why cant porn be illegal?

Question

it ruins a healthy marriage. temptations for my husband have almost ruined our marriage. sex should be a personal, intimate thing between two people behind closed doors. when did it become so public? i hate how raunchy this world has become. it sickens me and its pathetic. i wish we could all ban together and make porn illegal. get a sex life in real life not cyber life, tv life, anywhere else. it really ruins a woman, such as myself currently im trying to get over this and tell myself that my husband loves me and finds me attractive but its hard when even a freaking girls gone wild commercial shows so much nudity you dont even have to buy it. am i the only one sickened by this sin?

not that its anyones business but if you guys are going to say its me causing his addiction, i have to disagree. we make love 4-5 times a week. we have a very busy schedule so thats a lot to us, we have a child and he works alot. Im very open to new things in bed and we have experimented a lot. however, porn- i will never experiment with. its cheating. i should be the only one floating his boat. and i know im attractive, i get picked up on alot, so i know im not repulsive. i lost all the pregnancy weight. i just dont know why he does it. Im not the cause, sick ***** out there that blame "were men" stereotype are weak. dont blame that stereotype. a real man wouldnt. this world has lost all sight of morals and religion.

Answer 1

have u ever tried watchin a good porn?? I used to thing porn was nasty and gross but they make porns that are like a movie, they have a story behind it and it doesnt start with ppl gettin it on, i like the story porns and they really help to get in the mood, since your married u have to compromise atleast try watchin different movies not girls gone wild or anything but find one with a story they can be good and its not all sex its mostly sex but it explains the movie

Answer 2

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Answer 3

You husband obviously has a larger (and perhaps broader) taste for sex than you do. Apparently he is bored with his sex life at home and needs some recreational relaxation looking at porn. What we consider "porn" was actually a part of daily life in many ancient societies. I just returned from Crete and Santorini. There are many pieces of ancient art that display sex acts, and these were not only prominently displayed in public buildings, but some were frescoes from a person's private home. These scenes of nudity, and frivolity in sex were commonplace and accepted as part of the culture. There was no stigma attached to them. Your idea about making porn illegal is exactly what is making America a worse place, year after year. By that, I mean that in America we make everything "forbidden fruit" which just makes people crave it even more. I'm an American living in the Czech Republic. Let me illustrate through comparison how America is just making matters worse. United States: drugs are strictly forbidden, and useage is rampant. Teens will often try anything to get drus. Czech Republic: drugs are an extremely minor problem in society. You can get them fairly easily if you want. Hence, there is no "coolness factor" associated with drugs, meaning far, far fewer people want them. United States: Sex laws are strict, and having sex with a "minor" is a felony. Czech Republic: Young teens here aren't obsessed with sex because there is no prohibition against it. If a 25 year old guy wants to date a 16 year old girl, people really don't care. Guess what? Far, far, far fewer teen pregnancies. Kids learn to be responsible, and there is no societal pressure to have sex because it's not "forbidden fruit". OK, I could go on and on, but you get the idea. By prohibiting things we just make them more desirable. Maybe you need to be more sexually adventuresome or find out what your husband likes, if that is something you don't already know. Maybe he is obsessing over something he doesn't feel comfortable talking to you about.

Answer 4

Well the 1st step to stopping him watching porn is disconnect your internet you dont need it you could go outside the house and find real people to chat to and what not hey?.

Its time people really looked for the deeper problems in their marriages that are far more important then the topic of porn which gets the blame every time , how much time and effort do you as his wife put into your time together when it come's to the physical side of your marriage ? or are you waiting for him to make the 1st move? Have you tried romantic thing's candles / bath's / all over body massages for him ? .

Does his technique satisfy you or does it need work? look at the broader spectrum of the issue not just some lazy excuse porn can be ignored , not bought nor watched on line or dvd's. Why should the rest of the world suffer because a few women arent into it and blame it for being the reason their man isnt doing his job ?.

Insecurity of your body , your looks , your personality compared to some skank on screen spreaden her fancy for the whole world to see , come on now start thinking clearly hey get your head out of the fuzzy cloud of dissilussionment , jealousy and unsatisfactory attentions off your husband.

If he isnt making love to you then neither of you are putting enough time and effort into the relationship to entice either 1 of you to give and take on the sex issue. To me it sound's like you have issues far more important , try new thing's , new position's set limit's and open your mind and his , if his technique suck's then obviously communication's have closed down and your not voicing your pleasure's or need's. Speak to him instead of shutting him out.

Answer 5

i dont watch porn but i really dont think that it should be illegal that is just an opinion of someone who is so rigid in their views that they wont or dont want to stop and look at what other people tend to think or feel its a proven fact sex sells everything and im sure that you also buy into all the glamor that is on tv with all the sex but when it comes to unvarnished sex as in porn you get all bent out of shape why? that is the question that you should be asking i dont think your opinion is wrong i just think that it is your opinion and should be taken as such and further more most of us have a sex life in real life not cyber of anywhere else but we all have fantasies including your hubby have you ever thought to find out what his particular kink is and how you can make him forget porn ever existed my wife did and you could too there isnt anything in the bedroom of 2 consenting adults that is too far if both are consenting and willing wouldnt you agree just think about this for a while and make him forget about porn by leading him away from it not bullying him out of it its much easier

Answer 6

Even if porn was banned, which is ridiculous, you would find young hot girls in skimpy outfits everywhere! I agree that sex should be personal between two people but sometimes porn materials can be an addition to that. It sounds to me like maybe you have some insecurity issues. Its ok cause we all do. But don't waste your efforts on hating and trying to make porn illegal. Put more effort into talking to your husband and figure out what the root of your problem is because chances are its not porn!

Answer 7

Even if you took your husband to the beach..all his little mind is going to wonder dirty thoughts. The temptations are there even if all he is looking at is a girl in the mall fully clothes.

Why blame the sex industry, if all they want to do is make money out of men such as your husband. The temptations are there even if they wipe out porn because women will always been seen as a sex symbol, whether or not her clothes are on or off.

The drugs are there as bait for the addicted to follow.

Don't try and blame other for your insecurities and your husbands weakness

Answer 8

Porn has been around for 100's of years. It doesn't ruin a "healthy" marriage. If the marriage was healthy then your husband wouldn't be so tempted. Have you actually discussed with him "WHY" he is looking and what he is getting from the porn that he is missing at home?

People love to blame things like porn, the internet, video games, etc for the problems in their marriage. But take it from someone who has been there. It's not the cause, its the symptom.

So try asking what he is getting from the porn, that he isn't getting from you. You might find you share the same fantasy's

Just a thought

Answer 9

If i may say i agree with you whole hardly Sister it has done the same thing to me as well as the mmorpg's games its descentizes every one and has a real life physic effect on people , it makes us dehumanize like were are no better then a animal , and also gives us Subliminal Peripheral Vision and also a part of Narcissism and don't care who it hurts

and yes agrees with you there Virginia Dr's need to worry about real life treating dies es then these vanity drugs with all this effort on this other stuff they could have probably curred cancer , and as far as the Girls gone wild that guys in jail , those girls are just tramps . what happens later in life when they want a good job and they cant get it cuz of the history of what they did in a movie prevents them from getting the right job they want

Answer 10

I agree with you. As porn has increased over the years so has the divorce rate. And have you seen all the Viagra commercials? Impotence must be on the rise as well as sex crimes.

Maybe porn men should not get married - pleasing a wife requires commitment and some effort.

You might consider looking at the American Family Assn website, Dr. James Dobson's Focus on the Family. Perhaps, you may find something of interest there.

Joy to you....