i couldn't understand until she told me her boys dad wanted to get back with her and she had been confused. Now she says she wants to concentrate on "us" and make the best of it. I feel like I was 2nd fiddle. Please tell me what you think
2007-11-15 19:51:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
porter,
It's really too bad that you had to find this out AFTER the damage was done.
I was in the same predicament at one time...wished I would have listened to my own 'inner voice.'
2007-11-15 19:55:24 · answer #1 · answered by Wolfsburgh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does sound unfair, but I'm thinking her confusion was more to do with the fact that he was "her boys dad" rather than that she still had feelings for him. Mothers generally put their children's needs before their own, and she may have felt it would be best for him to be with his natural father.
2007-11-15 21:40:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Now that all is in place, rejoice that she actually choose you! I can understand that the beginning was rather hard, at least she told you the truth and she's fine. You should be happy that she's "with" you and want to make the best of your union!
Take care!
2007-11-15 20:02:38 · answer #3 · answered by kayneriend 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give her a shot. If you still don't get the wife you deserve, leave her for someone who puts you before the other men in her life.
2007-11-15 20:00:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's come to her senses. Forget it and give her another chance.
Be better than him:
-Call her darling, sweetheart, babydoll, etc.
-Rub her neck or feet for her
-Introduce her everywhere as Miss Universe, My Beloved Bride
-Treat her like the Queen of Your house that she is
Joy to you!!!
2007-11-15 19:56:35 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
tell her like it is, put your foot down.....Tell her that you feel disrespected and in some cases used.....tell her you want sometime alone, and start sleeping alone or do something to extract her from you, and really think about this decision you made......after a while of thinking, don't take her back if you feel she is using you....
2007-11-15 20:06:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Try to make her happy and think that she is better off with you than the other guy
2007-11-15 19:56:14 · answer #7 · answered by Nicky 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes. You are 2nd choice. Your move now.
2007-11-15 19:54:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you are second fiddle. I would tell her to go back to him.
2007-11-15 19:56:03 · answer #9 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
it's not fair to u ......
2007-11-15 20:09:14 · answer #10 · answered by applestory 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋