My spouse and I haven't been seeing eye to eye for a couple of years now. At this present moment I am so tired of it I am ready to get a seperation. I brought this to his attention but he is like we can fix it. He is not thinking about all the other times we have tried to fix it and ending up in the same boat as now.
So i finally laid it out there on the table for all to see. I told him that I want a seperation. Now he is telling me that he is not going to give it to me. He rather for us to be in a house together misserable. He told me that he was going to make me love him again. I feel once the love is gone it is so hard to bring it back. We have grown apart. we have no simular interest or anything.
I feel that a seperation maybe best for us. How do i get him to realize my prospective on this?
2007-11-14 07:18:54 · 13 answers · asked by Happily ever after 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess I forgot to add that since we have gotten married he has not kept a job. He has not be able to take care of his family. This is the most frustrating thing out of all of this. I am the bread winner when it should be a two way street. He has no urge or intention to work. So i am left holding the bag everytime.
2007-11-14 07:30:39 · update #1
typical.....end to a marriage.
Just do what makes you happy.
2007-11-14 07:24:40 · answer #1 · answered by male.confused 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ouch, seems like I am in the same boat, and I agree, I think once you cross a certain line and the same issues do not get resolved and the love seems gone, it is gone.
Are there kids involved, in my case there is, so I will try some more, but if there was not a child, I would have already been gone.
2007-11-14 07:30:32 · answer #2 · answered by Cherie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're right, he's not thinking about the negative. YOU are!
What a shame. You have a spouse who is so willing to work things out, but you in your anger and bitterness shrug off the potential to hold on to the negative.
Sorry so brash, but YOU are the one being irresponsible and immature. Being "miserable" is a state of mind, and no one other than yourSELF can choose to be happy.
What have you done to fix and help the relationship? What are you willing to do to make it work. Stop adding to the divorce and separation rate in this country and be the wife he needs you to be.
Good grief!
2007-11-14 07:25:57 · answer #3 · answered by splashdesign238 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Seek professional help, if nothing else, get counseling for yourself so you dont revisit this place in life again. if that doesnt help the situation and you cant find common ground then, separate before ending it entirely, incase you really do love him and are to angry to see it right now.
2007-11-14 19:23:33 · answer #4 · answered by blamedforallwrongs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your fighting a losing battle. He cant accept hat its over...that is sad. but also selfish on his part.If he really loved you he should want you to be happy....he has to realise that. you have to make that clear to him...before the situation gets any worse. otherwise you will probably end up really resenting him. and vice versa. You have to move!
Good luck.
2007-11-14 07:37:50 · answer #5 · answered by sasha 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get one anyway!!!
You can get a legal separation and he won't have a choice.
Tell him sometimes working it out means to separate for a while.
Good Luck.
2007-11-14 07:47:31 · answer #6 · answered by Kaybee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes by hiring legal counsel, for your own knowledge, and to assist him in seeing your perspective.
2007-11-14 07:33:08 · answer #7 · answered by Curry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not feeling well you can always leave when he is not there!!! You don't have to stay!!! He can't keep you there!! Good Luck to you.
2007-11-14 07:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by winona e 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
So if you want to seperate, move out.
2007-11-14 09:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by growing inside 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know love is a choice.
2007-11-14 07:27:03 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
move out and not tell him where you are going or when you'll be back
2007-11-14 07:27:49 · answer #11 · answered by oh_jo123 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋