appreciate anything you did for them, complained about going on trips, would you want to leave them?
2007-11-14 08:24:53 · 16 answers · asked by kimberly k 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like your mind is already made up if you're complaining that much.
2007-11-14 08:27:20 · answer #1 · answered by John 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I'd go on strike and act the same way he did. Men are ignorant when it comes to the obvious. They take everything for granted, my husband didn't realize just how much I did until I took a week to take care of my father that was hospitalized. The house was a war zone when I came back. He was totally clueless when it came to managing a household. He had to care for our 12 year old & our 2 year old, and 4 Siberian Huskies.
The kids enjoyed it, every night they ate out or ordered in. The dogs needed baths, the house took nearly 3 days to get back in order again. He now pitches in around the house, he knows that if he doesn't contribute something he isn't going to get any. Know he knows that when I say " Not tonight, I'm tired and I have a headache " he's walked a mile in my shoes.
2007-11-14 16:34:28 · answer #2 · answered by Tigerbabe 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course anyone wouldn't want to be with someone like that but only he has the power to change and do something about it. You can make suggestions but if he won't change there's nothing that can be done. So ask him if he has the will to change his lifestyle or if you don't see him improving then chances are he won't change in the long run. Find someone who is active and shares common interest such as you. Good luck.
2007-11-14 16:36:47 · answer #3 · answered by Txgirl23 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would probably want to leave to. Sounds like your needs aren't getting met. Have you talked to him about how you feel? Let him know that he needs to spend time with you and less time on the computer.
2007-11-14 16:30:39 · answer #4 · answered by faith 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no get them some help they are more then likely depressed and help your spouse dont just leave because something is wrong marriage is forever and you should work out stuff before throwing in the towel
2007-11-14 23:45:57 · answer #5 · answered by lillystill 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most definately I'd want to leave them. but I wouldnt. NOt without a fight. YOu need to tell him everything you feel he is not doing. Tell him, what you deserve. That you love catering to him and would like some of that back. Meet half way. And give him chances to prove himself.
2007-11-14 16:34:49 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Kitty♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.
But i would communicate the issue with this person first and see if any progress is made. If the individual continued to be a lazy son of a ***** then, i think i would slap him/her to the curb.
2007-11-14 16:32:13 · answer #7 · answered by Ro 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just described my husband!! Ironically, at one point, he left me! We worked things out, but he still acts like your description except he does appreciate what I do. I had to take our 2 year old daughter to the emergency room two days ago, and he called me from his apartment (he works out of town) to say he appreciated me taking care of her - like I had a choice! He could have taken off work, drove the 1 hr and 45 min home to help me out, but that would have required effort from him.
2007-11-14 16:34:44 · answer #8 · answered by casw1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds like my inlaws my mom inlaw did that all the time even abandoing her own family
i know her reason for it all was an escape from reality her husband was flirting with other women and ignoring her needs it takes two to tango rember that
2007-11-14 16:33:46 · answer #9 · answered by Honey Badger Doesnt give a Shat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah because it sounds to me like the computer is their spouse and you are the maid
2007-11-14 16:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Katie L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋