gettin divorced, he wants joint custody, i'm not so sure, how will that affect the visitation arrangements?
2007-11-14 07:34:48 · 5 answers · asked by TASTY 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
All joint custody is where BOTH parents have a say so in the upbringing of the children. You both will decide what is best like religion, schooling, health, babysitters and so on. HE still will get visitation as much as your state allows him or he can ask for more through his attorney and get the judge to ok it. So joint really doesn't affect visitation it just allows him to have a say so in his kids life.
2007-11-14 07:51:40 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on your circumstances and the relationship with your soon to be ex. From a legal side - check with your Attorney - there are multiple types of custody. Joint custody is a broad term that normally refers to joint legal and joint physical custody. But there are many variations and it depends on the laws of your state. Always go to your Attorney for the legal questions.
Now how it will affects things emotionally or interacting with your ex and child, is another story. Rarely does the legal stand have anything to do with how the situation plays out. It can either make your life a blessing or a nightmare depending on your situation. The maturity of you and your ex is really what is going to decide how custody affects visitation.
Always remember visitation/custody is about the relationship of a parent with the Child......not your relationship with the ex-spouse or theirs with you. You cannot control another actions or reactions and divorce is a volatile time. The Courts cannot control or force a person to act the way you think they should. They can uphold consequences but it's a looonnnnggg drawn out process and expensive. If your former spouse was difficult before you got divorce don't expect them to suddenly play nice after your divorce.
Only you can answer if who has custody will affect your child/s visitation and if so why?
2007-11-14 08:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by Butterfli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My childrens father and I share joint custody of our children. Like the girl said before me, it lets both parents make choices for the children. We have to agree on everything from doctors, schools, daycare, and so on. However, I have Primary custody of our children. This only means that I take care of the children for most of the time. Your visitation arrangements can stay the same as you have them now and still have joint custody. Custody and divorce cases are extremly hard. I wish you all the luck.
2007-11-14 08:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by Abby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mothers usually are granted primary custody of the children ( if she is a stable enough parent). Usually, the mother will have the babies during the week and the father gets them on the weekends. This is something to discuss with your lawyer. Ask your lawyer to argue to set comfortable visitation times for you and your ex. That's all a part of getting a divorce. You should be fair enough though to let him see his kids. Unless he is a very irresponsible person, he has every right to be in his children's life.
EDIT: I agree with the person above me. Consult your lawyer.
2007-11-14 07:42:16 · answer #4 · answered by dencur02 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your attorney. This varies from state to state. Do not seek legal advice from strangers with keyboards on the Internet.
Good luck.
2007-11-14 07:41:20 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋