my bf is 24 n me 21 i m pursuing my PG n my bf is doing business .he is a muslim n i m hindu his family n my family doesn't know abt ur affair his parents is planning for his marraige n i m just 21 n stdying , first i want to finish my stdying n then can decide abt my marraige and other things but i love him so much right now he is going to see a girl for marraige (he already reject 3 girls earlier ) he loves me more than i love him but said i donn't wanna to force u do as wht u want ,do wht makes u happy . when i tell him that if we get married n my parents doesn't convience then the whole life i cann't face them ,he said if my parents didn't convience then we will live seprately ..................i really donn't know wht to do plz help me
2007-11-15 19:31:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he is love to marry wd me ,even me too but its too early i m just 21 i want to study ,he said if we get married then after certain all get relaxed but i really donn't know wht to do?
2007-11-15 19:53:53 · update #1
From your question, I believe you already knew the answer.
Fact is that if you go with him, you practically terminate all ties from your family and what happens if your mariage fail?
You can't fall back to your family.
And how well accepted will you be in his family?
There are better option ahead for you I believe, wait abit and I sure you will be happier with your choice.
2007-11-15 19:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by electricgold2002 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what your customs dictate that you must do but I think that you should do what makes you happy. Can he tell his family that he has found a girl that he wants to marry? Do you need your parents permission to marry? If the only thing that you are worried about is them being upset because you did not do what they wanted than don't worry about it. You are an adult and should be able to choose your own spouse. Good luck.
2007-11-15 19:43:00 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't want to lose this man to another woman you better say you will marry him. Look at your situation like this,when your through with all your studying would you rather be going home to him or would you rather be going home to mom and dad and be thinking of the love of your life is married to someone else. You will be sad and thinking how you will never be with him ever again to hold or to make love to. Can you handle that i know i sure couldn't.
2007-11-15 20:06:04 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
21 is a little too yung to b thinking and worryin bot things like marriage it wud b wise to concentrate on yur pg and complete it. love and right man will come by yu at the correct age.
concentrate on buildin yur CAREER first then all will fall in place by itself after marriage all hell will break loose yu know hw it is in yur place wen it is an inter-community marriage possiblity is also this that this guy can b asked to leave the family and the bussiness wat will yu then eat? do yu think yur parnz will support yu? if they will then it is not an issue if they don't?
leave all this for the time-being and for atleast 2 more years concentrate on studies and CAREER building if he loves yu so much ask him to wait till then else there ar lots of handsome guys whom yur parnz will find find for yu
in today's world if yu ar not CAREER oriented, yu will hav no value wat-so-eva this is the ripe time to focus on studies, do it
i wasted my college life after gal and love while my other frnz studied and made a CAREER for themselves Now it is juz me and my envious heart that ar together
so yu know hw important it is to study NOW don't become another me.
Good Luck.
2007-11-15 20:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by 13 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Usually the parents are wise and try to do what's best for you. Do they tell you why they object? Is it because you have a different religion? I think you should listen to them. Afterall, he is interviewing another woman to be his wife.
I don't know what country you are in...maybe India? In the US you and he could marry without parents permission, but I think it's best to have the consent of both of your families.
Joy to you...
2007-11-15 19:45:05 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
finish study first okay? cus it's more important than relationship if u love him truely u should try to tell ur parents about it if they still disagree then ...than u got to work out a plan wif ur bf i dun knw how and who are ur parents so i cant say much .. but remember STUDY come first and family too....(depend) (srry ) try out a plan to make ur family agree for ur relationship ..?or...other things.
2007-11-15 20:05:13 · answer #6 · answered by applestory 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Im sorry, I wish I knew more about this .. good luck someone will be able to help you
2007-11-15 19:37:41 · answer #7 · answered by rosiepinkfairy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to school and do what YOU want , If he loves you he will wait . Dont let him force you into anything
2007-11-15 20:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by jimm_b 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋