you, not their job, not their family or their friends. Unless drugs are involved in any of those.
No matter how hard you try you will not be able to change them or help them until they want it.
There is no rush in marrying someone. You can still love them and be with them without marriage.
Okay you posted additional information since I posted my answer.
My thoughts are that there will never be any trust in the relationship. She will continue to hide things and be mad at him for trying to protect her. She will deny deny deny. It will make him more irritated and eventually it might lead into divorce.
I just pray that a light bulb will come on for her and she will want help while her husband is still around to help her.
2007-11-15 19:14:34 · answer #1 · answered by ILoveBeingAMom 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I love how some people come right out with a answer (NO) or absolutely not. I did fall in love with someone on drugs and we even married. I'm not with him now but the drugs wasn't the reason we slit up. We just fell out of love with each other end of story. Not all drug user are bad you could be with one right now and wouldn't know it,would you stop loving him because he or she has a problem. And if you are thinking i am on drugs I'm not,i don't use drugs. I wonder out of all the people that said no to the answer how many of you smoke weed or drink, both are drugs by the way.
2007-11-15 19:30:27 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No. If I get married, then that means I want to start a family and I most certainly not raise my children in that kind of environment.
2007-11-15 19:21:58 · answer #3 · answered by James Bond 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't marry someone who is addicted to drugs until they had completed and been sucessful with a rehab program. Drug addiction can cause, abuse, stealing to get money for drugs, and many other elements that you really do not want in a marriage.
2007-11-15 19:14:47 · answer #4 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 2⤊ 2⤋
No it will never last unless she gets off drugs which is unlikely .Someone addicted to drugs only lives for the drug
2007-11-15 20:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by jimm_b 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i did. i love him but its not a good issue. oxy/vikes/mary. seems small but its a big deal!! if ur thinkin about it -dont- if addicted they have love 4 u both n cant choose. it takes alot to get off. i dont do them- when hes on them hes happy with alot of energy when off u cant get him out of bed for a day. 'withdrawn'. around 16.17 he tryed everything-had no money lost his jobs etc but got caught dealin n went to prison for 4 years. found doctor pills n hasnt stoped that drug. it puts a wall up on ''us''.
2007-11-15 19:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by J.D. 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
if i had known before hand that he was an addict, i probably wont even consider having a relationship with him...most drug addicts have the tendency to put their needs and themselves above all other things...and they also have the tendency to be violent and destructive towards themselves and others....
but if i found out about his addiction after becoming his gf...and if i love him that much, i would probably do my best to help him recover and get better before we get married...marrying him with his current affliction, will complicate things and might even lead to problems, terrible fights and finally divorce....
2007-11-15 19:23:08 · answer #7 · answered by geisha 5 · 0⤊ 3⤋
i'd marry a guy who were addicted to drugs.. but not is addicted to drugs.. because if you marry a guy addicted to drugs then you'll still end up living him alone because you cannot be happy living with a soon to be insane person if he does not stop taking drugs...
2007-11-15 19:17:12 · answer #8 · answered by pretty tetz 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Your life will go down the toilet. Your future will be spent trying to hide the few pennies you have.
There won't be any trust in the one you supposedly love.
In no time, you will be a mental wreck.
The Rat
2007-11-15 19:22:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
My father was a drug addict so when I look for a man..That is ONE thing I
DO NOT WANT..
Love has no limits but it can be a choice-
2007-11-15 19:22:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋