My husband isn't the same lately. Today he is playing golf and I was supposed to go also. However he put his

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clubs in his car and mine are still in the shed. It is or has been tradition that he brings mine around also, I don't mind it it just is very different for him. He has in the past always been excited when we were going golfing or something together, this time he seemed to not want me to go and wanted to go alone...I asked him if he wanted to go with out me and he said "I guess". Then he said, I guess we need some us time. I am just feeling like something is really wrong because our lives are different now....much seperateness even though we are together. He drove 9 1/2 hours round trip to a family memebers funeral and didn't want me to go with him, his ex wife is always on our backs about something, like going to my husbands nephews for a birthday party and she wanted to go and for me to be left home, she doesn't like that I go to the kids games with my husband, so she tried to pick a fight with me, it didn't work but because she did this he doesn't want me

to go with him any more. We used to be so close and really had a great time together, lately we are growing so far apart. Part of me has given up because he never takes up for me with his kids or his ex. I am tired of fighting for him. What is the answer to this problem or am I being too sensitive. For the past three months he has been comming home from work about three hours later than he used to. We used to be so close and really had a great time together, lately we are growing so far apart. Part of me has given up because he never takes up for me with his kids or his ex. I am tired of fighting for him. What is the answer to this problem or am I being too sensitive. For the past three months he has been comming home from work about three hours later than he used to. What does it seem is going on? I know he isn't seeing the ex because she lives too far away, however something is so different that I can't figure out why....help!!!! Thanks.

Answer 1

give him a ****

Answer 2

If you sense that something is wrong and you feel distance growing between the two of you......there is something going on. For the two of you to be sooooo close and do things together so much and suddenly he needs some "alone" time, just doesn't sound right to me. When he went to the funeral, he should have wanted you to be with him for support. What is his excuse for coming home 3 hours late each day? That is the number one excuse of a cheating man....."I had to work late". Just remember that.
I strongly suggest you set down and talk with your husband. Ask him why he is so distant. Ask if he is seeing someone else. You are both adults and there is no use in pussy footing around about things. Be honest, up front, and let him know how you feel.
Whatever you find out will be better than not knowing and being in the dark. Communication, communication, communication.........don't ever forget to talk things out.
Good luck!!!

Answer 3

Sweetie, I have answered a few of your inquiries regarding your hubby over the past couple of days, and it just keeps getting worse. While everyone is jumping to the conclusion that he's cheating, I will go against that opinion and say that he is secluding himself instead---from you. Yes my dear, this has to do directly with you. Listen to what your gut is telling you---if you feel there are problems and that he is growing more and more distant you need to talk to him about it before it does lead to other things. Right away people jump to the conclusion that he's having an affair, however after having his balls ripped out through his wallet in a divorce situation before, I doubt that he's all too eager to do the same all over again. His staying late at work could mean that he is reluctant to come home---it doesn't mean he is out living it up with another woman, but if you suspect that to be the case you can call him at work during those later hours or drive by his place of employment just for your own piece of mind that nothing is going on. You don't trust him sweetie, and that is the real issue here. He isn't consistant, and it sounds like you're beating the hell out of yourself trying to make him comfortable and you're not getting anything out of the deal. More details in one of your future questions please----how long have you been married, how long have you known each other, how fresh is the divorce? Do you want to live the rest of your life with a man who isn't into you enough to put you first before all the nonsense with the ex wife?

Answer 4

Well from past experience it seems to me that he is either having an affair or he is dangerously close to it. I have been in this situation only in the reverse. It was I who was having the affair and treating my husband this way. I recognized the situation as soon as I started reading your situation. I agree with the other answers that have been entered so far in that you need to confront him about this. However, you only need to confront him if you are ready to accept his answer and the fallout. I hope that I am wrong, but if I'm not then you have a serious problem on your hands. If he is indeed sleeping with someone else then that puts you at risk for catching anything he brings home from his other "friend". It sounds to me like you already feel that you know what you need to do. The next step is just taking the leap and getting out and moving on.

Answer 5

A man wants to be head of the household he wants to make the final decisions, he wants to be the boss. Why can't he be man enough to tell you what the hell he is up to instead of playing with your head.
All the sign are there,not wanting you to go with him coming home three hours late is the biggest sign of them all.
You say he can't be sleeping with the mother of his children because she lives to fair. Hon,don't you think it's possible for them to be meeting up halfway in a hotel or even in their cars.
When a man is cheating on his wife you be very surprised the length he will go in order to be with her and to cover his a s s .
I think you know what he is doing your just in the denial stage.

I have been where you are right now and i can tell you from experience that your husband is going to leave you and go back to his ex. I'm very sorry i know it hurts to hear this but it sounds to me like he wants his family back. By the way are you the reason they broke up in the first place,just wondering.

Answer 6

I hate to say it but HE IS CHEATING ON YOU. That is the only excuse. And he doesnt take up for you because he doesnt respect you. Dont be scared - tell him if he doesnt change and put you FIRST then you need to separate. Sounds to me like the one he is having an affair with is his ex wife. Is she remarried? If she isnt then they are defintely seeing each other behind your back. When hes 3 hours late. There is no excuse for any of this. Good luck.

Answer 7

You are not being to sensitive! Something is going on! I think he's seeing someone else. You are his wife and he should defend you, but put his kids needs first. My kids will always come first no matter what. However he shouldn't allow them to disrespect you or his x-piece of **** of a wife! Arg! That alone would make me want to kick his @$$! You need to confront him and tell him that you know for a fact that something else is going on!? Good luck, hon! :)

Answer 8

Sorry to say this, but 9 times out of 10 when a Man or Woman wants their "alone" time... they are NOT spending it alone. He has obviously met someone else. Do NOT be Naive and the last person to figure it out. I hope I am wrong, but all the signs are there.. I wish you the best..Do not allow yourself to be a Fool...

Answer 9

You know you women who measure the merit of you marriages by how well you smother your husbands and have to do everything with him including taking a bowel movement, really really need to stop!
It gets really old after you have been married for some time and it really doesn't help out you guys' self esteem either.
Trust me!

Yeak OK, I'm the Jerk but I'm still happily married while many of you are divorced or seperated. I guess if my name were Oprah or Dr.Phil, my advice would be golden.

Answer 10

hi know how u feelin same was happenning here apart from he goes fishing not golf says theres no1 else but... theres definitely something or some1 distracting him ive left him now took the kids so hes alone or is he time will see good luck hun :)

Answer 11

Hi,it sounds like he is up to no good after all how did his ex wife become his ex.