Hi there, i have been married for three years . First of all everything was so perfect but now it feels like i had made the biggest mistake of my life. He's so different and though i had been to counselling so many times, he does not care. It will work for at least a week but then , the old story. He's ok in his own world and it's only me asking for love all the times. He can live without sex forever. He does not care at all.
The good things about him is he does all the household chores. but i need a real man. I don't know what to expect , well i don't expect anything because three years was enough . I need help because i can't go on like that.
I went away for 2 or 3 times, then he will beg me to come promising me that he'll change but he's such a boring person.
2007-11-14 05:59:15 · 8 answers · asked by jessica 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The truth is that you are not suited to each other-blming each other is irrelevant jut aceppt it will never work, get the divorce and move on.
2007-11-21 05:00:44 · answer #1 · answered by Very happily married. 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Screw talking to him. Three years of heartache is more than this man deserves. When I should have gotten divorced I came on here and asked people what they thought, everyone said oh just work things out. WRONG. It is time to move on. You are reaching out for help here from strangers and a lot of the strangers on here are jerks, idiots and christian fanatics. SO that means a small percentage of people will have any background or experience in dealing with your situation, but at least they're trying to help. You need to flush this proverbial hampster down your toilet honey. I am sending you positive thoughts and energy. The only thing that is hard about divorce is trying to pay all the bills yourself, but you have to realize this, I didn't do this before and it would have been great. Things need to happen in an order. 1- get him moved out immediately and don't worry about anything else including bills or whatever. 2- then worry about finding a job, whatever it is you need to do to live on your own. 3- file for divorce (it's just a paper) 4- sit back, relax, and enjoy!
2007-11-14 14:13:32 · answer #2 · answered by hmm 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It matters little about the possible causes and all the "whys" listed here on Y!A. What matters is that it is YOU who feel the need! I would say this is not a good life for you and you ought to leave it and find another. And while some would say that it is easy for me to say, please understand, I was married for 28 years (to the same woman! and we had kids) but I lived thru a dis-similar kind of thing and had to just leave. Had I stayed I would have been totally miserable. And knowing myself as I do I'm sure I would have spread that misery around!! I've met many good ppl in my "new life" and it has had its share of ups and downs, but I'm a better person... for me! And just so you know, time does heal the heart. It's not easy and it won't happen over-night but you WILL get over this.
2007-11-14 14:20:43 · answer #3 · answered by solo_powered_boatie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i am sorry to say that after three years,you should not find him boring,if he does all the household chores,what does he beg you to come back for?i cant see that he is very happy either! he should have told you he just wanted to get married for the companionship! you need to start again. be happy,we haven't got much time in this world as it is! gud luck hun
2007-11-14 14:11:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband doesnt want sex? Well he's either a very cold man, or he's getting it somewhere else or he's harbouring secret homosexual leanings in my opinion.
If you petition for divorce its going to be on the grounds of irreconcilable differences.You deserve to be loved. You deserve affection, and It isnt fair to go the rest of your life without it. Find a man who makes you happy, and good luck!
2007-11-14 14:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to tell you this, but this guy will not change, I too heard it all, I understand what you are saying, boy do I ever, he never changed in 31 years, guess what happened next for me I filed for the big "D", mine did nothing to help me nothing this went on for 31 years, I'm older BUT.....WISER !!!!
2007-11-14 14:12:19 · answer #6 · answered by kim t 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You really have to talk to him and tell him your feelings.
Sounds like you both need to see marriage counsellors.
You must have loved him in the beginning because you wouldn't have married him otherwise would you?
2007-11-14 14:05:16 · answer #7 · answered by julie 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he will never change, so you either put up and shut up or move on with your life. easier said than done though.
2007-11-14 14:04:07 · answer #8 · answered by bellefemme 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋