When a favor is not reciprocated?

Question

When my wife and i first got together we spoke about threesomes. she said she was open to that idea. when the opportunity presented itself i made it happen for her with a friend that i've known for over 20 years. now almost a year later the same opportunity presented itself with her half sister whom she just met 5 years ago but have been very close , she (my wife) first accepted then then changed her mind in mid proposition. her sister was willing to go along but my wife didn't want to. Her sister first told my wife that she didn't want to cause she was ashamed of her own body. But while on the bed she let me touch her face and play with her hair. My wife told me was she was afraid that her sister was going to fall in love with me. a woman which i will probably never see again for years to come, you see this was in a different country and just before we came back. so i ask is this fair, am i being too demanding, or did i just end up on the short end of the stick please help

Answer 1

A "favor" is not given with the expected intent of being reciprocated. An IOU, You owe me should be reciprocated because it is a debt. You made a gift to her as well as yourself when you arranged a threesome. By the way, who would do a threesome with family member of all things. There are still some lines that shouldn't be crossed.

Answer 2

Ok ladies this is your example of never doing this with your men.

HELLO SHE'S HER DAMN SISTER!!!!!

Half or not doesnt damn well matter , wether you'll see her again or not doesnt damn well matter.You dont get into this life style by using family members EVER.

People who suffer insecurities should never enter into life style's like this and clearly your wife did and does have a lot of insecurities you need to back it off and forget the life style all together , you thought by offering her a friend she's reciprocate and now you know she never will , serves you right for coming in blind .

Answer 3

well, i can tell you from experience, that the when we had a threesome ith was with his friend and i regretted it the whole time. it took me 8 years to agree to it and once it happened, i was devistated. but my husband knew it and would know better then to ask me again. It would never happen again and he knows it hurt me deeply. maybe she knows how she felt and just cant do it again. now if you ask her to get involved with another man again and she says yes, then i would just say she is being selfish herself

Answer 4

you need to get a life and grow up. apparently your wife DOES NOT want to take part in your fantasy. especially not with her sister. what a fool you are. you should not have those in this position to satisfy you fantasy. she doesnt want to do it so let it alone. you have to just keep it in your head. grow up and get a life. leave your wife alone on this matter. GodBless

Answer 5

Just have your wife, isn't she the delight of your life?

Forget her sister or relative, that would be nothing but problems.

Live a life without regret.

Answer 6

You made the mistake when you let some other guy be intimate with her. We are now revoking your man card.

Answer 7

What kind of marriage do you have? It is okay to cheat, as long as your partner is agreeable? I can't imagine wanting to share my lover with someone else!! I would feel as if I were cheating. What happen to the vows, "forsaking all others"?

Answer 8

your wife has been so giving to your whims and sexual fantasies...respect her if she has changed her mind... and what favor were you asking that was not reciprocated?