I love everything else about him, and our relationship is wonderful. Sexually though, he just is not large enough to really satisfy me. He is several inches when erect. I have never had any children, and I do my Kegels regularly, so I keep myself as "fit" and "tight" down there as possible, but he still feels so small. I've never had this problem with past boyfriends. This is the one thing I just cannot speak to him about - I am sure he would feel awful....what to do? Positions? Enzyte? Do they work?
2007-11-14 07:26:53 · 20 answers · asked by sweetluv44152 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To add, he is wonderful at oral. He usually satisfies me that way, or I help out (manually), during sex. No, I am not a 14 yr old boy, I'm a 28 yr old woman. I just feel as if we are lacking something. I enjoy really FEELING someone inside me during intercourse.
2007-11-14 07:59:53 · update #1
I would NEVER cheat, and big toys make him feel weird. I married him because I love him, not because of his penis size. I figured, I can deal with this, he's a great guy, not someone I would want to pass up. It's just something I wish was different. My question was more or less....what to do? I know I cannot bring it up to him. Has anyone tried Enzyte? I see commericals for that a lot.
2007-11-14 08:03:29 · update #2
thank you for the responses. my vagina is not the issue! sex with other people who were average (6" or so), was usually painful and sometimes, didn't even work out. Yes, i knew about this before we married, but like i said, i did not marry a penis. I married a man whom i loved. it's just become a sexual issue - one that which I hope to get worked out....without hurting his feelings or having to use toys all the time.
2007-11-15 09:43:23 · update #3
Buy a fake one, would be my guess. I've never had this problem, personally. But I have a friend who did, and she
had to go this route, since her hubby couldn't make her orgasm.
2007-11-14 07:31:48 · answer #1 · answered by doodlebug 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Loving him is the most important thing. And if he loves you the same he will appreciate and understand his shortcomings. You shouldn't feel weird about using toys. The most important thing you should remember is it's not YOUR FAULT. It's not his fault either . It's just a fact of life. Now if he loves you he will understand and do whatever it takes to satisfy you. You have the power as a woman to say yes or no to sexual activity and he must respect that. Be honest and tell him he doesn't satisfy you completely and ask him if he loves you. When he says yes he does, then tell him and assure him you love him and that it's not his fault but you need more whether it's toys or a man who is a better lover. Assure him it's just sex and not love.
2007-11-17 18:44:45 · answer #2 · answered by smlilpkr 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I were you darling I'd be reading the Karma Sutra on sexual positions. It should help you out on the small penis front and it can also be bloody hilarious and should/could take your mind off the size of his penis.
Other ways to combat him feeling small inside you is to have sex before he gives you oral, usually your virgina relaxes too much after oral and becomes quite 'loose' (to coin a phrase).
You could also go to a Sex doctor/councillor on ways of tightening your virgina?? I have heard that they can help!
Last but not least, You could try anal??
I hope it all works out for you. You sound like a very loving and devoted women!
2007-11-14 16:36:42 · answer #3 · answered by Badass 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U r right if u tell him, he will feel some type of way! My boyfriend is not all that gifted either and prior relationships i have ran into some "big think thank god's" Lol. But he makes it work. Doggy style is a help because thats when i can honestly say it feels great and oral sex defintiely helps. If he doesn't perform that then u r in trouble. I think that u should tell him indirectly, suggest new things to him. There r plent of websites that u can google for exra help! Good Luck!
2007-11-14 15:40:47 · answer #4 · answered by Tashay 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if you refuse to communicate properly with the man who you claim you love and who you've devoted your life to, then I don't think you'll get much help--ever. You two are suppose to be in this together, right. And, obviously you're not getting your needs met , right? There are ways to communicate in a sensitive manner and there are options. I'm sure he wouldn't mind using a vibrator on you while he's pleasing you orally. So, you might have to grow up a little here.
2007-11-14 22:53:53 · answer #5 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't speak to him about it, there is not much he can do about it, except leave you. There are more ways and better ways to climax than by penetration. Explore them. Get the book "Daily Sex: 365 Positions and Activities for a Year of Great Sex!." Available on Amazon
2007-11-14 16:32:54 · answer #6 · answered by N L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should talk to him. I would appreciate it if someone took the time to tell me something like that. I love satisfying my wife and I would want her to tell me if I wasn't delivering. I think being direct is the best way, as long as you do it nicely; however, I don't know him personally-you have to determine how to approach it based on his personality. Since he loves you and wants you to be happy, and since this is really affecting you, I think it would work out if you talked to him about it.
2007-11-14 19:47:09 · answer #7 · answered by Eric W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, talking to him sure isn't going to help...maybe a penis pump? Plump him up by increasing the blood into the penis.
2007-11-14 15:31:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
kick start vibrator? jk.
If you can't talk to him that is not good. But I would suggest toys. A girl deserves hers too.
Uhhhh, guy above me several inches is like 3, average size is 6 so I'd say she needs about 3 more inches.
2007-11-14 15:34:40 · answer #9 · answered by gypsy g 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Take it from a professional: Enzyte will not help.
2007-11-14 16:06:54 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋