2007-11-14 06:31:28 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because it was special and magical for both of us. We both experienced each other at the same time and it was the most wonderful...
Yeah, I'm bulls***tin ya.
2007-11-14 06:37:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anakin 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
Well I think it is a nice idea. Neither of us were virgins when we got married but made a decision to wait for that step when we got married. Maybe a little weird to some folks but it worked well for us.
I think more than anything it allowed our relationship to grow solidly and not have sex as the center focal point. That is what happens to a lot of people when they have sexual relationships - it becomes just that - sexual relationship, not a deep meaningful one.
So if anything the best aspect is really becoming friends, becoming close on different levels that some people may not get to because they have sex first then expect everything else to come after that - when really it should be the other way around.
2007-11-14 14:44:31 · answer #2 · answered by MorningStar 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Many people save their sexual innocence for marriage because of their religion. Other people do it because they feel their virginity is special and they want to save it for their life partner. Another reason is because people feel that relationships work better if you get mentally/emotionally attached before you have sex.
2007-11-14 14:49:41 · answer #3 · answered by Amanda R 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people just prefer to do so. It's a special thing to experience and they want to share that with the person they love. It really is a great feeling to know that the person saved themselves just for that right person.
Some people think viginity is not a big deal, just like they think sex isn't a big deal. Others just do.\
My husband and I are not religious, but we were both virgins. It's also fun experimenting and learning with each other.
2007-11-14 14:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by Tiffany F 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Hmm. Well both my fiance and I have saved ourselves, and if people don't understand or want to "judge" us on that fine. Our decision was between us and God.
Religion aside, I believe having sex before marriage ultimately leads to bad decisions 99% of the time. Growing up I've seen girls get pregnant, fall in love with boys who promised they "loved" them, or wait around years for a man to propose when in fact he already had a little "wifey" at home.
There are so many women who complain "Why won't my man marry me?" Unfortunately, that saying "Why buy the cow when the milk is free" is true.
For those that don't want to wait till marriage, that is there perogative. I just wish people who don't wait wouldn't judge those that do, and visa verse.
Good luck.
2007-11-14 14:42:35 · answer #5 · answered by kiki 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
I did because I believe sex outside of marriage is like too much chocolate cake. It might taste good but, it's not going to be healthy in the long run. I think rules are here to protect our hearts and our bodies. I don't throw rocks at those who didn't wait, I'm just happy I did.
2007-11-14 15:02:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Neither my wife nor I was a virgin when we met. We have been married for 21 years now, and are quite happy with one another. That said, please read the answer written by kiki a few places above this, because she is 100% correct. My wife and I, I feel, beat the odds and got lucky. Kiki is the one playing the odds the right way.
2007-11-14 14:55:30 · answer #7 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For several reasons...
1. If I was not a virgin, I would have no right to expect a virgin. But because I am a virgin, I have every right to expect a virgin.
2. Pre-marital sex is a sin.
3. My future-wife won't have to worry about me comparing her to other girls in sexual performance and size. Likewise, I own't have to worry about her comparing me to other guys in sexual performance and size.
4. No feelings of sorrow, inferiority, insecurity and jealousy for us both.
5. We both will get that special satisfaction in knowing that we were each other's first.
6. Our love will be even more special because we had only each other sexually.
2007-11-14 14:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 9⤊ 0⤋
my husband and i both did. for us, it was a deep religious faith that pre-marital sex is a sin. but there are a lot of logical reasons as well. statistically, marriages last longer when you wait- not sure why, but they do. also there is great comfort in a marriage when you two have only "known" each other. there is no worry that you are being compared to someone else and no sad feelings that there have been others. it is very nice to know that what you share is just between you two.
*edit* all of my friends growing up but two waited as well. we do still exist- i don't regret it either. you might not find a future spouse that waited if you look in a bar for dates, but there are definite ways to date other people who share your beliefs- whatever they are
2007-11-14 14:36:38 · answer #9 · answered by DotWarner 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Because thats only for one person...my husband. Wouldnt you feel guilty and horrible if you had done things with other people first? I'm going to love my husband for the rest of my life and I want all my love to be just for him.
2007-11-14 15:12:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is an act that is very intimate. The fact that my wife has only shared it with me makes it mean so much more. I also never have to worry about disease a previous partner might have given her, or myself.
2007-11-14 14:43:24 · answer #11 · answered by hawkeye316 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋