If you marry a pretty woman and she has to have a caesarean to give birth to your child. How do you stay attracted to her despite the nasty scar with overhang on her stomach. She lost all the weight but has an unsightly scar with loose skin just above the incision. I can't maintain an erection when I look at her. I love her, but her body is so unappealing to me now. What can I do?
2007-11-15 19:48:21 · 21 answers · asked by . 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Hey, I said I love her but I cant help my body's response to her appearance. Actually I am a very good looking man. I've been offered modeling gigs etc. Whether thats relevant or not. I am black/nicaraguan mix, 5'11", 150 lbs lean muscle. Not to be conceited but I am an attractive man and I had a very attractive wife. She's still attractive but that scar with the flap of skin just kills her beauty.
2007-11-15 20:25:25 · update #1
Its just sad man. What a waste. She is so beautiful until she takes her clothes off and I see those deformed 4 inches across her stomach. I LOVE HER, REALLY. But that nauseates me.
2007-11-15 20:29:26 · update #2
I never cheated on her before but now, its really tempting when I see all the lovely ladies with everything she's got PLUS the beautiful stomach she once had but LOST.
2007-11-15 20:31:42 · update #3
Im only human.
2007-11-15 20:32:04 · update #4
lots of gin and tonics, dim lights and loads of oral sex and porn videos and viagra
2007-11-15 21:33:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im a pretty fit woman and didnt have any skin overhand. I think if there is skin overhanging the doctor is to blame for that. If you mean a tummy that is left after a pregnancy, that takes a little longer to go away due to the stomach muscles having to rebuild after a CSection..but not because of the csection. After about 8-10 weeks post partum, you can start doing some abdominal strengthening exercises. But take it slow...its a slower recovery than vaginal birth. If you are pretty fit, chances are you wont notice too much of a gut. Your weight gain is within normal limits, you sound fine.
2016-03-14 15:00:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That scar should symbolise the lovely child you both made together, and should deepen your love for one another, not disgust you to the point where you find her ugly.
You should ask yourself honestly whether you love this woman or not. Nobody stays perfect forever. How will you feel in yearsto come when she gets wrinkles, saggy bits and grey hair? This is something she can't change. You have to accept her as she is. Poor woman. I don't envy her one bit with an insensitive shallow husband like you.
2007-11-15 19:58:11 · answer #3 · answered by helly 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
For real? you're a bad husband and you don't deserve to have wife and kids. it's not like she can help having a scar. Get over yourself.
Your wife probably feels really self concious about herself with the scar and she cant be confident if you think that about her.
2007-11-15 20:10:23 · answer #4 · answered by Megs Sixx 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are one arrogant husband ,how dare you whinge when she went and had YOUR child.
This makes me soooooo mad that you men expect a woman to look perfect with no scarring after having a caesarean section.
I suppose you are really goodlooking and perfect hmmmm??
Poor you for losing your erection boo hoo, I have no pity for you...get over it...behopes you never suffer any disfigurement of any type.. ♥
2007-11-15 20:22:36 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you allow that nonsense to come out of your mouth in her presence you're going to hurt her feelings very badly. Maybe the fact that this wouldn't bother many other guys will help you put it all into perspective...especially since she got those scars having your child. After all, you don't want her to have to get her erections elsewhere, do you?
2007-11-15 20:26:25 · answer #6 · answered by Captain S 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
she gave birth to your child. you think she loves that scar? probably not. try and remember when you're looking at her that she is your wife, you had a child and she has that scar for you and your family.
she's done alot, i'd say try and appreciate her and love her for the truly beautiful woman that she is, even if one little area of her body, which will never go away, is not as appealing.
2007-11-15 19:58:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
HAH I just broke up with a guy like you
I used to model and and am very attractive except for 3 bad surgery scars.
I asked him what he thought of a girl with a scar and he said he would be ill.
I feel sooooo sorry for your wife.
Real men get hard looking at sexy curves and arent freaked easily.
2007-11-15 20:15:03 · answer #8 · answered by Leea 1 · 4⤊ 1⤋
get over yourself. you're not that good of a husband if you're going to let a little scar get in the way. or you could do her a favor and give her a divorce.
2007-11-15 19:52:23 · answer #9 · answered by Kali_Iceheart 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
GROW UP darling, she has given you a child and carried your child and gone though an operation for you. Is that not enough. Poor lady, you dont love her or you wouldnt care about all that, i dont want to write anymore cause im angry and upset for her, just GROW UP
2007-11-15 21:49:43 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am assuming you are joking because no one could be so shallow and awful as to become not attracted to their wife because of the scar she got, having your child.
I think you are joking. enough said
2007-11-15 20:18:17 · answer #11 · answered by Sarah J 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋