How do I tell my wife & kids I want a sex change?

Answer 1

Seek counseling immediately!

Answer 2

I don't think there is an easy way to do it. Have you gotten counselling yet? Once you're sure this is something you want to go through with, you just have to sit them down and tell them gently. I'd start by telling your wife first. She deserves to be prepared for when you tell your kids, especially if they are younger and will need some help grasping the concept. Explain why you feel this way and how long you've felt it. Then give her some time to get used to the idea and to figure out what she wants to do. If you want a divorce, this would probably be a good time to let her know. Once you're both on the same page, tell the kids.

If you're too afraid to do it in person, you might want to write a letter. That gives you time to write down all your emotions, and frame your thoughts so they make sense. Also, you won't have to worry about interruptions. Just make sure you give the letter to your wife when she has some time to adjust to the idea (ie: not on Monday morning when she's on her way to work).

Good luck!

Answer 3

Wow this is pretty serious question.First of all have you considered the effect it will have on your children lives and your wife?Do you want to continue in the marriage after the sex change?Only you can answer your own question.How old are your children?if they are old enough to understand what you are going through then they will love you no matter which road you decide to take.My opinion is a long as your children love ad except you for who you are then the rest is history.Let your wife know that you loved her and that she was a good wife and you will always love her for that.I admire you for thinking about your wife and children first.Your going to be just fine,everything will work out for you.Good luck and take care.

Answer 4

fiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiirst i would talk to a therapist cuz thats what my close friend was gonna do but she saw a therapist first and actually it turned out she just needed to vent about past problems in her life and her feelings of inadequacy and she doesnt want to change nemore. but i would tell ur wife first. sit down and talk about it and let her know its not that ur not attracted to u its just u dont feel attractive in ur body and u dont like how u feel and then go through that and start looking into the sex change before u tell ur kids cuz u dont want to tell them ur gettin it done and then cant afford it and then pretty much tell them the same thing u told ur wife but i dont think its appropriate to tell them at the same time cuz there are some things i dont wanna hear between my parents

Answer 5

Well your wife probably already have seen some signs that something is just not quite right. She has been ignoring them and hoping they will go away. If you are serious (which probably your not) you should take your spouse somewhere away from the house and tell her you have something important to tell her and tell her but let it be up to her on what to do about the kids.

Answer 6

First, please ignore the ignorant, negative and downright hateful answers you've been getting; they have no idea what they're talking about.

I can't pretend that telling your wife and family will be easy; it will probably be the hardest thing you ever have to do (it was for me), but of course it's very necessary.
I also can't promise that they'll stay with you once you do tell them; you might be lucky, but most of us aren't.

There's some links and advice here;
http://www.tsroadmap.com/family/index.html
that may help you figure out what to say and how to say it.

Good luck, hun; you can do it.

Answer 7

Before you tell them you're having the operation, perhaps first just go about telling them you're transsexual. Before you get your operation, you need at least a year on the "Real Life Test." Only after that year of living full time will you be able to get your therapist's letter to get the surgery anyway.

Answer 8

Why do you feel that you have to go through all this. You are a man and on top of that a father. You must reconsider with this decision. God does not make mistakes in his creation, he created you as a man for a purpose. By saying that you want to be a woman now is slapping God in the face. If you want to discuss this further e-mail me and I am more then will spent time with you on this. Trust me you don't want to go through with this.

Answer 9

You need to get the facts and the cost and present it to your family like a work assignment. Tell them you love them and I would tell my wife first. And if you decide to tell the children, do it together. The kids will react according your wife's, lead

Answer 10

I'm hoping this is a gag question, but will answer it just in case it's real. I know one person that had one, and trust me, he(or she now) is even more miserable than ever. No one will hire you. People getting sex changes are NOT mentally stable. No one wants to hire a mentally unstable person. Not only that, God created you male for a reason.

Answer 11

Let your wife know first and then explain it to your kids. Are you sure you are willing to risk what you have now for a different life? It will never be the same once you start living as a woman even if your family accepts your decision.