ok, Let me start, Im married with two kids.I do all the work around the house, I clean, cook, take care of the kids all the things by myself.My in-laws live in another town but they never offer to help, plus they say bad words about me to my husband.My husband comes from work, and calls me stupid and psycho, cause Im very tired and I ask him to help me (Im nervous too sometimes or better said often, cause I dont have time for myself at all).I live in a country were divorce is "unacceptable", my family is not good economically too, so they cant take me back into their house.What should I do please, Ive got no college and no work.I just cant take care of my kids alone, and I dont want to leave them with my husband cause they are my life.
2007-11-14 07:20:12 · 9 answers · asked by Landa 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like you're stuck between a rock and a hard place. If you have no other options, try to make the best of a bad situation, get more in-touch with yourself and MAKE time to do things for yourself. You first have to be happy with yourself in order for someone else to be happy with you. Put your kids first and begin to enjoy your life, you only get one, live it to the fullest! Don't let someone else bring you down, you're in control of your own destiny!
2007-11-14 07:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by I've Got My Answer 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be treated in this manner. Abuse is abuse whether it is verbal or physical. If you ever decide to get a divorce then you will be granted alimony as well as child support. That is your right. If you do not want to do that, they you may have to look into child care and take a few classes at you local community college and create your own identity within your marriage, and contribute to the house.
Whatever decision you make you have to be secure in knowing that every positive or negative action is going to equal a positive or negative reaction, so how he reacts to your decision may vary. Being that I do not know his personality enough to make that say, then you have to prepare for the worst.
Good Luck - Book coming soon "How did I get Here"
J. Fite
2007-11-14 15:31:57 · answer #2 · answered by jman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are there any support groups in your area for stay at home moms. This is most definitely not an easy job, most people take it for granted how difficult it can be to manage a household. You also need to make some time for yourself sometimes as mothers we tend to forget our own needs because we are so busy taking care of others.
2007-11-14 15:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by monique b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are your kids..maybe you should start them in preschool, so you will have some time for yourself. You can also consider lowering your standards for housekeeping if it is too much, eg cook only every other day and have leftovers or resturant food in between... hire a maid to help clean once in a while etc.
Keep in mind that the kids will get much easier to take care of as they get older and you will have to do less for them, so it will get better.
2007-11-14 17:35:04 · answer #4 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doomed. Pure and simple. Sorry....but apparently someone has to come out in life on the short end of the stick.
Only other advice? Get a passport and screw. Beat it far, far away from Dubai, Baghdad, Yemen, Kenya or whatever other hellhole you're in.
2007-11-14 15:26:24 · answer #5 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what country that you are living in, so it does make it difficult to say one way or the other what would help you. Is there any way that you could take some coarses??Are there any social agencies in your country?? All the best to you!!!
2007-11-14 15:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by winona e 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're hosed. Suck it up and wait till the kids turn 18.
2007-11-14 15:24:18 · answer #7 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Which country do you live in ? everyone gets divorced...
2007-11-14 15:28:03 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
compromise is the best solution in ur case
2007-11-14 15:24:58 · answer #9 · answered by sandeep j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋