Me and hubby have been separated now for approx. three weeks. I made him leave the household due to some issues we were having. Well to make a long story short, we made arrangement to get together to talk about our marriage. He was telling me that he missed me, what could he do to make me feel more secure in the marriage, I don't love him like I used to, etc...His relationship with" his" ex-girlfriend was the reason we separated. We were even intimate with each other (shouldn't have done it). Since I did that with him, is he waiting for me to start chasing him again. I was doing so good as far as not calling him, etc before I met up with him to discuss our marriage. He says he doesn't want a divorce, but on the other hand he says he's not coming home because he doesn't want to be put out again. Is he just playing hard so he can once again try and manipulate our marriage the way he wants it to be? Even though we were intimate and it was real passionate, I'm still not chasing.
2007-11-14 07:33:14 · 5 answers · asked by stella 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Best thing you can do is find something else to do. Don't call after him, don't look for him. He'll come around to find out why you are not insecure any longer.
2007-11-14 07:42:54 · answer #1 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, at least you realize your first mistake...sleeping with him. Really it comes down to whether or not you want to give your marriage a second chance so if you do, then there is no need to "chase" him. Simply explain that you love him and want him to come home...if he does, great. If he doesn't then leave him be because he is not being honest in his own desires. However, if he does come home you are going to have to remember NOT to throw up the past (no matter how recent) and let it go. Otherwise, it will never work out. Good Luck!
2007-11-15 09:00:38 · answer #2 · answered by mvngs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have all but destroyed your marriage.
"I made him leave..due to some issues".
I shake my head in response to this. That is very irresposible and immature.
If the both of you don't immediately see a marriage counselor to keep both of you in proper focus, and stop you from shattering this relationship, than just another statistic for the U.S.
Why not change the stats and step up to the plate. You be the one to stop playing games and manipulating him, with isolation, threats and separation.
2007-11-14 15:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You got laid. For the last time for 'old times sake'. Now get on with it and find another life without him.
2007-11-14 15:39:57 · answer #4 · answered by Quasimodo 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If chase means meeting him half-way, then yes, he's expecting you to chase him.
2007-11-14 15:39:17 · answer #5 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋