Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2007

Okay so we just had a baby 14 months ago and then 5 months later - boom - we're prego again. (No one told us that you're 100 times more fertile after having a baby.) We're due in about a week, and this morning, my husband looked grumpy and unhappy. I asked him what was wrong and he said that he was just overwhelmed with everything and bored with his life. He works a ton and we haven't had a vacation in about a year because I really don't like leaving baby no. 1. (I am very attached.) So baby no. 2 is coming and I am so nervous that he will drive himself off a cliff because, let's face it, the first several months suck. I have, in a nutshell, been prego for two years now. A large woman and not in the same bod I once had. Any suggestions on how to spark some life? I don't want to be emotional and want to listen and be a supportive partner. Don't laugh but I was thinking about taking him to a strip club just to perk him up a bit. That would be a little surprise. Any thoughts?

2007-11-14 02:51:37 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

I never recieved a 86.90 check from Verizon and so i've been calling them to find out what happened. I just got the fax of the copy of the check and now my suspicions came to light. It's my husband's handwriting. He has a bad lying problem. I suspected he did it. I even had a bad dream last night that he did it. It upset me so much my stomach aches!

Now that i am almost positive it's him, do i even have the right to be upset since he is my husband and it 's "OUR" money?

I am mostly upset because he is lying. All i can think about right now is packing my **** up! Help!

2007-11-14 02:49:24 · 12 answers · asked by Cutie 3

2007-11-14 02:49:15 · 13 answers · asked by daniel65ng 3

Through our marriage, my husband had the full-time job, and I was a stay-at-home mom for four years, then have worked a part-time job for the past year. He made a lot of money, I made enough to pay for childcare and have a little extra spending money of my own, and it was fine.

This past weekend, he decided he wanted to leave, without giving me ANY warning, and he's moving into his new apartment tomorrow. He WILL be paying child support in the form of my rent and car payment, which is actually a little more than the standard child support.

I've been on his health and dental insurance, and he emailed me this morning to let me know that I need to attend to all my medical stuff in the next few weeks, because he's dropping me from the insurance then.

Is it standard to do that, or to wait until the divorce is final, or at least FILED? I am looking for a new full-time job, don't have one yet, but I won't even qualify for most health insurance at work until a few months from now.

2007-11-14 02:47:41 · 8 answers · asked by CrazyChick 7

For the men - Would you be more likely to try to sleep with a co-worker who was married and pregnant than if she was not (because there is no chance you'd get her preg)

For the married women - Have you (or would you) consider hooking up with a coworker while pregnant? (Again because you can't get pregnant from him while you are already pregnant)

2007-11-14 02:46:29 · 25 answers · asked by momtosaraandscott 1

Is that why she died a slow and painful death (throat cancer) even though she did not smoke. Was this Karma? Cheers.

2007-11-14 02:46:12 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well, I don't even know where to start. First of all, I am a 23 year old married woman. I have been with my honey since I was 16. He was my first real true love and the first person I did anything with. We married when I was 19 and we had a daughter when I was 20. We were basically kids when we first started dating.... I have changed alot and he is the same. I have goals and needs that I didn't have then. He is laid back and easy going. He doesn't try to make any decisions at all. I have to make any life altering decisions myself. I want a man that supports me on things. I need a bold shoulder to cry on every now and then. I get tired of being the strong one everyday. I want a man that wants to take a load off of me and be the one to take care of me for once. I am really tired of playing wife and mom to my husband. I don't know if this is enough for me to want to end the relationship or not. He is a good dad and I love him for that. I don't want to put my daughter through a divorce for

2007-11-14 02:34:52 · 48 answers · asked by crystal g 3

My husband and I have always argued since we got together (we'll be married 7 years as of this Thanksgiving) but I always thought that was just the because we were still getting accustomed to each other. Seven years later, it's still the same nonsense if not worse b/c there have been infidelities (on both parts). The only difference is now we have two children (2 1/2yrs and 8 mo.) added to the mix. It honestly feels like the love is gone. We used to cuddle, watch movies, etc. Now we rarely spend time together unless we have friends over or alcohol is involved. The last time we even had sex was over 1 mo. ago (Yes...I've tried... he just doesn't seem interested.) I've suggested marriage counseling... he's not interested. I just don't know what to do anymore. I want to leave but, #1 I don't want to regret it #2 I have no way of supporting my children b/c I'm a stay at home mom (we're in Germany with the US Army) HELP!!! This fighting isn't good for us or our kids! Any suggestions?

2007-11-14 02:30:23 · 10 answers · asked by legalstudent25 2

what is the sexiest article of clothing that your spouse can wear that turns you on?

For me, when my wife wears her silky front snap bra or her lacy bras.

2007-11-14 02:24:38 · 31 answers · asked by *D* 3

2007-11-14 01:56:57 · 11 answers · asked by laky 1

Do you read erotica with your spouse? Or alone? What types of stories do you like reading? Do the ones you read alone differ from thouse you read with your spouse? How so?

Ever thought of being written into a sex story? I am willing to write one (for free) about you, your wife/husband, your boss, or anyone else you want in it. Tell me what sort of fetish/kink (no limits) you have and I can take it from there. If you give me details about yourself/them, I can make the characters more realistic for you. (I have email open in my profile if you'd prefer that way)

2007-11-14 01:56:49 · 5 answers · asked by momtosaraandscott 1

I care a lot about this girl..I believe I am even falling in love with her but I don't want too. I refused to date because we live 3 hrs apart and I am in college.I asked her to wait till after I was done but now I might want to get my masters (another 4yrs) or go to the Navy.When I told her this she said she didn't care how long it took for us to be together and that she would wait for me no matter what I do or how far away I go.I really care a lot for her and in my heart I know we will be together one day but I feel like I have to give her a time of when all this will happen. I told her "me and her" situation is stressing me out right now and in return she asked if I wanted to end all this for now..I said yes and now shes gone and has yet to speak to me for 3 days.I didn't want to lose her but I don't know what direction I am going in.She is 24 and has put up with my crap since she was 13.I am 29 and while I know its her I want.. I feel she doesn't deserve to wait..was I wrong?

2007-11-14 01:53:44 · 23 answers · asked by AMANDA 1

I understand that Marriage is a serious decision and that there is a close bond even when you arent happy together. I get it that people get married for different reasons and that people and situations change over time. I understand that its a societal and family thing to be married and to break it is to change your place in your family and society and I understand that people are scared financially to be alone. I get it....but what I dont get is the lack of courage people have to live their own lives. If you are not happy and the marriage isnt working and you have tried - then people should move on with their lives. - I see so much of this - people staying in decayed relationships and not living their life to its fulfilment.
What do you think?

2007-11-14 01:50:36 · 19 answers · asked by Sunshine Girl 3

2007-11-14 01:47:01 · 10 answers · asked by maryam y 1

If you caught your husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend having an affair; caught them in the act...What would you do???

2007-11-14 01:44:32 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

4 months ago I found out my husband had an internet affair that began when I was 7 months pregnant. I didn't find out til this past June, after I almost died from gallbladder surgery. He tried to justify the affair by saying it was because I stayed in comfortable, pajama type clothes all day and that's not attractive. I think that was a lame assed excuse. I am not fat, sloppy, I DO get dressed everyday but he comes home for lunch and often saw me in loungers. I stay at home with our kids and take care of everything - I have no car of my own and hardly any clothes that fit since I just had another baby. I decided to give him one more chance. He just had a 4 day weekend off and took a shower Friday and went to work, was here with me
Sat -Tue and didn't shower or shave ONCE. He wakes up this morning and shaves, takes a shower and goes to work. What the hell is that? What would you say to him? I am pissed and don't know how to approach the situation. Thanks in advance!

2007-11-14 01:30:47 · 25 answers · asked by Now you know 1

my affair came about bcus i was unhappy, it only lasted for a few months, but then i found out that my husband had had an affair with my best friend when i was pregnant with our first child, we'd only been married for 18months, i'm now messed up, ave got the pressure of this 6month window for divorce, but the kids only see his n their hurt, they cant imagine the hurt that im feeling, or even remember the way that our lives have been bcus He worked so hard to provide, he wasnt very loving towards them until recently. but i feel cheated by him and my then best friend bcus they didnt tell me/give me the choice of what to do with my life back then, they made it for me bcus i was so happy with motherhood after a miscarriage, even with his attitude, i used to just swallow what ever he dished out,
How does 1 move on from this?

2007-11-14 01:26:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

So I'm 19 and my boyfriend is 25. I'm a sophomore in college and he is salaried and independent.

I've been with him for almost a year now. And while I've been making plans for a master's degree program after college, he is making plans about where we will have our wedding....

He is truly the sweetest person, and treats better than anyone I've ever been with, and I really care about him. But is it wrong for me to feel a little awkward when he's ALWAYS discussing marriage? And not only that, he sort of treats me like I'm already married to him--I don't go out with my friends hardly at all anymore, because he says that married people have only one priority--their spouse. And he's always worried that I might meet another guy when I'm out anywhere, even the mall. Don't get me wrong, I am definitely committed and loyal, but I feel like marriage just seems so soon. He plans to marry me when I'm 21.

Is there anything I can do or say that wouldn't be hurtful to fix this?

2007-11-14 01:21:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has to much semen, i even feel it coming out and i also has to go to the bath room 2 or 3 times to clean up. What do we do to avoid this

2007-11-14 01:07:35 · 18 answers · asked by shewit e 1

He lost his job when he was sick, and is better now, although he hasn't found anything in over a year. Her parents have been supporting them for a year now because they have a new house and her job alone can't carry them. She doesn't want to sell the house because the market is bad, but she's unhappy, and wants my advice. What should i tell her???? i think she feels sorry for him, but she doesn't know if he's just taking advantage of the situation at this point. He has a hard time finding a job because of a felony on his record (one time offender). It was something stupid he did when he was young, but now she is suffering!

2007-11-14 00:56:22 · 14 answers · asked by just asking 2

I mean, is there ever a time they stop demanding from your husband, even though she's remarried and their kids grown up?

2007-11-14 00:52:25 · 18 answers · asked by CelesteMoone 5

I'm married and he's married, he flirted with me very strongly but had no other intentions of going further with it. He knows we are both married & that matters to both of us. He has had a thing for me for a long time, came on to me very strong verbally. Then he must have felt guilty cuz everytime we chatted after that he brought up his wife his kids etc. He saw me out with my friends for girls night out and we were having a blast. I never saw him but he saw me. When I have a few drinks I smoke, he must have been shocked to see me smoke and he came up to me a few days later and made a comment asking if I had fun on Friday and then threw in how smoky it was in there. He really needs to just back off already and worry about his wife. I don't know him well enough for him to ask me something like that. I feel like he told me that as almost a slap on the wrist, as to let me know he saw me doing something that he didn't approve of. Should I tell him to mind his own business or not?

2007-11-14 00:47:52 · 13 answers · asked by Maria 5

do i share it with any of you

2007-11-14 00:46:57 · 30 answers · asked by sn50 2

clubs in his car and mine are still in the shed. It is or has been tradition that he brings mine around also, I don't mind it it just is very different for him. He has in the past always been excited when we were going golfing or something together, this time he seemed to not want me to go and wanted to go alone...I asked him if he wanted to go with out me and he said "I guess". Then he said, I guess we need some us time. I am just feeling like something is really wrong because our lives are different now....much seperateness even though we are together. He drove 9 1/2 hours round trip to a family memebers funeral and didn't want me to go with him, his ex wife is always on our backs about something, like going to my husbands nephews for a birthday party and she wanted to go and for me to be left home, she doesn't like that I go to the kids games with my husband, so she tried to pick a fight with me, it didn't work but because she did this he doesn't want me

2007-11-14 00:46:19 · 17 answers · asked by Rein 5

2007-11-14 00:24:06 · 19 answers · asked by shopper 1

My wife and i have been married for only about a year. Of course like any relationship, everything was great in the beginning but now there are so many problems. Number 1 is guy problems. I think, although not 100% sure that she still talks to ex-boyfriends. She also has been watching a lot of porn recently and trys to hide it or say she just thinks it is funny, but she knows it bothers me. My other issue is family issues. Both of us are close with our families but she doesnt seem to care about establishing any kind of a relationship with my family although i spend a lot of time with hers. Also i have a 10 year old daughter, who lives with us that she hasnt even tried to form any kind of a relationship with at all. I really think i married the wrong person as we are polar opposites. I have talked to her about all these things and she makes no attempt to change. We are now expecting a baby, so i need to know if i can make this work or am i completely screwed.

2007-11-14 00:05:39 · 16 answers · asked by John D 2

My husband gets so angry and he can't box anymore due to too many concussions. He gets angry because of his exwife and how she's raising their child and how she takes the child support for granted. What can he do with all this anger???????? I'm afraid he's going mental.

2007-11-14 00:02:55 · 9 answers · asked by Bunny 2