Should a divorce be for anything besides abuse and/or cheating?

Answer 1

I say No marriage is sacred isn't it??? Its a real life commitment and you work throught problems and you hold on till times get better. If you get a divorce for ay other reason than those two u shouldn't have got married inthe first place and you have very poor judgment and a low level of commitment therfore don't do it again stay single shack up butnever get married again

Answer 2

I'm sort of amazed at how many people go directly to the 'bible' for their answer on this. Are that many people unable to think for themselves? Anyway, I kind of agree that most people take the easy way out with this. If there's abuse, or cheating, then those are probably reasons for divorce that cannot be worked out. Falling out of love is a little vague...perhaps those people shouldn't have gotten married in the first place if it was that easy to fall out of love. Many problems can be worked out between two parties who want to do the hard work and actually care about saving a marriage. However, it's usually easier to just call it quits. And since it's legal, who's to say they can't do it.

Answer 3

I think that while both parties should make an effort to save the marriage, sometimes people just change too much. I think that the high divorce rate in this country is because people get married too early and without knowing their partner for long enough. You can't marry someone if you haven't known them for longer than you've been wearing your current pair of shoes!

I think that some couples just grow apart, and when they are forced to uphold a marriage where there is no love at all, it just causes pain and frustration especially where kids are involved. I think that sometimes a divorce is better than staying together.

Answer 4

Yes, I believe people should be able to get divorced for any reason they choose. Whether it is the best decision is not always clear. One study has shown that people who end up getting divorced are not necessarily happier 5 years later. But that's just one study.

Personally I think that two things can happen: people can choose the wrong partner to begin with, and/or people can change and grow apart. To say that you must remain with someone who is no longer compatible, emotionally, sexually, or in whatever dimension is important to you, means that marriage is no longer an active choice ... even if you stay in a marriage.

Answer 5

Well, Divorce is a really BIG word. You must think thoroughly before divorce.
Cheating and abuse are reasons for divorce, but not the only reasons. Some couples just dont get along, it my be either because of educational differences/gaps, social gaps, mental gaps ... anything similar.
But if you have kids, then you will have to think of the below points
1. Is it better to divorce - will it be better for them in the future? will it prevent any complexities in their personalities?
2. Is it better to wait until they are a bit older, in order for them to know the truth, to stay in touch with both parents.

at the end of the day, you are the one who can decide whether life with your spouse is possible or not! but PLEASE think thoroughly. you can even list the -ve and +ve things about your spouse and try to compare

Answer 6

What's the point of forcing two people to live together that have no desire to live together anymore?

Are you also the arbiter of exactly how many kids they can have? Like two is okay, but you should prohibit them from having 3?

Personally, I think that people rush too fast into getting married without knowing just what they expect from the marriage, but I'm not the Great Educator of all these people. Plus, they need to figure out on their own, eventually, how to manage their own lives.

With all that, basically, I think people should be able to divorce because American Idol got cancelled that night if that's their reason.

Answer 7

People have to do what they have to do, I was mentally and physically abused for 31 years, I could go on and on with everything wrong he did while we were married, but as of today, I'm finally divorced we were married for 33 years, this divorce took 26 months to wrap up, and now I'm free from him.

Answer 8

Yes. If you are completely miserable there is nothing wrong with a divorce. And don't forget that abuse can come in any form -- if a spouse constantly puts the other spouse down then that's also abuse.
However, before deciding on that -- try counseling.

Answer 9

When I was a child my parents fought all the time. I was miserable because the home was just not a happy place to be. If anyplace should feel good to be, it should be your own house. But a child cant be happy if their parents are always miserable. My parents FINALLY divorced after 17 years, but by then I was a screwed up, angry kid...Fortunatley I grew out of it but I wish they would have divorced a lot sooner than they did.

Answer 10

Some people discover they just don't like marriage. Some people grow apart. It is legal to get a divorce for any reason under the sun. Are you actually asking if it is ethical or moral.??? Everybody's take on that is different. It is whatever you believe is right because you make up your own belief system.