Me and my husband are newly weds.... but we have been friends FOREVER before we got married and dated for a while... some weeks will be amazing and he will be so nice .. then the next week we are annoying eachother and getting at eachothers throats... sometimes we get in REALLY big fights then everything will be okay for a while.. then we will get annoyed with eachother agian... please let me know if this is normal or if we should do something about it.
2007-11-14 05:56:18 · 18 answers · asked by anna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No such thing as normal, it is relative. The question is, does this pattern bother either of you? If so, it comes down to lots of communication. Each time you fight, when you make up you need to talk about what caused it. You both have to be honest about your feelings at the time, was it something said or done by the other, outside influences (stress at work and such), etc. This has to be a commitment from both of you to eliminate the bad pattern. If you can uncover the starters of the fights, and be honest with yourselves as well as each other then you can overcome it. Another important key is that you are newlyweds and recognizing this. The longer you are together the harder it is to break patterns, good for you for wanting to fix it.
2007-11-14 06:06:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quite normal you are newlyweds you are not used to having someone around all the time and well you are annoying each other having to share bathroom space bed space. Probably him asking for some affection and some sex. Your newlyweds you should still be ripping each others clothes of and having wild sex everyday well this is what my wife and I did for atleast the first 2yrs. Really though if is bothering you then maybe look into counselling or atleast figure out what annoys you and tell your hubby so he know's not to do it and vice versa.
Remember marriage is completely different then a simple relationship it's hard work and devotion.
God Bless and Best Wishes.
If there is one think I can seriuosly suggest if you do not have him in your lives already find God and prayer it can really save you in the rough times.
2007-11-14 14:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Livinrawguy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol...yeah this is normal...its called marriage! sorry to say but that newlywed syndrom only lasts for so long, then real life sets in. if you argue every now and again it isn't going to kill your relationship, it may actually strengthen it. it means that you and him feel comfortable enough with each other to voice your opinions without fear of losing each other. it is a good thing, within reason. if you need, take a few hours or so to clear your head and do your own thing. then go back to each other, talk it out and move on. marriage is never going to be all fun and smooshy and loving. sometimes you want to scream and vent and feel like your significant other is going to drive you crazy. but the marriages that last can have a man that drives you crazy and man that you are crazy for all wrapped up in one. it's normal...have fun.
2007-11-14 15:08:36 · answer #3 · answered by piercing_beauty96 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is normal and honestly it might be you. Are these cycles around your period? Do you think you might have PMS? Not to put it all on you but someone just don't recognize the signs and you don't even realize how moody you get until you move in with another person. Start marking on your calender when you have fights and look at where you are in your menstrual cycle. If that's what it is, you can do things to make it not so bad.(Pamper yourself more, avoid caffeine, take meds) We had to learn this early in our marriage and knowing it is half the battle.
We've been married 16 years and I know my period is coming when I look at my husband and just know that he's retarded...lol I typically don't' think this about him so i KNOW it's me.
I don't know if that's it but its worth looking into. Good luck :)
2007-11-14 14:33:05 · answer #4 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal. I was married at 18 and the first 3-4 was hard and annoying. But, we got through it. Love is the glue that is to get you two throught this. If y'all make it through 7... you two are good. Good luck and God bless!
2007-11-14 14:01:09 · answer #5 · answered by Buttafli 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is normal. You both are adjusting living together. I am still going through that and have been married for 9 years. Nobody has a perfect marriage. Marriage is like a roller coaster it has its ups and downs.
2007-11-14 14:02:24 · answer #6 · answered by luvlisteningtomusic 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do something about it, you should have a very open relationship, communication and honesty are key, maybe he is looking for answers too, In my opinion you all should ask yourselves what annoys you about eachother... fix that and you will be alright, ignore it and it will get worse. dg
2007-11-14 14:13:34 · answer #7 · answered by Daniel G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
normal as normal can be.
make sure both of you have outlets that are outside of your marriage. like regular boys night, girls night, anything that gets you both from thinking you have to spend all free time together. you need interests and/or hobbies that do not have to involve the other person. it's for everyone's sanity!
2007-11-14 14:11:13 · answer #8 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds normal to me unless these fights are over little stuff. You two are so comfortable with each other. maybe it is time to grow up. just walk away instead of arguing over everything. that really helps because to me it is not worth it anymore
2007-11-14 14:00:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to work on communication. Talk about the things that annoy you, use "I Feel _________ when" statements. A person can't do anything about something that bothers you if you don't let them know they are doing it.
2007-11-14 14:04:22 · answer #10 · answered by beachmtgal 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋