There are a few things that bug me daily, i wake up thinking about them, and during the day on and off, and then at night before bed. How can i get this stuff out of my head, and everytime it comes up I tell myself No, everything will be okay. Don't worry or stress over it but it's still in my head and wont go away. Have you ever thought like this to? What do you do to help yourself get over it and move on with your life so it doesn't drag you down or make your day worse...?
2007-11-14 05:47:43 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm not asking how or what to do about court, im already dealing with that stuff. Im asking how to deal with the crap he is pulling like just thinking about it all the time i try to stop but it doesnt work
2007-11-14 06:06:17 · update #1
He is a sorryass deadbeat and isnt worth another second of your thoughts. I know its hard and only time will change your way of thinging. I know trust my situation is just as bad if not worse. I have not lived with my ex in over six months and I still cant get his shittyness out of my head. Yes we have a baby only 7 months old and no he wont pay for **** but he does support his new live in gf and her 2 kids. Funny how these things torment our minds while at the same time we know they are not worth another thought. Good luck and dont worry things will change it only takes time (sometimes a long time)
2007-11-14 07:31:51 · answer #1 · answered by fantasy gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take the dead beat to court! He has a responsibility to help support those children even if he isn't a part of their lives. He brought them into the world and he should be doing his part. If he doesn't wish to spend time with them then there's not much you can do about that other then love them that much more. They will come to see him for who he really was later on. However he does have an obligation to help care for them and should be.
2007-11-14 05:56:19 · answer #2 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Take him to court. File a petition for citation of contempt and collect on the child support that he owes you. File another motion to have his visitation taken away (which should increase the amount of child support that he has to pay) because he already isn't seeing them.
Document everything- all of the weekends or days that he is supposed to get the kids and doesn't- write it down.
If you don't have the money for a lawyer- that's okay. In your petition, you can sue him for your legal fees.
Good luck!
2007-11-14 05:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You've stated a fact about your kids dad. Instead of focusing on how you wish things were different, focus on how YOU can step up to the plate and be everything your child needs. We can't change other people, only ourselves. Put the focus on your child and not this loser who was only a sperm doner. Your mind will be too busy to be bothered with it. Good luck :)
2007-11-14 05:59:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you'll never be able to make him see the kids. chalk it up to it is his loss for not being there. eventually when the kids get older, they probably won't want a thing to do with him anyways. just make your life and the kids the most wonderful they can possibly be.
as far as child support, talk to a lawyer. there's ways of forcing him to pay it without you having to get in his face about it.
2007-11-14 06:00:44 · answer #5 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like my ex. a loser. take his azz to court . it's time that your loser ex takes responsibility.
2007-11-14 05:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by rodriguez m 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I read you question but the rest just makes no sense please explain?.
2007-11-14 06:00:48 · answer #7 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋