Am I the only one who thinks it is wrong to have a divorce party? I don't mean a few friends - I mean a huge bash like a bachelorette party - sometimes even with strippers and hooking up with strange guys. It seems (I could be wrong) to be only women who have these.
I understand the sense of relief when the process is finally finished, but the fact is - they are celebrating a DIVORCE. A divorce is the failure of people's love, hopes, and dreams. A failure to make it work. A failure to keep the vows and a failure of your promises of "till death do us part".
It would hurt me terribly if, heaven forbid, my husband and I divorced and he "celebrated" it - celebrated his permanent separation from the woman he held, loved and cherished all those years. I would never do that to him, even if he did awful things to me that caused me to divorce him.
When you are divorcing, yes - you move on. But you do so with wisdom and maturity, I hope, and not spite and resentment.
Agree?
2007-11-14 05:51:48 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Is the glass 1/2 empty or 1/2 full? It's not the end of love - it's the beginning of a new chapter in life. It's all about persective. Besides, some people party just to party. I had my tonsils removed - party! I finished painting the house - party! I got my appendix out - PARTY!
2007-11-14 05:57:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anakin 5 · 1⤊ 3⤋
Welcome to the real Girl's Club! Men have known about it for years. I would agree with you except usually it IS women who wish to make some kind of final statement after such things. As if divorce is a victory rather than a personal failure. And in some cases they deserve to have their day. But in most cases most guys usually just want out, they want to forget, and still have the ability to move on with their life unencumbered. I guess women feel a sense of accomplishment, and therefore a need to celebrate their victory.
Childish I think. And their lack of maturity only enhances the lawyers pockets! But why would they care? It's usually not them who pays the lawyer!!
2007-11-14 06:07:11 · answer #2 · answered by solo_powered_boatie 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tend to agree - I've never understood this type of behavoir. I could see going out with a couple of friends and getting sh*t faced off my *ss, but I would NEVER throw a big party to "celebrate" such a thing.
It would be like throwing a party for someone's death, instead of a funeral? Doesn't make sense to me. A tasteful gartherring to celebrate a persons life, yea OK - I get it - but a big bash ?!?!?
The whole divorce party is the same to me.
I think its mostly women that do this - I don't know of many guys that throw a party like this.... maybe because "SHE" has all his $$$ now and she uses it to throw the party ?
2007-11-14 06:00:32 · answer #3 · answered by aa889d 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I feel the same way, I can understand divorce as I had to divorce my ex. However to celebrate the fact of having to do it, all I could think of was the time lost, the emotional stress on our children which I took custody of, and how she could have been that way. Celebrate? No I didn't and personally no matter how bad a marriage is I can see being thankful of it being over and moving on but no I don't think it deserves a celebration.
2007-11-14 05:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Ghostwriter1959 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
i would say that depends on the circumstances of the divorce. to some it's a HUGE relief.
for instance, if she was being routinuely abused in any way, and finally got a divorce and can move onto a better life for herself, she ought to be able to celebrate that.
personally i find it a bit morbid. i'm going through a divorce now and i have no plans of throwing myself a party. but i could bet that my soon to be ex's mistress will be throwing on for him.
2007-11-14 06:07:24 · answer #5 · answered by celticbuddha 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hear you loud and clear today 11/14/2007 my divorce is over after 33 years, I'm going to party with some of my close friends, that's four party's lined up right now for me more to come all low key nothing crazy. As I wrote earlier, do not judge me till you walk in my shoes.
2007-11-14 06:23:46 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I disagree. I think it depends on the circumstance of the divorce. I had a freedom party...I was free from the physical and emotional abuse that I had put up with for 15 years. My ex-wife knew that I wouldn't hit her back so she would cut me, hit me with bottles, you name it. The police did nothing but laugh at me until she shot me. I sued the city for failure to protect (I won.) She got probation because she had "no record."
2007-11-14 06:06:17 · answer #7 · answered by Older Guy 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Yes - I agree with your opinion.
Although some "divorce" people really feel awful about what happened and I think this is their one-way to forget the problem even just for a while.
I am guessing the ex might be hurt with this but its part of forgetting and recovering the fast.
I think it is just a matter of how we interpret stuff.
2007-11-14 05:59:19 · answer #8 · answered by brittanique 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not? Everyone's adults, right? As long as I don't have to buy the ex-bride and ex-groom a gift, count me in. Hey, brides get to have their party (the wedding) so why shouldn't guys have THEIR parting-party?
Failure? Heck no. They're moving on with their lives. Let the champagne flow! Bravo for them!
2007-11-14 06:24:01 · answer #9 · answered by Level 7 is Best 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Good for you! I got only 520 x) I gave over 2000 stars tho :P
2016-05-23 03:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋