Marriage & Divorce - 14 November 2007

1)You never want to talk until we get into the shower or tub
2) You never cut your toenails until they are lethal weapons.
3) You always say,"I was listening honey." BUT never can repeat what we said.
4) Always want to kiss and snuggle AFTER we have showered, put on our makeup and done our hair, only to ruin what we have worked on for the last hour.

Just wondering. Really would like to hear a married man's view on this too.

2007-11-14 08:37:49 · 25 answers · asked by 2fine4u 6

Pretty straight forward question. I think this question can be asked about life in general. Is it easier to be a good person or bad?

Do you think its easier to be a good spouse or partner? Or a bad one?

2007-11-14 08:33:53 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

appreciate anything you did for them, complained about going on trips, would you want to leave them?

2007-11-14 08:24:53 · 16 answers · asked by kimberly k 5

we have been together for a year now and married for 5 months. I was virgin when I met him and he was not. But sometimes I think of his ex sexually involved. I see dreams that she is calling him. I feel so insecure. I love him. And its not that i am jealous of her but I feel like my husband loved her once and he enjoyed every year of his life. I know that it was his decision. he told me once that If I met him when he was young we would be having sex 24/7. that made me feel that he was having sex with her a lot. I don't want to think about it but sometimes I feel so hurt and bad that I am not first for him. And he did all the things with other women that he is doing it with me. How do I don't think about that. believe me I don't want to think about that. His Ex was virgin 15 yrs old when she met him. he was in really good shape. He was exercising a lot which he don't do it now. I don't want to think about that. But sometimes when I see him I think that he was somebody 's else before me

2007-11-14 08:03:03 · 34 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm having sex troubles I need some help please! My husband thinks he suffers from PE and we've laughed about it sometimes and moved on, well at least that's what I thought we were doing till a couple of days ago when I noticed that he wasn't excited about having some. I started to think what the hell is going on? Kinda mad, kinda frustrated but I thought he'll get over it. So I got up the other day to do some homework on the computer, back-tracked a little bit with the arrow and saw a lot of porn websites, I felt like my blood was boiling because even though I don't mind him watching porn, I don't want to see any of that on the computer and of course I was mad because I wasn't getting any but he was watching porn on the net. Anyway, he says that he doesn't want to have sex with me because he is embarrassed about finishing too early and me not finishing at all. It happens sometimes
I'm not going to lie, but I think we are both quick. I love him and want him but

2007-11-14 08:02:13 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

She included everyone but me. And my husband (her son) he was in Iraq when she got married though. I have been her daughter in law for 8 years. Her daughter and step daughter were brides maids, her son's were grooms men, my son was the ring bearer and another little girl was flower girl. Candle lighters were her son's friend and her son's girlfriend of just a few weeks. She told me she made her son's new girlfriend a candle lighter cause she would be upset if she was not included. She totally left me out of EVERYTHING! She didn't even ask me to be in any of her wedding pictures. Why would she do this?

2007-11-14 07:53:33 · 16 answers · asked by honeybear 5

me and my husband have been together for almost 9 years we have two kids together 5 & 7. he cheated on me with a fat ugly *****. i love him so much and i'm still trying to forgive him, but its so hard to forget.

2007-11-14 07:49:37 · 18 answers · asked by Jessie A 2

2007-11-14 07:47:12 · 14 answers · asked by Melissa M 1

okay i have a three month old and a crazy boyfriend that we have been together for seven yrs, we are common law married. We have been falling apart latley and i don't know if staying together for the baby is worth it because I love her soo much. He is angrey towards me most of the time because he has a.d.d without medication, so its uncontroled and I know I can do better for me and my baby. His family has a past history of child abuse, he gets SSI because he can't care for him self because of a mental disorder, all of his siblings and him were takin away from thier parents for a few years when they were younger because of unfit living conditions and abuse. His brother and wife have child protection services watching them because of child neglect with their kids.My family and I have no past record of anything, just love and care, What I want too know is do I have a better chance getting custody of the baby or him? He thinks he does, what do you think?

2007-11-14 07:45:45 · 26 answers · asked by squuishee 3

A friend of mine asked my advice about a relationship problem he's having. He girlfriend of nearly 2 years broke up with him last week. She claims her heart is hurt and she needs time to heal. From what he explained to me and what I read in her blog, she is hurt because of arguments they have had. He would become frustrated with her not listening to him, and he would raise his voice. She seemed to not understand how his level of frustration had increased or escalated due to situations. She seems to think he was being mean just because. So during this time of break up (about a week and a half now) they have still be talking on the phone, hanging out with each other, going on dates, and even kissing. The only real difference is they are not sleeping together. He had been living with her, but is now staying somewhere else. She let him keep his key and he comes over to do laundry and stuff with her permission.

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2007-11-14 07:45:24 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

Do you dislike your brother because of his wife now and feel things will never be same.

2007-11-14 07:44:31 · 14 answers · asked by bdf s 1

2007-11-14 07:43:16 · 52 answers · asked by v8on 1

2007-11-14 07:43:12 · 26 answers · asked by Chingaleng 2

ok, i saw that the relationship wasnt progressing so i brought it to her attention she told me she s not ready cuz of her personal issue she needs to overcome(bad relationship with dirt bag guys that took advantage of her) after this talk i havent been to close to her it look like she looks for me from time to time, she s the first to initiate contact by sending an email and she was the first to call me but when i respond to her emails she keeps them short like almost showing me that its not that important now i ask her to hang out she agree and she propose something that would be fun for both of us, what confuses me one minute she seems eager but then other time to me she put up a font

what s going on with this girl>?
she was hurt pretty bad in the past,
i like her but i m going with the flow if it happens it happen if not then it wasnt meant
what do u think about my situation
i know how girls like to pretend to play hard to get is this the case

2007-11-14 07:41:01 · 3 answers · asked by simple J 4

me and my wife dont spend any real time together and it's strained our relationship, all we do is work. i work 2 jobs apprx. 70 hrs a week, we have a 1 1/2 son, she is a teacher. i know i work too may hours but every time i'm home and she's home she's on the phone, which shows me that she's found other things to occupy her time, why should i feel that i have to "be there" if she already has things going on when we're in the same house toghether?

2007-11-14 07:34:49 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

gettin divorced, he wants joint custody, i'm not so sure, how will that affect the visitation arrangements?

2007-11-14 07:34:48 · 5 answers · asked by TASTY 1

EVER get from your spouse the stimulating conversation, the continual emotional or the sexual satisfaction (because of your emotional detachment to the said situation).....what is your gut reaction? we have already been "trying" to fix it....emliminating outside influence, substance, attempted counseling, all the goodies. leave or stay?

2007-11-14 07:34:10 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Me and hubby have been separated now for approx. three weeks. I made him leave the household due to some issues we were having. Well to make a long story short, we made arrangement to get together to talk about our marriage. He was telling me that he missed me, what could he do to make me feel more secure in the marriage, I don't love him like I used to, etc...His relationship with" his" ex-girlfriend was the reason we separated. We were even intimate with each other (shouldn't have done it). Since I did that with him, is he waiting for me to start chasing him again. I was doing so good as far as not calling him, etc before I met up with him to discuss our marriage. He says he doesn't want a divorce, but on the other hand he says he's not coming home because he doesn't want to be put out again. Is he just playing hard so he can once again try and manipulate our marriage the way he wants it to be? Even though we were intimate and it was real passionate, I'm still not chasing.

2007-11-14 07:33:14 · 5 answers · asked by stella 2

4 years (he is responsible for her for 10) he found out through the children that she was abusive, and he also found out she was stalking and in love with an 18 year old girl in the same town. He wanted her gone, she left, they are legally married what should he do? What rights does she have? What can she do? He owned the home before he married her.

2007-11-14 07:32:45 · 4 answers · asked by Leslie 2

I have been married 2 months. My wife is really frustrated because she says she is not happy. She is trying to change everything about me. And by that, I mean everything. Is this a normal phase to go through. And anybody got any advice. She is saying things like I am not her keeper, and I'm around to much. Thanks for the imput

2007-11-14 07:29:14 · 12 answers · asked by heath83852 1

I have been married to a man for 5 years, and it seems all the reasons I married him for are gone. I wanted a loving relationship, yet we now have a marriage of convenience. I have not changed at all physically, actually am healthier and in better shape now than when we met (which he says he likes) yet he is not loving and does not seem to care for an emotionally, physically intimate relationship. I do not care much about material things or even security, and told him when I met I would only marry for love.
I would have left him last year, but we have a 2 year old daughter, and I don't want to ruin her life.
Besides love, our marriage is alright. He does not abuse me, or substances in any way, doesn't cheat, or anything negative like that. He says he loves me, yet his actions don't show me anymore.
What do you do in this situation. I have confronted him many times, he gets angry and thinks I am nuts, but I feel nothing from him.

2007-11-14 07:27:55 · 27 answers · asked by Cherie 2

should we get a divorce? I love my husband i just dont know how much. we want to make it work but we fight alot and when we arent fighting im still a little miserable. Im sad alot and i feel stiffled. we have been married a year is it normal or will i feel this way for a long time? Ive been thinking about a seperation just to clear my head but im our sons primary caretaker and dont work but two nights of the week- where my husband works everyday usually from 6am to 8pm! i dont know what to do i really need a break even just a week but we cant afford have a babysitter for as long as my husband works. Any suggestions?

2007-11-14 07:27:16 · 17 answers · asked by jacksgirl711 1

I love everything else about him, and our relationship is wonderful. Sexually though, he just is not large enough to really satisfy me. He is several inches when erect. I have never had any children, and I do my Kegels regularly, so I keep myself as "fit" and "tight" down there as possible, but he still feels so small. I've never had this problem with past boyfriends. This is the one thing I just cannot speak to him about - I am sure he would feel awful....what to do? Positions? Enzyte? Do they work?

2007-11-14 07:26:53 · 20 answers · asked by sweetluv44152 1

ok, Let me start, Im married with two kids.I do all the work around the house, I clean, cook, take care of the kids all the things by myself.My in-laws live in another town but they never offer to help, plus they say bad words about me to my husband.My husband comes from work, and calls me stupid and psycho, cause Im very tired and I ask him to help me (Im nervous too sometimes or better said often, cause I dont have time for myself at all).I live in a country were divorce is "unacceptable", my family is not good economically too, so they cant take me back into their house.What should I do please, Ive got no college and no work.I just cant take care of my kids alone, and I dont want to leave them with my husband cause they are my life.

2007-11-14 07:20:12 · 9 answers · asked by Landa 2

This guy is/was interested in me. He tells me that I need to come out of my shell & like basically be wild & crazy b/c I settled into some sort of routine when I was married & I just need to get out of that. I'm shy around him though! He's hilarious & says all kinds of funny & off the wall stuff...but it's like I can't really even find words to say around him b/c I'm nervous & I know he wants the fwb thing first & then to see if it will someday be more. This guy has been around alot more than me....traveling, meeting all kinds of new people & doing crazy stuff...& me....I've been a wife the last 7 years & been taking care of my son the last 5 years...mainly on my own. How could my stories even compare to his? Not that there is anything wrong w/being a wife & mother...I'm just saying I'm sure he doesn't want to hear about all that. How do I talk more around him w/out being so nervous?...it's nerve racking b/c he knows I like him & I probably like him more than he likes me.

2007-11-14 07:19:38 · 11 answers · asked by love my life 2

My spouse and I haven't been seeing eye to eye for a couple of years now. At this present moment I am so tired of it I am ready to get a seperation. I brought this to his attention but he is like we can fix it. He is not thinking about all the other times we have tried to fix it and ending up in the same boat as now.

So i finally laid it out there on the table for all to see. I told him that I want a seperation. Now he is telling me that he is not going to give it to me. He rather for us to be in a house together misserable. He told me that he was going to make me love him again. I feel once the love is gone it is so hard to bring it back. We have grown apart. we have no simular interest or anything.

I feel that a seperation maybe best for us. How do i get him to realize my prospective on this?

2007-11-14 07:18:54 · 13 answers · asked by Happily ever after 1

I am considerting to put my profile in a Russian marriage agency, but the women look to good to be true and sometimes I think they are not real and the agency is only interested in men's money.

2007-11-14 07:17:44 · 7 answers · asked by moltolatino i 1

2007-11-14 07:11:52 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok, I'm in the middle of a divorce, and my soon to be ex and I are arguing because I have a male friend that I talk to on the phone. Me and this guy are just friends, but my soon to be ex is paranoid and thinks that I want to be with this guy. I've known my guy friend for 4 years now and I don't feel that's its right for my soon 2 be ex to ask me to stop talking to him!! I agree that I don't need to be going to his house & I don't, or be in a relationship & I'm not, or engaging in sexual relations with him & I don't plan to, but I don't feel that I should cut him out of my life just because my soon to be ex doesn't like him.

2007-11-14 07:11:50 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous

We do, and it's so nice. We never have much to say and sometimes it's short, but still nice to talk I guess. Also! lol Who's the lady on the food network, I can't remember her name. Not Paula or oh-so-anoying Giada, or the nice blonde alcoholic lady... but the other one...

2007-11-14 07:09:36 · 13 answers · asked by hmm 5