I'm 16 and planning to get married next febuary. I'm very mature for my age and have been living with my future husband for the past 6 months. We are very deep in love and very independant. both his and my parents aprove of it. Does any one think 16 is too young no matter what the circumstances or have any advise for me? I'm nervous, but in a happy/good way. well, excited.
2007-11-15 21:33:03 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OK I'm 16....How old is too young.....well it comes down to this don't be stupid about it any marriage is not a grantee of happily ever after 16 do you know what your getting in to really? if the answer is yes go for it if not stop think and talk about with him your parents random people..lol....not just the big things money babies school collage house...but the little things who takes the bins out what colour should the walls be if you decorate it's the little things that will get you in the end and age, well... 16 is young but life is short live it and then learn to live with your mistakes if you make them.....but never let fear hold you back.
2007-11-15 21:51:00 · answer #1 · answered by danigirl_81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It totally depends on the couple. Statistics will tell you that yes, it could be a ginormous mistake.... Then again, I know a lot of couples that have had very long happy marriges that started around your age. How mature is HE?
Here are some questions to ask yourself AND your future hubby BEFORE you tie the knot-these are all SO important:
How does he plan on supporting you and your future children? (You can't feed your future babies macaroni and cheese everynight... Let alone eventually sending them to college.)
Is he serious about school?
Is he 100% sweet, honest, caring and giving?
Do you want the same things out of life?
WHY are you rushing to do this at an early age? All the right reasons?
Are your families supportive of this at this time? You never know when you'll need their help.
Do you share the same religious beliefs?
Do you both want the same things for your kiddies religious beliefs?
Same ethics?
How is your financial situation- are you an adult financially yet?
Do you have the same financial goals?
Same family goals? # of kids, raising them etc?
What is your savings and retirement plan?
Have you talked about raising kids- dicipline, etc.
You never know. Some people wait until they're 45 to get married, and those marriages fail. Some people rush into marriages, and they fail. I don't know you but I'd say yes you're too young. You'd barely have a drivers liscence in most states, and your still not legally allowed to vote or marry in most states.... But hey, I think you have as good of a shot as any other marriage in this country at lasting.... Maybe even more.
Take a couples pre-marital counseling class together. If you don't think he's the type of guy to take one with you... Or if you feel like you CANT ask him any of these questions...Well, there's your answer. Doesn't matter how old you are, you need to discuss all of this. Honestly! It could be a great decision, follow your heart and your head... :D Good luck, sweetie.
2007-11-15 21:59:36 · answer #2 · answered by Cammie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like you might be ready now. Notice the SEEMS and the MIGHT...that's what you're saying to me...you're unsure. The fact that you are asking this question means you're unsure. Which means you already KNOW the answer deep down inside. You say you're mature. Do you love yourself? You need to love yourself first before even being in a relationship!
To answer your question, I would also have to know how old your fiance is. I was in a relationship for nearly 3 years while in high school. He was 2 years older than me. To make a long story short, young men around college age tend to change A LOT!!!! He became an alcoholic, and quit caring about me. I'm not saying that your guy will do this, but people change A LOT when they are young. If you are completely 100% sure that you want to do this, go ahead and I wish you two all the happiness in the world! But if you have ANY doubt, please don't. That's usually a sign that something will go wrong.
2007-11-16 05:14:37 · answer #3 · answered by EveningSky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon it is far too young.. way too young I try to be married well we were not married but living together as a married couple when I was your age and all I got out of that was a baby and at that age even if we are mature,being married can be very overwhelming and confusing..your young heart tells you this is the right thing to do but your experience is as the one of a 16 still a young girl you should live as a young girl for a while and enjoy being young as we do not live to get younger we live to be older and these years that your going to be tied down in marriage would not come back, you will find your self at thirty something trying to be 16 again and with some regrets, but none of this is going to change your mind so you get married and talk to us in about another 16 years you will be different and older hopefully happy and with no regrets. good luck honey.
2007-11-15 23:11:40 · answer #4 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can you be excited to get married at such a young age? Do you know the responsibilities of being married? You're not even old enough to apply for credit in your name! There are no circumstances that require a 16 year old to marry. If your future husband loves you the way you say he does, then he wouldn't even think about marrying you until you're older. Don't you want a future for yourself? Please don't tell me you'll be happy as a stay at home wife. Don't you have goals? You say both parents approve, but I don't see how. Parents want to see their children succeed, not fail, and the statistics prove that teens marrying just don't make it. When your friends are off going to a prom, you'll be stuck at home with your husband, not being able to enjoy the rest of your time as a teenager. Open your eyes to see what the world has to offer you before you go rushing in what could be the biggest mistake of your life.
2007-11-16 00:59:16 · answer #5 · answered by 2Beagles 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow 16 is way way to young, just be happy with your bf there is no rush in getting married. Ive been with my bf for four years and I'm 19 and think I'm way too young to get married. Its fun to day dream about the wedding and marriage but deep down I know Iam too young. I think you also know you are too young or you wouldn't have felt the need to ask this question. Also how old is your future husband? It sounds like he is a bit older then you if you are living with him. All I can say is really think about it, are you ready for that kind of commitment, sometimes its more fun just being someones girlfriend for awhile. Good luck!
2007-11-15 21:42:57 · answer #6 · answered by Jenniferann88 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your fiance? -I wonder.
I think it is too young in the aspect of your education.
It is important that you finish school and go to a good college.
You have to be prepared for your future.
What if it does not work out with him? What will you do and where will you go? Who will support you?
Hopefully, you are not doing all of this, just to get out of your parents house. Then that would be a mistake on your part. Know that there will always be rules no matter where you go. Know what you are doing and be certain, because you can't go back. Marriage is sacred. You will make that vow before God. Marriage is a life long commitment and sacrifices, so understand that means forever. As long as this guy is the only one for you and that you will not change your mind later, then do what you wish.
-God Bless.
2007-11-15 21:56:03 · answer #7 · answered by †Evonne† 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're not too young but and It's a big but, people do change, especially in thier late teens and early to mid 20's.
You'll be a different person when you're older and the person who u think is right now may turn out to be wrong.
The most inportant thing,I would say, is to leave kids for a long time yet, you can always walk away from a marriage if things go wrong but u can't leave a kid and it would be more difficult to leave if u ever wanted to when kids are involved.
I wish u the best of luck and hopeu celebrate ur golden wedding anniversary one day!!
2007-11-15 22:02:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
16. Yes, I am sorry but I think that is way too young. You simply do not look at life in the same way as you grow older. Your options are so limited at that age. You don't have the same choices available to you as you will have when you are 18 or 21. Why rush into marriage? If you have been living together, why not continue to do so? If things are great and you are in love, why not wait to progress until you are older? Well, congratulations anyway and I wish you happiness.
2007-11-15 21:40:01 · answer #9 · answered by dallas 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is extrememly too young...in australia your not even legal to be having sex. i got married when i was 21 and it was hard. Hard learning everything. I thought i was ready to get married at 16/17, but im so glad that i waited til i was 21. You might be mature, but realistically 16 is still a child, ur just a baby. Just stay engaged for a while, finish ur schooling and start a career....u will be so better off in the long run...theres no need to rush
2007-11-15 21:47:43 · answer #10 · answered by trixta_123 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋